Sometimes, while walking around, I notice this and have been for awhile. So far, it hasn't been that big of a deal and it's not that extreme, but I know this is only ever going to get worse. I guess it's just one of those things that comes with no thigh gap. I just know it'll be even worse if and when I develop negative thigh gap (where if you keep your legs straight, it's difficult or impossible to place your feet side by side.

This thigh rub action only seems to occur at the top 1/2 of the thigh, or top 1/4 of the inseam length, which makes sense since that's where the thighs are thickest.

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I've also noticed it this often seems to collide with my "junk" which is occasionally annoying, so I probably want to think about "support" for that too.

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So far, I've been using boxer shorts. I suppose briefs might offer better support, though that'd do nothing for slight thigh rub.

The possibly obvious answer might be to consider using boxer briefs. I had tried that before a long time ago, but I had a problem of it stretching out too much, possibly because of the wrong material.

So then I wonder.. could some materials be more resilient from getting stretched out of shape than others? Could being stretched out of shape be the cause of it being too tight? But if too loose or properly sized, would it still offer the same support?

Guess I'm not sure what to get. For obvious reasons, I can't try before I buy. But I would hate to buy something that ends up being nearly useless. So what I'm hoping for, is a possible starting point? Or if there's other solutions I haven't thought of.

Not really sure where I'm going with this, but I can't help but think there's a better way, somehow.

First of all, great job for mentioning possible substitutions, either because of dietary restrictions or how too much of X at once could affect some folks differently. It's one of those YMMV things, so there's no one-size-fits-all approach.

Interesting shake recipe, but I can't help but note a few things.

First is the ice cream with the highest posted calorie count is Haagan-Daz Chocolate Peanut Butter flavor, at 1,180 calories in 14 fl. oz. I will note that Haagan-Daz in general is much richer, probably more so than gelato (which I believe by definition is ice cream with a higher fat content). However, that specific flavor is just plain chocolate ice cream with chunks of peanut butter in it, so I don't consider it a very good value. I'd also say to only ever buy Haagen-Daz from Kroger when there's a sale (occurs about 1 or 2 weeks out of the month, and you have to buy at least 5 of them at once). Failing that, to get them at Wal-Mart (costs a bit more than when Kroger has sales, but Kroger doesn't always have the sale running and some areas may have no Kroger). Otherwise, the pricing is just too high.

I should also note that because of the higher fat content of Haagen-Daz (same holds true for other "super premium" ice cream like Magnum or B & J's), and because there's less additional "whipped" volume, it will take up more space when melted. So if you like the taste, by all means get it, but I don't know if it's the highest potential calorie density. Also of course, some flavors will include various solid bits that won't melt, or would only melt at much higher temperatures, such as the pecan nuts in the Butter Pecan flavor, or the dark chocolate bits in the the Mint Chocolate chip flavor. It might thus be possible to suck down more calories if you go with one of the regular ice cream flavors that will melt/compress into a smaller volume, and for shake recipes, it would probably be wise to avoid flavors with large solid bits like the examples I mentioned. I would have to double-check at some point to see what may have higher calorie density.


I'm also a little surprised that you suggested "protein powder" potentially mixed together with heavy cream, so I'm hoping you may be willing to expand on what you mean by protein powder. I'm assuming you aren't wrong, because you might have tried this at some point or used this recipe in the past.

I know a lot of so-called "weight gain" or "bulking" powders often contain maltodextrin. Cost ineffectiveness aside (damn if this stuff isn't costly), I can't help but note other problems. Raw, plain maltodextrin is far cheaper, but still has the same problems I'm about to mention.

In my experience, unless I did something wrong, it does NOT seem to mix well with dairy fat, and I've heard it has similar effects on cooking oils of various sorts as well. If anything, it will clump up horribly and has a solidifying effect. Awhile back, I attempted to mix half & half (not even heavy cream) with one of these "weight gain" powders. The mixture was SO thick, it was undrinkable. Don't even know if a Hoover vacuum would have been powerful enough. Then, I had to throw it out. I really, really hate waste like this.

I don't know if this is the best possible recipe, although I have noticed that I was able to mix, in a blender, 1/4 of a regular sized box of cake mix (doesn't matter what flavor, just whatever you like) with a pint of half & half. This is about 1,050-1,070 calories in about 20 fl. oz., and it's drinkable. I still haven't tried heavy cream in a blender, since technically it's heavy whipping cream and the last thing I want is for it to get into a whipped state. The whole point of a shake is something I can gulp easily while doing whatever (video games, working on the computer, running errands, driving somewhere), or even try to funnel if I'm so inclined.

Anyway, I'd like to hear your thoughts on this.

Nothing is guaranteed of course, but some observations I've made, which seem to increase the odds and likelihood of this. However, one could have one or more of these, and it won't necessarily happen.

