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Thank you for reporting this to us. Of course private chats should remain private between members.

We will get this looked into, as this should not be happening.

I have replied to you privately, I hope that's ok. I know you sort of wrote an open letter to the forum for advice, and it may be good to understand others perspectives that are similar to your husbands. However I personally would not want to go through the emotional turmoil in front of a whole community of people / strangers.

No pressure to respond obviously, but here for you to ask questions if you need to.

I think first and foremost you need to have a blunt and honest conversation with your partner.

Your partner is with you and has been for obviously some years now, as you mention you have kids together. Your husband obviously loves and cares for you deeply, regardless of having a preference for bigger women and you not fully fitting that criteria as you describe yourself as only a little chubby.

Nobody in this community agrees with secret feeding or persuasion / guilt tactics. So in regards to your comment about 'encouraging a certain lifestyle, even though your partners not into it'. Nobody would recommend a relationship with feederism based on manipulation. However it doesn't exactly sound like that is the case here...

You prefer to be slimmer and resent your husband for not exclusively being attracted to slimmer women. You also don't like that you have put on weight over the years and your partner obviously enjoys the way your body has changed.

I think if you have a chat with your partner, you will find that he would not want you to feel miserable, and is more than likely to support you if you choose to loose weight or embrace the weight gain, but only you two will be able to decide the best course of action. I would like to add that you cant expect someone else to change their preferences because it makes you feel uncomfortable or it doesn't fit in with your body ideals and what you deem attractive.

I also don't think it's wise to snoop on your partners phone, it indicates a lack of trust between you both. Which is only going to be resolved by talking it out. I truly hope you resolve your issues and it works out for the best.

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I would personally recommend self reflection, try meditating, spending your time and energy on other things that make you happy and not dwelling on what you are currently missing.

Physical intimacy will come again, and hopefully with the right person in whatever form, FWB, dating, long term partner etc..

You should really give it another go. Maybe we could all start characters on the same servers sometime!

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Hi all!

It's great to see so many responses, Fantastic!

Keep an eye on your inboxes and we will be in touch with all of you shortly. We may not need all of you who have offered your time, but we will get in touch and let you know regardless.

Thank you all so much!

c00kie
FF Team

I don't even notice that I suck my belly in anymore... but I do a little. Just for that bit of tension as I find it helps my posture, but that is literally the only reason. So yeah you're not alone in this one.