Literally nobody asked either of you lol

I know exactly what he said very much thank you! There's no mistaking what sexual orientation is versus a kink they are not the same thing there is no overlap they are not a substitute for each other. And straight people, especially straight men, do not get to mansplain that to a bisexual woman especially a fat one. I know what I'm talking about more than you thanks!

A kink is not sexual orientation

I've been meaning to get more involved and I will try to attend some of these events!

I think my old pseud was mentioned in this but I do write a lot of sapphic/lesbian erotica. My pipeline is a bit jammed at the moment with about 5 projects I'm trying to get out the door but Cuffing Season is exclusively lesbian and Naughty Nicola is almost entirely lesbian.

Most often I hear comments about the lack of true contemporary fiction, romance, etc—but because erotic fiction is by definition erotic and its own genre (when written correctly—structure and literary form does exist for it!) it's more challenging than others may think to combine them. There is a specific subgenre called erotic romance which is what I think most are shooting for. It's something I've thought about working in to my projects but haven't quite gotten there yet. Too many in line ahead of it.

This reminds me of the first generation of the Sims where "house layout" was one of the things that contributed to how much they enjoyed their space. My brother and I would spend hours strategizing how to make lots of all different sizes the most efficient.

I had a feeder once who really turned me on to the idea of forced laziness, which included tracking my steps during the day and setting limits. It was unbelievably exciting to me.

Disappointed but not surprised this doesn't have more attention and discussion. It's really chilling how often I see not-fantasy/hypotheticals about this exact topic.

Having the fantasy is fine (it's hot tbh?) but life is not fantasy. It's such a slippery slope that leads to all sorts of problems and none of them are really solvable the moment someone does something to another without their informed and enthusiastic consent.

Honestly it's such a serious issue that I don't even have any tolerance for someone who prioritizes having a gaining partner over anything else. If it's more important to you that someone gains in a "relationship" then you're not looking for a relationship, you're looking for an object.

@yeet I don't think you understand that it's a lot easier said than done about "don't be around those guys" because so many of them pretend they *aren't* one of them and we don't find out until later.

This is not the way to do it because it requires consent.

For those who actually want to know how to frame this conversation, start here: loradayton.com/2022/01/26/how-to-have-the-kink-talk-with-your-partner/