My highschool experience was pretty uneventful. I was a bit nerdy / still am... haha.

I don't know why but American highschools on TV always seemed much cooler then highschool in the UK... We had to wear boring uniforms, didn't have lockers and no real outdoor space to just hangout with our cliques... Which also seem very different as we don't really get jocks or cheerleader types overhere... and when I was at school we didn't do dances or prom type events.

I really hope American schools were like that irl, otherwise my teenage dreams have been dashed!!!

I have been on the site for around 12 years and can safely say I have never been 'found out' here by a friend or family member... However I have had my pictures stolen and posted elsewhere. The pictures that were stolen were of my entire body, not of my face. So I actually don't post body pictures anymore... I just have my face on here as that feels safer to me.

I totally understand that people may not want to show their face here. I don't think it's to do with being embarrassed for liking fat people, but rather being associated with a fetish that a lot of people just really don't understand, and have negative feelings towards. So the potential of being found out, and having to maybe have a discussion about that may be scary for some.

I do think that having to 'come out' about your fetishism and 'come out' about a preference for dating fat people, or being body confident are definitely two different things. While my friends and family know I am happy with myself being big , I haven't ever felt the need to discuss the foodie / feedee side of things with them. Just like I don't feel the need to discuss being a sub with them... it's just not a necessity for them to know this stuff. It is private and not everyone in my life needs to know every single thing about me...

It wouldn't effect my decision to talk to someone on here or not, purely based on whether they had a face picture or not on their profile. But a genuine picture of some kind makes me feel like the person is more real even if there is a head cropped out of the frame.

As for the scammers... They use face pics to seem more real and catch users out... So in my opinion it does seem more real to have a genuine picture and especially real if you have one of your face.

The reality is, this is the Internet. People fake it, people steal pics and people catfish. So you can never realllllly know who is genuine until you video chat or meet up irl... and even then they can still be faking lol.

Obviously this is a sensitive subject, however we have drifted off topic slightly.

Lets bring this discussion back on course about the weight gain effects birth control may or may not have.

Thanks all,

c00kie

18 months... better get my World of Warcraft subscription back up and running then lol.

It really depends on what's more important to you. Lots of people are in non sexual romantic relationships, and lots of people are involved in a friends with benefits type relationship. Neither are bad if it's what you signed up for... However your partner should be informed of your expectations of the relationship... You don't want to end up leading people on in the hopes of getting something more from you down the line.

I would advise you to think about why you don't feel you can have a relationship with a fat person... Could it be you think your friends and family wouldn't be accepting of your partner being fat? Is it that you're an active person and don't feel a fat partner is a sensible choice? Maybe something else entirely...

Regardless there are plenty of fat people all with different lifestyle choices, interests, hobbies, were not all the same breed... So you will find someone who matches you mentally and sexually, it's just a matter of dating and meeting people.

On the other side of the coin, you could embrace your feeder side, and find a thinner feedee or gainer and experiment with that... However if you don't address whatever concerns you have about a romantic relationship with a fat partner, that would also affect this type of relationship as your partner gained weight. Some soul searching to be done I think.

Anyway there's my two bit!

This this and more of this... There's no need for the discussion to turn into a personal attack. We are all entitled to our inevitably differing opinions! You don't have to agree, but we don't need to shut down the discussion or escalate things in an unpleasant manner.

Personally I don't have a problem with body or facial hair on any gender. I go through phases of wanting to shave and being all natural with all areas on my own body... It really is down to you and your own unique view, style and preference as to what you do with your own body, and what you find physically appealing on someone else.

Well as much as this was a lovely idea, best to have a rain check on this one for a while! Stay in and stay safe folks!

Well what would everyone like to do?

Just a casual meet up at a bar... or book a table at a restaurant, but then we would need definite numbers... would people prefer day time or an evening thing???

Shall we set a date in April? Give some more people a chance to see this, that may want to come?

Yeah I am potentially down for this... Where you thinking?