Enas:
If you live in the suburbs, learn permaculture and plant stuff that you can eat!
Munchies:
This might be American specific, but if you live in an HOA, check the bylaws first, and get it in writing. I have seen cases where someone decides to plant a garden only for the HOA to pelt them with daily fines until the garden is gone.
Aaah! The wonderful american freedom!
10 months
If you live in the suburbs, learn permaculture and plant stuff that you can eat!
10 months
Ive come to love learning. My main interests are political economy, sociology, philosophy.
I also want to figure out how to make educational videogames. And by that i mean, how can i get a typical player (which -as a game developer- i will rightfully characterize them as an idiot) to think in ways that they have never done before & have no idea of. For example, i would like to be able to make someone who is obsessed with FPS games, kind of exclusively, to be able to think about reality in systemic terms. In other words to make him able to explain things that happen in the real world as byproducts of our society.
I also want to people to examine in a materialistic way their own beliefs. Most notably, the idealistic belief held by a lot of people that “if you believe in it hard enough, you will get it!” Instead i would want to make them able to go through a process of critisizing their dreams (to see if theyre justified) and then to make a plan in order to actually achieve them!
I really want to make people think, with the games id like to make! And that requires me to basically understand the psychology of it.
And by the way, my biggest passion is to debate all of these things! If youve been around, youll propably notice that i cant stop trying to do it! 😆
(Im always down to debate, so long as the other person doesnt disregard my arguments simply because they would otherwise can shatter their beliefs.)
10 months
Bbwchaser21:
Should there be list of known users that do this? Just asking really, seems it's so common
That would require too much maintenance, people would just make new accounts to evade it.
10 months
ChubuffElly:
Hio, I'm very anxious to write about this but here we go.
For a very long time now I have had difficulty with my own body image. I love gaining, the lifestyle and I'm definitely happier but.
When browsing on here or whereever else I can't stop comparing, pinching and padding myself down. I know this might be a general problem but I was not sure if it fit there since it is very much fat related. Being trans might also add negatively to the issue. I'm worried that no matter how much or where I put on weight it's not going to be enough.
Has anyone else felt this way and has some advice on how to ameliorate this terrible mindset?
Munchies:
I'm not trans, but I have body dysmorphia. For those who don't know what that means, it's when you have a distorted view of what you look like. Mine isn't so bad right now, but it used to be terrible.
I used to be underweight due to having a health issue. I hated how I looked, so I started gaining. However, even when my scale and clothes told me I put on weight, I kept seeing my old underweight body. On top of all that, I was in an abusive situation and couldn't get therapy.
What worked for me was standing naked in front of a mirror and telling myself something I liked about my body. I kept it up until I liked what I saw most days.
Munchies i didnt know you suffer from it, im really sorry to hear that :c
I see that you have developed a coping mechanism to deal with it. I thought that perhaps i could help you with sharing some material relevant to it. I havent read them fully (looked the first pages of them) but i think they might prove helpfull because i saw they examine it from a psychoanalytic point. And psychoanalysis is what is needed here more than anything.
(i hope the Links work this time!)
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10 months
Ex Jock:
It’s really hard to find a feedee. I think that’s why so many of us go from feeder to gainer; to become our own feedee out of lack of options, but still wanting to act out the kink
I doubt thats how it works. Speaking about me, i considered myself a feeder. It was (and still is somewhat) a big turn on to see really fat women's bellies so i was definetely one! But nontheless i kind of remember myself when i was even younger that i didnt care much about women but rather myself! I would stuff my bkanket in my clothes at night for example, but that was very early on! I dont know what made me turn into a feedee but during that period i never cared about getting fat myself! I even exercised a lot (because i like body contrast).
I think the situation is far more complex than this. I dont think we are feeders & feedees as clear roles etc, even if it appears as such. The situation seems far more chaotic. Its not like you will find what you really are if you "look deep inside". What you think you are is constantly fabricated, in a way, which is the only possible way this part of us can exist, i think.
10 months
Lbd4:
Someone recommended the character ai psychologist as an opportunity to clarify their own feeling about this fetish. I talked to it about my own kinks and it was trying to convince me to gain weight and eat a lot even though those aren’t solid goals I have for myself. It was pretty convincing. I think you have to want the thing that’s on offer.
There’s also enough of an uncanny valley that you never forget that there’s no body the words are being filtered through. I’m intrigued by AI. I think when we get scared by these things and retreat to our caves mumbling ‘fire bad’ we give up power to the curious and flexible. They are tools not overlords…don’t relinquish your brain to it.
Primitivism is obviously not the path forward, i agree with that. But at the same time, things like these:
uniontrack.com/blog/union-busting are real. In fact i doubt it can get more dystopian than this. In these cases, fear is well justified.
10 months
Morbidly A Beast:
I’m not sure what any of this dom sub stuff is to be frank either way dom or sub for me would be for my partners enjoyment. If dom feedee means being kingly or something like that i could make it work
Munchies:
It's all about power play. A dom(me) is the dominant one, while the sub is the submissive one. Of course, there's no one way to be dominant or submissive. Being dominant can mean acting like royalty, but not necessarily
Sadistic doms get off on causing pain. Pleasure doms prefer to give their subs as much pleasure as possible. Daddy doms act more parental. There are scores more, but you get the idea.
Enas:
Pleasure doms... Ive never come across the term!
Im curious, if a pleasure dom is extreme enough, does it become at some point, practically sadistic?
Munchies:
It depends. A pleasure dom(me) is all about making their sub feel good. If the sub is into masochism, then they may inflict pain or torture their sub with pleasure (think forced orgasms). But if a sub isn't into that, then the pleasure dom(me) won't do it.
Think of it like the sub sinking into subspace while the pleasure dom(me) focuses on making them feel good.
Forced orgasms are super hot to me! 😆
Also, what is that subspace? Is it a trance?
10 months
Morbidly A Beast:
I’m not sure what any of this dom sub stuff is to be frank either way dom or sub for me would be for my partners enjoyment. If dom feedee means being kingly or something like that i could make it work
Munchies:
It's all about power play. A dom(me) is the dominant one, while the sub is the submissive one. Of course, there's no one way to be dominant or submissive. Being dominant can mean acting like royalty, but not necessarily
Sadistic doms get off on causing pain. Pleasure doms prefer to give their subs as much pleasure as possible. Daddy doms act more parental. There are scores more, but you get the idea.
Pleasure doms... Ive never come across the term!
Im curious, if a pleasure dom is extreme enough, does it become at some point, practically sadistic?
10 months
Enas:
Well, you pose a question that if taken litteraly, is not very helpfull. Odds are, with so many people, given that there is a variety of, there are definetely people who can be described, or at least are similar to the description you gave.
(Thats not a very helpfull question to ask, because its something that anyone can figure out on their own, no need to ask this specific question to other people, etc)
Im suspecting, however that youre trying to get to a different point however, like... How common are they, or how to uproach them maybe. Am i correct on this?
Femme Calories:
That would be correct.
I recomend you to search for feedee authors of stories that contain a dom feedee and maybe even a sub feeder!
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