Same here. For about a year I wavered, even to the point of joining Weight Watchers (again). I’m still a member but as of lately I have no intention of losing any weight, but rather, looking forward to gaining more. I’ve come to love being fat and how I look. Whereas after an orgasm I used to lose the desire to be fat, now I’m comfortable with it 24/7.

I joke about being fat. I call myself “Fatboy” openly, I grab my belly and say I worked hard for this, I have t shirts that have sayings like “Living the chubby bearded life”, “If you’re into chubby bearded guys then, hello”, “Chubby guys cuddly better”, and a few others. I’m openly proud of being fat, and people know it. So the answer to the o.p. is no, I don’t feel any pressure to indicate I’m unhappy.

I alternate between them, depending on my mood. I’m bipolar and at times I need to be left alone. Other times I’m the life of the party, as long as it’s a fairly small party.

I’m a gainer myself and been weightlifting since 1993, eventually training powerlifting. I still workout but not like I used to due to a lumbar fusion and rotator cuff surgery.

That’s my test too. It’s called cummer’s remorse. In the beginning of gaining after I shot I’d say this isn’t for me, I’m not like this, etc. Now after I finish I’m still happy being fat and getting fatter.

If gainer material is SFW I don’t think they’ll take that down. I’ve found some great fat-guy pics that are PG.

I don’t consider this site, grommr, xtube, tumblr and the like to be cheating unless you follow through with something more than internet chatting or masturbating to porn or other fantasy.

I’m not sure I even consider raunchy sexting cheating as long as both parties know it’s only fun fantasy and will never go further. However, I think the line is crossed with cam2cam, Skype (or whatever it’s called) masturbation. Grommr members are notorious for wanting to wank on camera. My own profile says I don’t do it, don’t want to, can’t do it, so don’t bother asking.

I’m there and here to talk about something we can’t ordinarily talk about irl. In fact a couple of guys I chat with on Grommr said to me first they just want to talk about weight gain, food, clothes.

I can only relate to me, so here goes...

1. Lumbar fusion that limits my flexibility and ability to do physical things.

2. A bipolar/migraine med I take that my doc acknowledges makes me gain weight.

3. “It happens” as I shrug my shoulders.

4. I like to eat.

Folks, this wavering is extremely common, especially in the beginning of gaining. I’ve gone through it myself several times, even to the point of joining WW again.

Then I start gaining again, like what I see and feel, get disgusted and diet, get fat again, rinse repeat. It could be several times over several years it happens. Only after almost 3 1/2 years of the roller-coaster am I happy to be fat and plan to stay this way.

I may just gain a little more and maintain maybe I’ll keep going. I call myself “Fatboy” all the time, even with coworkers. I make references to my belly, my weight and being fat because I like it now.

It’s whatever you feel comfortable with.

I still weight lift but not as heavy as I used to. I don’t do cardio anymore though I like outdoor walks in nice weather. I’m not dieting anymore and not going to lose the weight. I’m looking to gain a bit more. I’m 5’6” and 230 lbs now, my short term goal is 235. Maybe 240-245 as long as I can still wear my clothes. I can’t afford anything new. But I’m a fat guy and I like being fat, and I like who I am.