Only if they got big enough that they didn't want to get any bigger, otherwise, no. :-)

I love thunderstorm but never thought of them as something arousing. As far as having sex during a thunderstorm? Sounds fun!

I think it's pretty common - rather than switching, what about mutual? Where you feed each other?

I have a tendency to get long winded so I'll try to keep it brief.

Diabetes doesn't just happen over night. The diagnosis happens suddenly and swiftly but the causes of it are years in the making. There are numerous studies that show it is possible to be fat and healthy. The key is lifestyle and food choices.

If you are really worried about diabetes, start educating yourself on it now. If it runs in his family, he might be able to check his levels periodically. You can help monitor them now so they never get to be a problem later. My mother and grandmother had to deal with it. Its not fun. It's serious and prevention is the key. He may not have to lose weight to keep his blood sugar where it needs to be if it's monitored and adjusted now, but he may have to modify his life a bit or his diet. Exercise helps too.

If his weight is linked to a self esteem or self image issue, knowing that you like it would probably be a huge relief to him. I think you should at least let him know that you like his size and weight. I wouldn't go into the fetish part of it till down the road, and only if he adapts well to you just liking him bigger.

It's a tough spot to be in but you'll figure it out. :-) You deserve to be happy too.

I'm not sorry it was long. It was interesting and enjoyable to read. As for similar experiences.... the closest for me would be with a girl I was with for a bit. I was like 6'2" and 300ish and known around work as "The guy that looks like a cuddly teddy bear". All she knew was my softness. Historically my friends have been surprised at how physically strong I am. She was no exception. She discovered it while she I were helping a couple of her girl friends with some outdoor work that eventually got into some pretty heavy physical labor. She commented later how much she loved the contrast of all that strength and muscle hidden under all that softness. Looking back, she had some classic feeder behaviors but at the time, I was unaware of this whole world and blind to the clues.

Thank you for sharing :-)

I don't think so. Especially if you're trying to learn and discover something about yourself and there is nothing sexual between you and the other woman. Why would a pig out playmate be any more wrong than two other women going shopping together or to lunch or just talking about a mutual interest?

I have said the same thing for the same reason.



Clean cut people have fetishes too. Fetishes can be a secret expression of interests and likes we can not express (sometimes for good reason) in everyday life. I'm generally regarded as pretty clean cut. I don't smoke, drink or swear. I dress respectable and treat others with respect and courtesy. I'm known as the "Gentle Giant" and the "Lovable Teddybear". Even my closest friends and family would never suspect I have some of the interests and fetishes I do. In fact, with some, they would come to my defense and deny it if someone were to accuse me of them. So, in the area of fetishes, erotic interests and other socially awkward or unacceptable interests, we can make no assumptions what so ever about someone, no matter how well we think we know them. :-)

It is possible though, that he has never been exposed to this world and might genuinely deny liking it at first. That is why I suggest slow incremental steps by you to gradually introduce him - assuming his response is a positive one. It's an opportunity for you to be creative and have a little fun with him :-) Create opportunities for the topic to come up without you overtly bringing it up. For example, maybe if the two of you are having dinner at the table and its dessert time, you could put your arms behind your back in a prolonged stretch (which would also hint at being submissive or a captive) and then eye your dessert and comment how good it looks. And then maybe even look at it wistfully and say, "It's just going to go straight to my hips though, maybe I should skip it". He may do nothing, he may verbally encourage you, or he may pick up your fork and give you a bite. Even if he doesn't, you may have just tuned him on. You never know. It's also possible he likes bigger girls but has no interest in the gaining or feeding aspects.

I know you're eager to discuss it with him, but you don't want to weird him out but saying too much too soon. The more you can discover about him in this area, the more likely you will be able to know how and when to share this with him.

If he's stroking your stomach a lot, and naming different parts, I'd say he's at least a Fat Admirer. If he's promising to feed you treats even if you got obese... He may be a feeder too, even if he is unaware of the terms and labels. You definitely need to explore it with him, but slowly and carefully. :-)

Amen to that! Thanks for sharing that very interesting experience. You've had quite a struggle but that likely just makes the victory all the sweeter :-)

Well said SLT! Good for you! :-)

My high school sweetheart was a bigger girl who, after we were married, figured out she was actually a lesbian. When we got divorced and I had to reenter the dating world, I actually had a debate with myself on if I should look for a skinny girl or not. Fortunately the debate was short lived and decided that I should not feel obligated to like something I genuinely didn't and that if every guy that likes bigger girls does that, then the stereotype will never change. So from that moment on, I decided I would not hide or be ashamed or embarrassed by it. I would look for a girl I could be truly happy with, whatever size that may be, and I would not hide my preferences when the topic came up. I have to say, it's been a bit liberating. When it came up and work one day and I "confessed" to preferring bigger girls over skinny ones. To my amazement, the world didn't end and I wasn't shunned. LOL The women in the office were sooooo happy to hear that and the guys were like "That's interesting.... to each their own, I guess" - or something like that.

Over time, I've had nothing but positive responses and I've had guys come up to me later to talk about it privately. One guy, who's wife was nice and plump, told me "You've seen my wife, that's no accident". In another somewhat sad case, I was present when a group of guys started to comment negatively on a larger girl. I added my own comments, all positive and they stopped immediately. Later, a couple of them individually, came up to me and thanked me for saying what I did and confessed that they too liked larger girls but thought they were the only one and that something was wrong with them. One was married to a skinny girl because he felt obligated to want a skinny girl. I realized then, that all the images and advertisements and comments that tell women they are HAVE to be skinny to be beautiful and desirable, also tell guys "this is what you want. This is what you are supposed to seek after". The message is just as powerful to guys as it is to girls, and just as incorrect. We can't we all be free to like and be what we naturally like and are? I know, I'm kind of preaching to the choir here LOL