About your profile ...

Canuck:
keep in mind, this isn't a dating site. how someone shows up in a search is not a concern for a lot of members, because they're not "seeking" another person. we're here for the discussion, the chat (for the chat itself), the stories, etc.

it you want to select potential partners based on a set of filters, try a dayting app like wooplus. it's how my partner found me.

Munchies:
I don't think that's what OP is talking about.

There's a specific user flavor on here that I come across a lot. It's not gender-specific, either. These people will put in just enough effort in their profile to fill it out partially, but then, despite being strictly feedees, not take the two seconds to update their kink from feeder (the default) to feedee.

Then, when interacting with others on the site, they get confused as to why others are treating them like a feedee.

There are a couple of reasons for this.

1. Non-native English speakers that mixed feedee and feeder up.

2. Being lazy.

The first group gets a pass, but the second?

Oy very.

Istg, they are annoying. And they always act so entitled too. Like you feeding them is a gift to mankind when you just wanted to make conversation.

PearLover:
Munchies, I am in complete agreement with you. Thank you.


Look, I get it. I can't tell you how many times I got excited seeing a potential female feeder to befriend (I am one too) only for them to get nasty with me saying they only want to be fed.

On the flip side, I've had many a guy labeled "feeder" hit me up out of the blue. Then, when I say I don't want to be fed as I am a feeder, they switch up. They insist they are actually a feedee, but they were too lazy to change it. And then they start demanding you feed them or tell them about your sex life in graphic detail.

Sometimes you talk to these people, and they couldn't tell you what the difference between a feeder and a feedee is. I'm not one to gatekeep newbies from the community. Lotta people join to help figure things out. But please take the two seconds it takes to google the basics.
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Restaurant idea

Bigwideland:
I have a idea, for a restaurant. It is.for gainer and feeders. The concept is to have fat friend feeding booths, and you can just walk in by a meal for a complete stranger and watch them eat it. The person identifying as the feedie and select a style of feeding, and is indicated. So the buyer may only watch, watch and ask question, and last level encourages. How awesome would that be. Clearly some security to protect people’s ideanty would be required.

How cool would that be. What do you think could it work or just become weird?


It's giving strip club.
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I'm looking for video from po*nhub

Slender:
Hi, I have a question. a few years ago I saw a feederism compilation of girls on pornhub that was about an hour long and various pop music was playing there, I really liked that compilation but I can't find it anymore, so I'd like to ask if you know any feederism compilations from po*nhub for a long time😅 ? thanks a lot in advance🙂


Pornhub isn't a great place for that anymore.

A few years ago, there was a big expose on Pornhub which lead to a lot of videos getting deleted. A lot of major banks stopped accepting transactions on it which really crippled things. On top of all that, only verified users can post.

As a result, people who post on Pornhub us it mostly to promote their stuff on OF and Curvage. Hell, some even abandoned Pornhub completely.
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About your profile ...

PearLover:
... I see a lot of people who label themselves as a feeder, but when you read their profile, they describe themselves as a feedee. I don't see how that's going to help them come up in the search results for those seeking a feedee.

Canuck:
keep in mind, this isn't a dating site. how someone shows up in a search is not a concern for a lot of members, because they're not "seeking" another person. we're here for the discussion, the chat (for the chat itself), the stories, etc.

it you want to select potential partners based on a set of filters, try a dayting app like wooplus. it's how my partner found me.


I don't think that's what OP is talking about.

There's a specific user flavor on here that I come across a lot. It's not gender-specific, either. These people will put in just enough effort in their profile to fill it out partially, but then, despite being strictly feedees, not take the two seconds to update their kink from feeder (the default) to feedee.

Then, when interacting with others on the site, they get confused as to why others are treating them like a feedee.

There are a couple of reasons for this.

1. Non-native English speakers that mixed feedee and feeder up.

2. Being lazy.

The first group gets a pass, but the second?

Oy very.

Istg, they are annoying. And they always act so entitled too. Like you feeding them is a gift to mankind when you just wanted to make conversation.
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Story about my experience, first ever stuffing and what now?

I am once again tell people that there are more body types in this world than "skinny" and "obese".

If you wear mediums on top and large on the bottom, you are not skinny. This is not a bad thing. It's just a thing. You are most likely a thick or curvy pear.

If you want to gain, but don't want to give up certain activities, you can have both. You don't need to choose. Just gain up to a certain point, whatever is comfortable for you, and keep up with your fitness.

If you don't want to gain at all, then you can try occasional stuffing. Maybe a few times a month at most.

And lastly, I'd unpack why you don't want to tell your partner. Is it because you are ashamed? Or is it because you don't trust them with the information?
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Fattening wife

Southernfeeeder90:
My wife has always been a skinny person, so I hid my FA/feedism kink from her until about a year ago. I was shocked 10 weeks ago when she agreed to attempt to gain weight, but she didn’t think it would work.
I’ve been making her shakes every morning with weight gainer, whole milk, and heavy cream (around 1700 calories in the current version) and the results are finally beginning to manifest. Her ass and boobs have gotten larger and she has a cute little pooch belly.
The issue I’m having is I’m afraid I may give her diabetes if we continue these shakes long term. The original thought was as she gained, she would eventually start being able to get her calories the old fashioned way, but that doesn’t seem to be happening so far. Any advice?


