Enas:
Thats actually a weird situation im in, i wanna be as healthy as possible while really fat and really weak physically, at least in the ways that matter to my ability to move. Is it possible to get exercise without raining muscles in legs or arms (And focusing on the heart and lungs instead)? Would that be possible and helpfull?

SumoSized:
Thats definitely understandable. If you just want to do cardio I'd recommend using the stationary bike since that way you can remain seated and it relieves tension from your joints (I've also heard good things about swimming in that regard but I'm not really a big swimmer). I still like to advocate for some amount of weight lifting. And for beginners I like to recommend goblet squats just so you can learn to get the form correct with low weight but as you get more advanced I've had good luck with Bulgarian split squats and the leg press.

Also I can tell you from experience, if you've finished an especially big workout and just finished a big meal, you will feel so sore and heavy you can't move for a few hours so you can stay healthy and still feel immobile

Munchies:
It's not possible to be very fat, be weak, but still maintain good heart health. The weaker your body is, the harder your heart has to work. The body isn't something that exists in a vacuum.

There's a reason why a lot of bigger people are also pretty strong. It takes a lot of strength to lug all of that bulk around - especially if you are healthy.

Enas will have to make a choice. No other way around it.

SumoSized:
So I strongly believe everyone regardless of if they're going for a muscle chub look or just straight up fat, should try implementing some amount of exercise into their routine.

Canuck:
i think this is good advice. i went cold turkey off of exercising when i started to gain, and now - several years later and a few hundred pounds heavier - i am really struggling to get back into it. but one of the other side effects of starting to exercise again has been that i sleep much more soundly!

Munchies:
I'm rootin for ya!

A lot of people stop exercising when they commit to gaining. And I get the logic. It's a great way to put on pounds. But that is one of the most foolhardy things you can do - especially if you are an extreme gainer.

Gotta stay active - even if it's only light exercise.

Enas:
For many (me included) its not about not burning calories only, but also for becoming weaker! O.o

Munchies:
I mean, I ain'tcha mamma. You can do whatever you want. But as someone who has been in the medical field for nearly a decade, I've seen what happens with weak, fat people. It's endless suffering and pain 24/7.

I'll never forget this one lady who was crying about how much pain she was end and said "I want to lose all this weight, but it hurts so much. The only thing stopping me from ending it all is my family."

I know a lot of people have this immobility/limited mobility fantasy. But most of y'all truly do not understand what you are asking for. Being weak and skinny is a whole different beast from weak and very fat.

SumoSized:
I've seen similar in my line of work too, I've seen some pretty bad bed sores from patients that are too huge to get out of bed on their own and need assistance in order to get into their wheelchairs. Sadly at a lot of the nursing homes/assisted living facilities I work with the staff either neglects them or are sadly too busy to come help them out of bed so they spend all day locked in their room. I'm just a wheelchair technician so I try to do what I can to reduce these issues like using foam inserts to relieve pressure and with some patients we get custom molded cushions to fit their needs but Medicaid doesn't always cover that sort of thing. To anyone who read through this whole word salad take care of your body, being fat doesn't have to mean being unhealthy. There are ways to be 400-500 lbs while minimizing the health risks you might face.

SumoSized:
So I strongly believe everyone regardless of if they're going for a muscle chub look or just straight up fat, should try implementing some amount of exercise into their routine.

Canuck:
i think this is good advice. i went cold turkey off of exercising when i started to gain, and now - several years later and a few hundred pounds heavier - i am really struggling to get back into it. but one of the other side effects of starting to exercise again has been that i sleep much more soundly!

Munchies:
I'm rootin for ya!

A lot of people stop exercising when they commit to gaining. And I get the logic. It's a great way to put on pounds. But that is one of the most foolhardy things you can do - especially if you are an extreme gainer.

Gotta stay active - even if it's only light exercise.

Enas:
For many (me included) its not about not burning calories only, but also for becoming weaker! O.o

Munchies:
I mean, I ain'tcha mamma. You can do whatever you want. But as someone who has been in the medical field for nearly a decade, I've seen what happens with weak, fat people. It's endless suffering and pain 24/7.

I'll never forget this one lady who was crying about how much pain she was end and said "I want to lose all this weight, but it hurts so much. The only thing stopping me from ending it all is my family."

I know a lot of people have this immobility/limited mobility fantasy. But most of y'all truly do not understand what you are asking for. Being weak and skinny is a whole different beast from weak and very fat.

Enas:
For many (me included) its not about not burning calories only, but also for becoming weaker! O.o

SumoSized:
I suppose that's fair but I wouldn't recommend it unless you have a very strong support system and you understand the risks especially if you're into extreme obesity. By it's very nature fat is very heavy (shocker I know), and if you don't make sure your body is strong in response to that you will have mobility issues and respiratory issues.

I'm not trying to say this to dissuade people from gaining extreme amounts of weight, just to advocate for ways to mitigate its downsides

SumoSized:
So I strongly believe everyone regardless of if they're going for a muscle chub look or just straight up fat, should try implementing some amount of exercise into their routine.

