Delta9:
From another point of view:
A person's body can change a lot faster than their partner's preferences can keep up. Small changes are bound to happen slowly over time. That's just the process of aging and everyone knows that. If you're really in a long term, committed relationship then I think it's the responsibility of both partners to accept and account for this reality. No one stays young forever.
However, when you make the conscious decision to drastically change your body in a way you know won't be attractive to your partner, a person who you supposedly care about, I think it in some way violates the implied terms of the relationship. Nobody wants to sign up for one thing just to get the bait and switch later.
If I love my partner, don't I have some responsibility to at least try and maintain my body in a way that will be attractive to her? And of course there are any number of ways a person can change themselves, not just getting fatter or thinner. Drugs and alcohol are another way of destroying your body.
If you choose to put yourself and your own desires before your relationship and your partner, that's fine. It's not a wrong decision. But maybe you should talk to him first or simply end the relationship instead of leaving him stuck with someone he doesn't think is attractive anymore, forcing him to make the choice to leave or not.
Munchies:
Not you likening weight gain to substance abuse.
That's not cute, sweetie.
Look, if someone gains or loses a lot of weight by choice, but those gain's aren't impacting your life significantly, then that person is shallow.
If you are in a relationship that's based on being active or you are neglecting your relationship in favor of getting fat, that's one thing. But if the only thing that's changing about your relationship in a number on the scale, then the person who wants to leave is a shallow piece of crap.
Oh, dang. Absolutely.
Look... my fiance likes me as an SSBBW, but when I gained 80 pounds in two months, I had some health symptoms that scared us both. We talked about all my options, including weight loss. I asked him how he would feel if I chose that route. His reply was, "It would be an adjustment, but I'd rather adjust than know you were unhappy, scared, or sick. I'm in this with you no matter what."
Likewise, a major turn on for him is stuffing me to extremes. We can't do that regularly though. I'd be bed-bound in no time. Even though we miss it, because we consider it a sexy aspect of our relationship, we have found other things we enjoy that don't bear the same consequences. I'm pretty thankful he finds different aspects of me attractive, not just my size.
1 year
Morbidly A Beast:
I’m gonna have to size up because I have no intent to slow down because it’s all appetite rn
Munchies:
Sounds like fun.
Just remember that 500 is around about the time you gotta make decisions.
This is certainly the truth. This was when I was no longer able to use grocery store scooters, fit in my Camry, turn around in the shower, etc. Not saying I regret it... I absolutely don't... but I had to bite the bullet and make some major accomodations.
1 year
As a supersized person who has been very fat my whole life-- except for the one year I lost weight and maintained 190 for a while-- it occurs to me I just think about various aspects of life differently.
For example, I power-gained most of the year last year. I had several months in which I put on 40+ pounds. I decided after the holidays, I'd transition to maintenance, and I often say, even in the forums "I'm maintaining", when in reality, I'm still putting on weight. I was 509 on New Year's Eve. I'm 532 this morning. It occurs to me that to 95 percent of people would call 23 pounds by March a big gain, especially if say, they started at 130 and now weigh 153. To me, it's nominal, especially considering I put on well over 200 pounds last year. Similarly, I know that a person who is 5'3" and 190 is still technically obese, but when I reflect on being that size a few years ago, I talk about "when I was skinny".
Anyone else notice how your point of view changes when you're very obese (or live with an obese person)?
1 year
Currently sitting at 93.9. Might be a little hefty. 🤣
1 year
Morbidly A Beast:
Since I need nice outfits occasionally they tend to get put away and forgotten about until I need them hence why I find myself in this predicament I’ll have to either bite the bullet on some larger stuff or just keep buying to size just don’t wanna look like a bum which I can get away with like 60% of the time
Definitely relate to that. As quickly as I gained last year, if I didn't wear something for a month, I would outgrow it by the next time I pulled it out. I needed entirely new spring clothing, since I was about 315 last March and 530 this year. I miss gaining/stuffing now that I'm maintaining, but I do like being able to cultivate a look instead of being limited to sweatpants and T-shirts that ride up.
1 year
Morbidly A Beast:
I need help with my clothes again I’m outgrowing another pant size 52 and 4 xls are kinda snug and 3xls are really starting to ride up on me, I like dress pretty badly rn and I don’t wanna be in this slump like I was before so any advice for styles etc would be nice I only need like 3-4 outfits
Based on what it seems like your tastes are, you might consider neutrals and a few timeless pieces. A high quality cardigan or jacket might be good investments too. Do you intend to continue your gain? If so, you may want to hold off on anything super tailored for a bit. A nice watch or high-end shoes can also lend polish to your look.
1 year
If any super-sized women here are looking for formal wear, I found an incredible wedding dress at Loud Bodies. I have an extremely large mid-section, and I wasn't sure whether to order a 9X or 10X and get the shoulders/bust tailored, or to place a custom order. Loud Bodies has a consultant line, and I spoke with a very thoughtful representative who suggested customizing, because there's such a big difference between my bust measurement (60.5" ) and belly (101" ). I was very pleasantly surprised there was no additional cost for a custom order.
1 year
Morbidly A Beast:
I saw someone come at pickles in the thread and I just gotta say I hope you step on a lego, pickles are delicious
Wifestuffer:
In Japan it's complicated; there are so many pickles!
Some of them are sweet and tasty, some are salty or spicy, which I love too. Some taste to me like they were fermented in toe jam and piss.
Morbidly A Beast:
Spicy pickles are where it’s at. Honestly I just started throwing hot peppers in my pickle jars I get from the store gives them a bit of a kick
Have you tried sweet jalapeno pickles?? They're delicious!
1 year
I just love wine ... Particularly Malbec... But I have an insanely low tolerance for someone who weighs more than 500 lb. Given more than two glasses, I fall asleep immediately. I also get horrible hangovers from any kind of alcohol, so it's moderation for me. I know, I know. Not fun.
1 year
Professionalfattener:
How big is too big for you? I want to know extreme fantasies so I can help to make them real
I think I'm probably about as big as I can handle being, but if I could have my fantasy, it would be the ability to stuff 20,000 calories a day and get infinitely fatter without consequences.
1 year
