When stairs started to become an issue and growing a belly apron will make you contemplate that I might have gone to the point of no return
4 years
I remember when I first started to gain and my ex teased me about how I grew a belly apron and I overheard her talking to some of her friends about how it was to be with a fat man and her friends were intrigued so when I waddled into the room she teased me about it and I secretly liked it 🐖🐖🐖🐖🐖
4 years
I feel this all the time especially after eating an edible.
4 years
WideJuan76:
Either way, sooner or later we will give in. The truth is, for most if us it is a matter of time
NYCBellyBlimp:
it is harder to put in the rear view mirror long term, the further down and stronger the pull and need to be comforted by food.[/quote]
There is no rearview mirror; we say that because we care what folks think so we comply with their weight standards but the truth is that some of us would be bed bound if we could.
4 years
NYCBellyBlimp:
True though bariatric sleeves nor gastric bypass are successful for very long, if food addiction remains or comes back stronger.
Either way, sooner or later we will give in. The truth is, for most if us it is a matter of time
4 years
WideJuan76:
THIS IS SOLID ADVICE. I would only add that with our obesity we have to like being obese compared to how other people see us because I don't pay attention to them anymore. I know that I am gross to them and I own it. You will get there soon enough
NYCBellyBlimp:
That's true, like eating ice cream on a park bench just oblivious to murmurs and whispers yet crack jokes on anyone who gets too cute or even just continue eating living the best life.[/quote]
Eventually, you come to the realization of why am I paying attention to those people who don't know me nor do they have my best interest so why am I projecting how they might feel onto me ? The truth is, the fatter I became the more people never actually gave a damn. Most times our own self dialogue is catastrophizing when in actuality no one cares....
4 years
NYCBellyBlimp:nypost.com/2015/08/23/910-pound-woman-reveals-a-life-of-pain-i-want-to-live/If I were to experience it, it would be on the way to a facility to spend the remainder of my days; as I wouldn't want to always need Fire Department or EMTs of 10 people to get around when others need them.
I wouldn't want to be a corpse as there is a video in South America of them (EMT) not properly covering the body while in transport which was shameful.
Would rather be in a facility and save the embarrassment only encountering others who deal with bariatric patients on a regular basis vs 1st responders wondering what the heck they signed up for.
I wholeheartedly would like the same but every situation that I have encountered in which the person got so obese that they had to knock out a wall to get them out most never wanted to go into a facility because now they are afraid to go outside because they were terrified about how folks would make fun of them. I had an ex whose aunt was like that and she had not left her place in twenty five years but she kept herself clean and she had a cleaning service help her but she was well over six hundred and was too scared to ever go outside.
4 years
WideJuan76:
I recently had to switch up and my doctors wanted me to lose weight and I am doing it slowly but when you have food and fat addiction like I do then anything will trigger me and I will be housebound
NYCBellyBlimp:
Very slippery slope, as each day is a challenge.[/quote]
That it is but unless we get gastric bypass the probabilities aren't in our favor. Most of us who actually tried to manifest that obese lifestyle will most likely be housebound in our future
4 years
NYCBellyBlimp:
Depends on their natural set-point. Medications, Stress-eating, genetics, slower metabolism due to age are factors that affect a few but not all as far as regaining. Scientists feel that since the fat cells shrunk vs disappearing when losing weight, its easier for them to grow in size thus regaining with ease.
I recently had to switch up and my doctors wanted me to lose weight and I am doing it slowly but when you have food and fat addiction like I do then anything will trigger me and I will be housebound
4 years
NYCBellyBlimp:
it is a juggle at times to be able to still fit in with the general public and their thinking vs standing alone in self-confidence wary of those who come in contact with you.
Overall just a matter of time to decide what makes you happiest, others perception or your perception of you.
It's different from when people look at you to looking through you like you do not exist.
It's also different to see others who attempt to blend in with general views of beauty while living your best life with others in the rear view mirror.
THIS IS SOLID ADVICE. I would only add that with our obesity we have to like being obese compared to how other people see us because I don't pay attention to them anymore. I know that I am gross to them and I own it. You will get there soon enough
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