Canuck:
i think this is good advice. i went cold turkey off of exercising when i started to gain, and now - several years later and a few hundred pounds heavier - i am really struggling to get back into it. but one of the other side effects of starting to exercise again has been that i sleep much more soundly!

Munchies:
I'm rootin for ya!

A lot of people stop exercising when they commit to gaining. And I get the logic. It's a great way to put on pounds. But that is one of the most foolhardy things you can do - especially if you are an extreme gainer.

Gotta stay active - even if it's only light exercise.

Canuck:
i've never truly wanted to be immobile, but the fantasy is a very arousing one for me, under the right conditions.

early this year emily and i were on a weekend away, and i got a tiny glimpse of immobility... we had a romantic dinner out and we back at the place we'd rented. we shed our clothes and started to make out, and she said she wanted to feed me. i happened to sit on a reclining chair (the lazy boy style), and when she climbed up on me, the chair felt back into recline mode.

she fed me and teased me, and eventually when she was out of food she climbed off me. she summoned me to join her in bed. i tried to push the seat forward, but i couldn't get it to move. i was wedged in pretty tight between the arms, too so i couldn't shift my butt very much either, especially with the weight of my stuffed belly resting on my lap. i asked her for help, for her to help push the chair back into a seated position so i could squeeze out of it. as soon as she realized the position i was in, her eyes lit up.

that was the most realistic immobility play we ever had - i was really trapped by my own bulk. and it was really, really hot, as she teased me and had her way with me, and even forced me to eat some more!

so this has popped up in my fantasies from time to time since.

MickRidem:
Oh wow, that is so hot.

I've had a lot of fantasies but have never experienced anything even remotely close irl.

Munchies:
Reminds me of the first time I stuffed my feedee so much he literally couldn't move.

It's one of those things that are fun for 30 minutes but then you wanna get up.

BigBallBellyGirl:
Yep! Like Thanksgiving 2023 for me. It's all fun and games until you can't sit up, much less stand, but you have to pee

Munchies:
Lol! That's exactly what happened to him.

HectorBalloon:
Heard about some guy doing this in South Korea - got obese to avoid conscription. He was somehow found out and got arrested and punished.

Enas:
What the f*ck? Really? Can you give source for this?

HectorBalloon:
www.nbcnews.com/news/world/south-korean-man-convicted-binge-eating-avoid-military-service-rcna181772

Lianaxx:
Hey, I’ve been thinking a lot about this kink and where it comes from for me. I’m addicted to thinking… it’s a problem… Anyway, I don’t want to remove any enjoyment for anyone, so please only read/engage if this is also a topic that interests you. I’ve noticed that I have something in common with anyone I’ve had long-term feederism experiences with. We were all enmeshed/emotionally parentified as children by our mothers (some still are, while others are more like me and as adults have realized the enmeshment and have become empowered to create boundaries). I’m going to give a quick explanation of what I mean below, but I suggest googling “enmeshment” and “parentification” for a far better, less reductive explanation. What I mean by enmeshed/parentified is that our mothers made us in some way believe we were responsible for their wellbeing and that we needed to/still need to meet our mother’s needs, so they can be happy. This is incorrect and unhealthy. A parent is responsible for fulfilling their own needs and their child’s needs, not visa versa. (Please note: this is different than your parents growing old or being sick and you deciding to help them. I’m talking about a completely capable adult putting undue and unfair expectation on a child into adulthood. Their wellbeing was made to be your responsibility.)

Anyway, I’m wondering if there’s a correlation here indicative of the greater feederism kink, or if it just so happens these are the people within the kink I happened to be gravitating to. If anyone is willing to look at their own relationship with their mother and tell me if it coincides or doesn’t, I’d so appreciate the dialogue. Also, if you’ve noticed any of your own correlations from your own experiences, would love to hear about that as well. I understand this is a vulnerable topic and some may not want to go there (totally fair, always keep yourself safe!), but if anyone feels open to talking about it, please do. If you’re not interested in talking about it, please be respectful and don’t engage.

Munchies:
Yeah ... I don't buy into that. That might be true for some people but not for most. This is a very Freudian way of thinking.

(As a side note, Freud is the "father" of psychology due to the sheer number of people that got into the science specifically to prove him wrong.)

For example, I got into this because I think fat men are hot. There's no childhood trauma surrounding this. I love the way they look and feel. I also love cooking and I want a man that will appreciate what I make.

I briefly got into gaining, but that was because I was sickly for so many years and hated how underweight I was. Once I went from slim to thick, I lost interest in gaining. Plus, I always preferred watching people get fat - especially men.

HectorBalloon:
Heard about some guy doing this in South Korea - got obese to avoid conscription. He was somehow found out and got arrested and punished.

Hhhggg:
Nice idea, with the German military that wouldn’t be that hard you „ just“ need a bmi of 35.
so for a man standing 6 ft that would only be 255 pounds.

So not that unrealistic of a GF to put 50-80 pounds on her boyfriend

Love the idea