BigBallBellyGirl:
I'm not too tall (5'3" and about 640 pounds currently. Once I reached about 600, mobility-related issues piled on, and while not confined to bed, I do rely on my husband for many things. I have a very large girth and a round belly, so much so that I haven't been able to reach my belly button in a while. To get everything thoroughly clean, I use assistive tools, like sponges and loofahs on an extender, as well as a special handheld shower head, to clean up. I'm too big to fit my whole body in conventional showers, so I sit on a bariatric shower chair and turn as needed. The process of showering and getting dressed takes about two and a half hours every morning. I also have special tools for when I potty as well as an elevated bariatric toilet apparatus with heavy duty handle bars. I'm no longer able to use bathrooms away from home.

I no longer drive, which is definitely a downside. We have a minivan, and in the past year, I've gotten too big to be comfortable in the front passenger seat, so I have to sit in the second row. Getting a ride share also presents challenges. An Uber XL is necessary, and even then, I have to play with the app until I get a large vehicle like a van or Chevy Tahoe. On more than one occasion, I've had an Uber Driver "arrive" and then pull away after seeing me. That one stings s little, but oh well.

Clothing is a challenge. I have two websites that sell 10x's. Those can be tight on my belly depending on the cut, so I choose fabrics and styles very carefully. It's also quite expensive. If I want something other than loungewear, I've found hiring someone online for custom made pieces is my only option. I also choose carefully so I can dress myself. I have four custom pullover sundresses I can put on without help.i use a grabber with a little claw if I wear underwear.

Finally, because my mobility is so restricted, it's SOOO easy to gain weight. My husband has been helping me eat clean, but even staying at my recommended maintenance calories, I easily gain a couple of pounds a week without realizing it. I'm not trying to lose, but because of mobility, I also don't want to get much bigger. My husband helps me with fitting exercises, including a little weightlifting, to keep strong.

Chubbydiva:
Belly Bucking is a sport when two large people ( basically, two men) bump each other with their large bellies to bump the other opponent down. When I was a teen, I used to watch the game. I thought it was awesome to see two people bumping their large bellies. They should bring the sport back. Since my colleague and I are both fat, we both play the game. Both of our bellies jiggle when we bump each other. We both have beer bellies that hang over our belts.

Chubbydiva:
My colleague at the library where I worked at told me. If I wanted my belly to hang, wear your jeans under your belly to achieve a belly hang. Both my colleague and I have bellies hanging over our belts. We both have beer bellies now. We also done “Belly Bucking “ games.

Fatbellyfeedee:
Mine is very cliche. I always felt some type of way watching episodes of shows where characters would gain a lot of weight. I also used to stuff pillows under my shirt

Canuck:
over the last 20+ years i've talked to a whole lot of people in this community, and i agree with you calling this a "cliche," both seem very common for many people.

the other that i have heard from many is seeing weight loss advertisements with the before/after pictures, and reversing them, lol!

Munchies:
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what's something you wish you knew before you dipped your toes into feedism
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Enas:
What counts as "dipping my toes into feedism"?

Im asking because it seems like there is really nothing that would be of much importance to feedism.

For example what you described in your last paragraph, it has to do with relationships, and the communication in them, far more than it has to do with feedism.

Finickyfeedee:
In terms of avoiding bringing up her trauma, the best thing to do is talk to her ahead of time about boundaries and preferences for the feeding. You should also avoid repeating anything you know/suspect her family would say unless she’s explicitly said she likes it (so no “you’re getting so fat” dirty talk unless she’s told you she wants to hear it, for example). Maybe focus more on the flavors/pleasure of the food and less on her appearance, aside from generally saying she’s sexy.

LoLbreadplease:
They're not glamorous, but peanut butter and jelly sandwiches... Make them with plenty of peanut butter and jelly, each sandwich can be over 500 calories. Make a plate of them, splurge on a half gallon of chocolate milk, and sit down to watch a show. See what happens 🤷

Impossible:
I can probably eat that daily multiple times and I'd still have abs! 😉

Munchies:
Only if you offset it with an appropriate amount of exercise.

A lot of gaining advice is bulking without the gym.

Impossible:
I'm naturally resistant to fat and will only gain muscle 😉💪.

Fatbellyfeedee:
Meanwhile they’re still not cracking down on pro ana content. I literally started getting recommended pro ana content after this change to their content policy which is so insane to me

LoLbreadplease:
They're not glamorous, but peanut butter and jelly sandwiches... Make them with plenty of peanut butter and jelly, each sandwich can be over 500 calories. Make a plate of them, splurge on a half gallon of chocolate milk, and sit down to watch a show. See what happens 🤷

Impossible:
I can probably eat that daily multiple times and I'd still have abs! 😉