I feel like that a lot too. But at least I try to make the most of it by trying to go out of the house more, as well as spending time with people of value to me. Plus I’m also an amateur content creator, so that kinda gives me some sort of purpose.
1 year
As a fat admirer, we do have our share of stigma. Not as often compared to someone who is overweight, but it does happen sometimes. Especially when people who use labels like “delusional” or “cringe” because of what we are into.
Now for me personally I try to surround myself with friends who treat everyone equal. So far the people I told who I trusted enough that I like larger women haven’t made a big fuss about it. So yay me! Plus things are a lot more easier for me to be open about it than it was before, especially thanks to the work from fat activists and the representation around.
But unfortunately there’s still that large crowd of conservatives and/or criticism that have been bashing plus size positivity now more than ever. Even when they use someone who’s dying (or already dead) from complications of obesity as a weapon up their sleeves! It’s makes things worse if it’s someone who was an activist or an influencer.
Hell, it’s probably one of the reasons why body positivity/acceptance has dwindled down lately. That, and maybe it’s also because some of people’s favourite activists aren’t really plus size no more. Take Adele or even Whitney Thore for example. Well maybe I’m over exaggerating a bit but yeah… the representation isn’t as relevant as it used to be.
It really can be quite the upsetting reality that people like me has to deal with. Like I know that I’m not THAT stupid! I’m very well aware that obesity isn’t always the healthiest, but at the same time people should live life in the moment now matter what’s been going on. However I try not to dwell on the matter so much, as well as not letting it stop me from liking who I find attractive.
But hey that’s just what I think, and what I have been going through as of late.
1 year
I’m sorry that you had to go through that. As a matter of fact I have feel victim to this as well, and trust me it’s not a very great place to be in when you ended up getting taken advantage of.
As much as plenty of people who come to the Feederism community to find their chubby princess/prince of their dreams, and I do wish them all (even myself) luck! But however it is also a business. There are those who showcase themselves as a way to promote their “modelling brand” and do whatever to make a bit of a profit, even if that means soliciting off of people. In other words they wouldn’t care about your feelings unless you are sending them funds so they can continue making content and/or pay bills.
But they don’t let this get you down, because they are plenty of people out there in the community who are nice enough to be friends with you! But do be careful with who that you talk to online because you knew know for who used the internet for.
And hey man, it is very difficult to find people in your life who are just as interested in Feederism as you are. I’ve been there before once. But hey sometimes you just gotta accept the hardships and keep going. I do personally hope that you’ll find your special someone!
1 year
Kacchan:
I can understand the contrast between celebrating "being" versus celebrating "becoming".
I've always thought that Fat Positivity was about accepting fatness as a beautiful state of being - that someone can be fat and attractive, which stands in contrast to the incorrect social bias that fat is unwanted, unattractive, or unsexy. I LOVE the body positivity movement, because I truly believe that fat is sexy as hell, and that a person should not be judged, discriminated against, or made to feel "less than" just because of their size. It should be about the notion that you ARE beautiful right now in your fat body, and that you do not need conform to someone else's idea of the "preferred size".
I see feederism a little differently, in that I also celebrate the sexiness of transformation - that a person can be sexy in a different way when they are in the process of getting FATTER. It needs to be consensual, and it needs to be not about the demand of the feeder but about the journey of the feedee making an intentional choice to alter themselves because THEY like it (not because someone else wants it for them).
I don't see these two as exclusive or incompatible, though. I believe that you can find someone sexy both as fat AND as getting fatter.
But - to earlier points made - if someone defines feederism as a sexual expression of control/power and that it objectifies a feedee rather than celebrates an empowered and intentional choice, then yes - I can see why our community would be viewed negatively.
It becomes our obligation to empower our feedees and make the feederism community about empowering someone to choose to become fatter because they desire it, not because they have to "get fatter for us".
This was a bit more wordy than I originally intended - hope it makes sense!
I think that is was well said! Though I think that body positivity is far more than just for plus size people. It can also be for people of conditions, and other disabilities!
1 year
Munchies:
There is a lot of fatphobia in this community too. Even OP has admitted to such in another post. So it's not fair to say we are body positive as a whole. Also, a lot of feedists talk about fat people in dehumanizing ways - especially those deemed too fat or too small.
Yeah I could see that too. I’ve never thought that (most) feedists are part of body positive to begin with.
1 year
Well as much as many of us wish to have a the fat princess/prince or our dreams. Keep in mind that this fetish is also a business too. So do socialize around here at your own risk.
But hey there’s nothing wrong with saving up on money. For your daily expenses and to pay off college stuff. 👍
1 year
Sure I definitely have had moments where I watched some women adjusting her jeans only to show off their belly briefly as they were readjusting their shirt.
Or there was one time at work when I was helping out some lady in her 50s (I think) who had quite a bit of tummy. And when I was all done loading her stuff, she took care of tying everything up and I was able to see her belly button while reaching upwards. It was a moment where I had a spark of excitement. 😅
1 year
It’s a tough thought about it. But I can understand the frustration out of your post. And as an FA it can be stressful to hear and see such things. When stuff like fat acceptance and/or body positivity is in questioned right now.
Keep in mind the Feederism is one of those fetishes that is VERY taboo outside of our community and into the rest of the world. Sometimes even other plus size communities have Feederism frowned upon.
From my experience when we have the two worlds of both acceptance AND a fetish linked together, it is kinda a bad look for things in a larger space. Especially towards others who are on the more conservative spectrum are against extreme sexuality.
But hey that’s my take on it.
1 year
I think for me personally, it came from my deep attractiveness towards bellies. I mean my username speaks for itself! 😅
Now when I was younger I’ve always found a spike of sexual excitement with belly buttons. But then it evolved to the whole belly, and then when I got my awakening from finding out that chubbier bellies were a lot more better. Then I started paying more attention to that too.
Eventually the more big belly content I was seeing, Feederism did came around naturally. Especially when I became a full time Fat Admirer.
Now I’m not into Feederism as a kink anymore as I used to (after too much bad experiences). But I still do love a belly that’s well stuffed or bloated every once in a while.
1 year
MrOverstuffed:
I just wanna mention our girl Mochii Babii was publicly hated and shamed on youtube by a youtuber that had a superior number of subscribers. Swolenormous is his name, and omfg I've never felt such anger for how awful that is! This man abused his audience and power as a creator to harass some girl on the internet who just loves to eat a lot and show off the body she's making. He even said he almost threw up, not to mention the comments are littered with hatred for her, saying shes disgusting and shit.
I don't get it! Hate is never appreciated, accepted, or wanted! Just because someone isn't living YOUR healthy lifestyle does not mean it's bad. These people are delusional and spread so much hatred that she left youtube. It's awful.
I also just left a comment on that stupid video defending our girl. She's far from disgusting, what's disgusting is that humanity accepts making someone feel like they should kill themselves because they have fat on their body, EVEN IF THEY JUST GAVE BIRTH!! Like WTF!!
(Sorry, I'm really angry about all of this)
Hey you’ve got every right to be frustrated about it. I mean this is why I’ve been getting so much anxiety lately almost every time I log into YouTube.
1 year