- If one or both parents are very large but the individual is somehow not. The saying "make sure you meet a lady's mother because that's close to what you'll be stuck with in 25-40 years" very much holds true here.

- As the OP said, if there's already a bit of flab already, so that person is far less likely to be self-conscious.

- The individual dislikes very intensive cardio activity. Gym activity is more likely to include strength training, if the individual goes to the gym at all.

- The individual owns one, or even no pairs of sneakers.

- Those who prefer calorie laden, fattening foods.

- Those who like to party. Not all alcoholic beverages are loaded with calories, but some are. Regardless, they tend to be in addition to whatever food, and this can sometimes inspire late-night hunger.

- Anyone with a background from the Deep South, due to a higher degree of acceptance and food being a central part of the overall culture.

- Anyone in a physically sedentary, or mostly sedentary job, where the taxing aspect of the job is not physical. This includes most office jobs, most jobs in education, and many drivers and heavy equipment operators of various sorts.

- Some individuals respond to stress by eating more.

- Having small children cuts into time that could be used for cardio, and can increase stress sometimes. See previous.

- Small children increases the overall presence of snack and junk food, which you will inadvertently eat more of. Combine this with additional eating and snacking on the run.

- Individuals who live in the suburbs and face a long daily commute. No time for the gym, eating and snacking on the run.

- Individuals who telecommute regularly, since almost by definition, this has to be a desk job.

- Someone who likes to get fast food often, perhaps even weekly or more often.

- Anyone with a major sweet tooth.

- Often engaging in activities that may be more focused around food. For example, cooking classes.

- Anyone who engages in shift work long term (outside of regular business hours).

- Working long hours may encourage snacking and eating on the run.

- Those who really, really get into cooking and baking. There's some exceptions but for the most part, in general they tend to be heavier.

- Preferred leisure activities are mostly or entirely sedentary.

- An unwillingness to regularly wear clothes that are too tight. This could mean the individual doesn't expect to lose weight anytime soon, if ever.


There's probably a lot more. This is just what I came up with off the top of my head.

Thank you for reporting this. I also saw the abuse report, though that didn't have a link to the screenshot or other evidence. Fortunately I noticed this thread, so I can take action.

Though in the future, if you could link to the evidence in the abuse report, that would be better overall. I wonder if/when hiccupx could include some sort of attachment function in abuse reports.

I'd like to be bigger than Santa Claus.

Just kidding.. I don't think that's realistic for me in the time allotted.

Kind of wished I'd be up to 200 lbs by now, but not even sure if that's reasonable by the end of the year. That'd be 8-10 lbs a month, and I'm lucky to go up a pound a month or so. Always one thing or another that prevents me from eating as much as I'd like.

Maybe instead, I'll try to get up to a daily baseline of at least 3,000 calories a day, or if I can somehow make jars of peanut butter a part of a constant routine, blowing past 4,500 shouldn't be hard.

Also can't quite believe I forgot about peanut butter straight from the jar. So, maybe I'll try that instead. The small 16.3 oz. jar of Peter Pan peanut butter has an estimated 14 servings, or about 2,800 calories in the entire jar. The other day, I got through 3/4 of such a jar easy. Not even sure why I didn't just finish it off.. I don't think it would have been that hard.

+1

I think this should be an overall improvement.

Orientation is already even in profiles, albeit within the "Dating" section that most can't see. Building on this, a suggestion might be to move orientation to the "About Me" of a profile.

The main advantage of doing this, that I see, is that for the most part, less undesired attention from other users. Straight folks don't want potential romantic attention from LGBT members, and vice versa.

As a bonus, as far as interaction in general, anti-LGBT bigots who don't express this position (they'd likely end up violating web site rules if they do) would also leave the LGBT folks alone.

The only downside I can think of is this could mean some straight women might end up with even more attention, but I have the impression the ones who stay and can deal with it, are already used to it, and I can't imagine it getting much worse than it already is.

It's looking good so far. I'd be very interested in what the next part will contain, and I'll be following this closely. How many parts/sections do you anticipate?

Depending on responses and reception, I could potentially see this thread being worthy of a sticky.

In American Horror Story, season 4, Episode 9 - Tupperware Party Massacre. There's a scene where Jimmy is drunk and making Ima eat, and he says "If you want it long and hard, I need you soft and wide."

Really? Good to know. I just know the web site doesn't show different calorie count estimations. Never considered installing the app, since I don't have much occasion to go to Starbucks lately.

Starbucks doesn't appear to publish approximate calorie counts for customizations. A near exact count is of course impossible, but I know a lot of large chains still try.

That said, they do publish calorie counts for the default configuration of their offerings (no customizations). You should be able to perform some basic math to guessimate.

Of course, I hope you're only using Starbucks for when you're out and about, It's far too expensive and not economical otherwise. While at home, it's so quick and easy to make these various coffee-based drinks.