That's why I like to advocate for male feedees/gainers to also lift weights while gaining. I've found that for a lot of guys until you get really big, their legs, ass, and arms tend to not put on as much size as their gut. That's why I like to mix in a decent amount of weight lifting to balance out those areas. I just think it gives guys a more over all rounded/curvy look, and that's what I'm going for with my gain

I wonder if the size of the feedee plays a factor, I'm a switch so my opinion may be biased but I feel more dominant as Im currently more muscular and just a hair over 220, but I could definitely see myself being more submissive as I got bigger and less mobile. I feel like by the time a feedee gets to immobility it would almost be impossible not to be the submissive one as your entire life would be dependent on your feeder. Though those are just my thoughts

I'm very fascinated and completely terrified of one day being immobile. It honestly sounds like it would be hot as hell being surrounded by your own squish all day completely unable to move. But at the same time I feel like I would go insane not being able to go outside and at least walk around. So I feel like I'd love to get the point of having limited mobility but I don't know if I could bring myself to get to the point of full immobility

I'm pretty much in the same boat right now, and pretty much what I've learned so far is that there isn't really a nice and easy solution. I'd recommend trying to figure out what your maintenance calories (just google tdee calculator and fill in the blanks) that'll give you a good estimate of the minimum amount of calories you need to eat in a day to not lose weight based on your height/weight/age/activity level. Then just make sure you're eating somewhere above that. I'm still struggling to increase my appetite so I can only usually manage a few hundred calories over that but honestly the more the merrier. I've definitely been guilty of thinking I've eaten a lot in a day and feeling super full only to count up the calories to realize I've hardly had anything, so calorie counting is definitely a necessity.Then from there it's just a waiting game. I don't know how common this is but I usually gain in bursts, like I'll plateau for a while and then get a steady weight gain going and then it'll screech to a halt. But hopefully soon you'll experience some sort of boost as long as you stick with it.

I definitely recommend doing targeted exercises if you're looking for an overall more rounded look. I'm still fairly new to this but I've found I cannot gain fat on my legs at all my genetics just won't allow it. So I do a lot of leg exercises to improve my strength and I'm able to get just enough fat on it to cover up most of the muscle definition. In your case try focusing on chest exercises with some back exercises too and it'll help give yourself a much better spherical look

I've been trapped in a feedback loop of that for a while now I'll stop going to the gym for a few days and lose some muscle, then I'll go back to the gym and get the muscle back but then I'll start losing fat. This has made it so my weight on paper has been the same but my body proportions have been all over the place

Not vegan but vegetarian for most of my life, I generally live on a fuck ton of pasta and Mexican food. When I would go to fast food places I would either get the veggie burger or grilled cheese and I would just make sure to get plenty of fries and a shake to make sure I was getting enough calories in. The main reason I was vegetarian was because my gag reflex prevented me from swallowing meat (I guess it was just a texture thing), but I've been able to train it to allow me to eat some white meats too which has allowed me to get a lot more calories in than purely vegetarianism would allow you.

Do you have a favorite brand of protein powder for gaining or will any of them do? And I can definitely feel the laziness part, after I passed 200 lbs I really can't bring myself to do cardio at all and recently I've pretty much gone from going to the gym daily to 3-4 times a week if that.

Honestly it was such a a weird feeling at first. The only way I could describe it is initially I felt bloated but as bloated feeling went away my belly stayed out a little bit further than it had before. And it's just been a gradual process since of keeping it nice and round

Also as a gainer who's trying to put on muscle and fat ( maybe a bit more fat than muscle) it kinda just helps balance out your physique. Like my body fat primarily goes to my gut, and I don't want to be walking around with chicken legs. Having some amount of arm and leg muscles just feels more aesthetic. Like you're curvy all around and not just in your belly