My wife will pick out an appetizer. But then I'll always scan the calorie counts of the appetizers, see what is the clear highest and recommend that one. It's almost always a "yeah, that actually sounds much better." ?

I did it when I was a teen. Though fun, that's when I confirmed I was definitely NOT a feedee/gainer.

It wasn't until later in life I realized feederism was a thing and the feelings and attraction I was experiencing was for being a feeder.

And not just sexually.

All of our neighbors are really heavy - all good people. And they always had their own parties for cookouts, football games, etc. Every weekend someone had something big going on, people over.. but they never invited my wife and I.

Once my wife got fat, they all started inviting us to every hangout! The fall bonfires are starting now - all of the fat housewives stay up pounding drinks, pigging out and laughing.

I'm amazed at how much more approachable she seems to be now that she's heavier. They were all probably a little intimidated or felt she wouldn't be interested when she was a super athletic skinny chick.

Rally's/Checkers. Their entire brand is built around X for X offers. They're the "Home of the 2'fer", ie. 2 for $3, 2 for $4. Just ridiculous quantity of fattening food for the price which is why they generally only build in lower income parts of town.

Everybody's at a different phase of body acceptance. When I first got married my wife would see women at the pool with their guts hanging out: "Really? Good God, Some women need to know when you're not bikini material any more, sweetie."

Then she gained and switched to wearing one-pieces for a few years.

She gained more and now she's that woman with the bikini, massive jugs and gut hanging out. Smiling and not giving a f**k.

My 300lb sister-in-law has blamed her weight gain on the IUD. She stopped using it because she said it entirely removed her libido. She questioned why she was even taking it because she felt asexual. Pretty common complaint. Lost her boyfriend at the time over it.

Isn't that great?

My wife would put down heavier folks all the time. "How could you enjoy sitting on your ass that much, doing nothing?" "How could you watch THAT much TV?"

Then after putting on 100lbs, all she wanted to do is sit on her ass. Talking about Netflix series is her favorite thing to do. And the bigger you get, the lazier and hungrier you are. Once Pandora's box is opened for them, they won't ever comment on someone's weight ever again. They're now in the club and totally understand now.

My wife's company, they get free soda in the cafe and the vending machines are all free as an employee perk. And then HR constantly has these meetings/events encouraging a healthy lifestyle lol.

I like stretch marks. The thing about stretch marks is with most women, if they continue to gain, the stretch marks actually get stretched to the point they disappear and they have fairly smooth skin again. Have see this countless times.

You don't have even have to encourage or be concerned of them "giving up" if your buying foods he can't resist. It's about discovering and leveraging his already existing vices. And then you slowly increase frequency and volume from there.

Once you identify the few key things he habitually consumes daily, examine the calorie content and see if you can exchange it for something higher calorie. Usually the higher calorie option will be tastier.

For example, my wife was buying a certain IPA she drinks when she gets home. I found an IPA with triple the calories and she of course thought it was amazing and she only drinks that from now on.