I have replied to you privately, I hope that's ok. I know you sort of wrote an open letter to the forum for advice, and it may be good to understand others perspectives that are similar to your husbands. However I personally would not want to go through the emotional turmoil in front of a whole community of people / strangers.

No pressure to respond obviously, but here for you to ask questions if you need to.

I think first and foremost you need to have a blunt and honest conversation with your partner.

Your partner is with you and has been for obviously some years now, as you mention you have kids together. Your husband obviously loves and cares for you deeply, regardless of having a preference for bigger women and you not fully fitting that criteria as you describe yourself as only a little chubby.

Nobody in this community agrees with secret feeding or persuasion / guilt tactics. So in regards to your comment about 'encouraging a certain lifestyle, even though your partners not into it'. Nobody would recommend a relationship with feederism based on manipulation. However it doesn't exactly sound like that is the case here...

You prefer to be slimmer and resent your husband for not exclusively being attracted to slimmer women. You also don't like that you have put on weight over the years and your partner obviously enjoys the way your body has changed.

I think if you have a chat with your partner, you will find that he would not want you to feel miserable, and is more than likely to support you if you choose to loose weight or embrace the weight gain, but only you two will be able to decide the best course of action. I would like to add that you cant expect someone else to change their preferences because it makes you feel uncomfortable or it doesn't fit in with your body ideals and what you deem attractive.

I also don't think it's wise to snoop on your partners phone, it indicates a lack of trust between you both. Which is only going to be resolved by talking it out. I truly hope you resolve your issues and it works out for the best.

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I would personally recommend self reflection, try meditating, spending your time and energy on other things that make you happy and not dwelling on what you are currently missing.

Physical intimacy will come again, and hopefully with the right person in whatever form, FWB, dating, long term partner etc..

You should really give it another go. Maybe we could all start characters on the same servers sometime!

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Hi all!

It's great to see so many responses, Fantastic!

Keep an eye on your inboxes and we will be in touch with all of you shortly. We may not need all of you who have offered your time, but we will get in touch and let you know regardless.

Thank you all so much!

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I don't even notice that I suck my belly in anymore... but I do a little. Just for that bit of tension as I find it helps my posture, but that is literally the only reason. So yeah you're not alone in this one.

That's a great idea, not sure if it's something we can implement straight away but definitely a useful feature going forwards!

I'm with you! It seems weird for us to be targeted. It just seems to come with the territory with any sites remotely related to sex or fetish.

A member from here got scammed for thousands? Wow that is very upsetting to hear!

Please stay vigilant folks, we are doing our best to protect you from these people, but anyone posting links to other sites is likely to be something dodgy. So no how matter how enticing the messages may be that you receive, just take a moment before you act, and report it to us as soon as possible.

Thank you!

Naaaa, we will just let them run rampant on the site! Haha kidding!

Believe you me, we are well and truly aware of the spambot accounts and are working hard to not only delete the accounts when they appear but also put more measures in place to stop the sign ups.

We have tackled this issue multiple times, but unfortunately keep being targeted by these people. Once we put the things in place to automatically spot these accounts and delete them, they then change and adapt and we then have to keep doing the same. Hopefully at some point they will get fed up of having to think of new ways to create accounts and naff off somewhere else.

It's extremely frustrating for us as mods and for everyone that uses the site. So we do apologise for this but bear with us while we continue to battle on with this one.

In the meantime, you can help by reporting the accounts to us using the abuse report flag on their profiles and include any links to messages you have been sent.

Thanks.