You two need to sit down and discuss how you will go about this. Gotta talk about both of your goals, limits, fears, excitement, etc. If you fail to plan, you plan to fail and all of that good jazz.
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About your profile ...

PearLover:
... I see a lot of people who label themselves as a feeder, but when you read their profile, they describe themselves as a feedee. I don't see how that's going to help them come up in the search results for those seeking a feedee. In a nutshell, if you are seeking a feeder, label yourself as a feedee. If you want to feed someone else, label yourself as a feeder.


IIRC, when you sign up for an account, feeder is the first option listed under kinks. So, essentially, these people put the least amount of effort in creating their page.

You hate to see it.

This is also why hammering down the community's demographics is so hard.
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Not a dominant feeder

StoryEnjoyer:
Not really sure what I would be in as a feedee, I am not sure if I would be dominant or submissive, in my minds eye I think it is somewhat neutral a bit of both.

Munchies:
Not all feedists are dominant or submissive. In fact, a good chunk exist outside of power play.

Letters And Numbers:
I feel like I notice a trend, maybe it’s younger people, or more online people, or just life in post 50-Shades world, of folks trying to shoehorn every relationship into a dom/sub power dynamic, which is just kinda funny to me.


Not sure how old you are, but this is hardly anything new. In fact, if you scroll through a lot of older feedist community posts (like Dimensions) you'll see that this kind of thinking is quite old. You and I know that being a feedist isn't inherently part of power play. But there's always been a sizeable chunk of the community that sees it that way.

Look at a lot of the older feedist media. Feeders tend to be coded as doms and feedees tend to be coded as subs. It's so ingrained in people's minds that anything outside of this dynamic is transgressive. In fact, if you look at some BDSM spaces, a lot of people think feedism is an aspect of power play.

It's not. I cannot emphasize how much it's not. But this is a mindset that's developed from the earliest days of the community and cemented by the mainstream not knowing what they're talking about.
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Not a dominant feeder

StoryEnjoyer:
Not really sure what I would be in as a feedee, I am not sure if I would be dominant or submissive, in my minds eye I think it is somewhat neutral a bit of both.


Not all feedists are dominant or submissive. In fact, a good chunk exist outside of power play.
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A curious case...

UKLionheart:
Hey guys,

I am after a little advice, please, but first the background:

My grandmother is in her 90s and has dementia. Some days are better than others, but she needs 24 hour care. The family take it in turns to stay with her so she can be in her own home as long as she can.
She also has carers who go in to help with meals etc.

On Monday and Wednesday, I stay with her for the day and the carer makes dinner for us both.

OK - Here is the relevant bit...

I noticed a few weeks ago that this carer (male) makes me large dinners. I didn't think a lot about it at first, but the meals have definitely been increasing in size over the last few weeks.

Last week, he actually gave me a full Aunt Bessie Roly Poly pudding (300g) in custard. This was in one sitting and the dessert has about 60g of sugar and 22g of fat.

Today, he really went for it and the dinner he made me was so large it was on two plates. Turkey, lots of potatoes, 6 large buttered buns and salad. He also gave me weird "reverse psychology" encouragement saying thing like "If you can't manage it all, just leave what defeated you."

Afterwards, he asked if I wanted cake and ice cream, but I refused.

Now, I am not sure if he is a feeder or if he is thinking that this is some sort of crazy way that he proves he is doing his job. I don't want to ask him outright in case he is not a feeder and it opens a whole can of worms about my Grandmother's care.

I have spoken to some of you on messenger, and I have put a few other comments on the message board, but for those I have not spoken to before, let me clarify my position.

I would love to be an IRL feedee, fattened by a ruthless feeder, but I don't want to just "get fat" I want to be controlled.

So if this guy comes up to me and says he just likes to feed people, it probably would not interest me, but imagine this:

We are in the kitchen, he walks up to me, pokes my belly and says "I've put a lot of work into stretching this."

"What do you mean?" I ask

"I have been giving you increasingly large meals to see how much you could eat. Now I know, I am going to start fattening you up."

I would love that. He would take measurements every week and then give me the large meals. And instead of asking if I want cake and ice cream, he will just give me it and expect me to eat it. I would happily do that.

Does that make sense?

Anyway, the point of my post (finally!) is to ask if anybody could suggest a way I can approach this? Without getting welfare or social services overly involved in my Grandmother's care.

Thanks.


Honestly, it's giving "food is my love language." Your 90 year old grandma has dementia and his declining. You two are clesrly close since you visit her a lot. It's more likely that he's feelding you to comfort you.
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