I don't remember providing you with the context or details of my situation, nor asking for your opinion on it. The fact that you're so hellbent on insisting you're right about everything without knowing anything doesn't make you cool, just makes you a tool.

I wasn't asking FF to "go after ghosters" I literally asked for a cool-down to recreating new accounts which is not a feature that is unheard of. And you know it. Sorry I clearly stepped on a nerve for you, if yuo oknow how the site works, you shouldn't be so easily offended when someone asks for a preventive measure that is pretty standard on social sites

I hate to break it to you but FF does actually enact IP bans when necessary, and not only that IP addresses are publicly available at all times. It is standard protocol and every single website owner on the planet has a way to see the IPs visiting them for this purpose. IP addresses from ISPs and mobile carriers also get rotated frequently so it's not even that big of a deal.

Fantasy does not give one carte blanche to treat others as their particular objects. That's not how that works. It's not a slippery slope, many sites have a basic feature like this that simply prevent someone from re-joining every day, you're just a mansplaining creep

I'm not going to answer the rest of your post because it makes some wild assumptions and you're basically just telling on yourself about a lot of things so you know, have fun with that or whatever.

Exactly what I'm dealing with right now and it blows.

I guess this goes hand-in-hand with the weak blockages thing, too.

I hate to say it and pull this card, but I've been here a LONG time and I'm a premium member, I'm clearly invested in the community as a whole. While that should not be a requirement and I don't expect others to be, I don't think it's too much to ask that we aren't used and manipulated on a constant basis. It feels so weird and just makes me feel gross like I'm an animal in a zoo.

I really hope there is an update to this sooner than later. I do not want to see or be seen by people I block or those who block me. Quite frankly it's upsetting and hurtful. If something doesn't work out or someone is being played/used it sucks to have to see them again and again. This is a standard feature of any social site and it's really bothersome that FF has made blocking as ineffective as possible.

Can there be a cool-down or anything for someone who keeps deleting and creating new accounts? I know it's against the rules to have multiples which is not what I mean. I've never deleted and re-created mine so I am just assuming that the signup process is just email-based, but having an extra measure to prevent block evasions or whatever it is that makes people constantly re-create accounts would be great. Maybe IP matching instead so people can't evade with separate emails.

Not sure if I answered this before but recently told a very good friend about it, she was super cool about it and I had a feeling she would be! We had such a good talk about it—I was actually leaning on her about a ~situation~ that had happened in this community—and there was no way I could tell the story without her knowing about the whole thing and it went off well! Not something I intend to advertise, that's just me, but it's nice knowing that *someone* in my life knows lol

There are a lot of people out there seeking simply casual or feedist-only engagements. However be smart about it: if it becomes a regular thing with someone you must make it a point to check-in and make sure emotional boundaries aren't being blurred. Just because it's a casual thing doesn't mean it's not a relationship of its own kind, it needs its own maintenance. Ensuring both parties are getting what they want out of it and all that jazz.

After seeing a ton of questions about this, helping friends through these conversations, etc., I finally sat down and wrote a guide about how to have the kink talk with your partner, whether or not they are into feedism.

loradayton.com/2022/01/26/how-to-have-the-kink-talk-with-your-partner/

TLDR is this:
1. Ask for consent (yes)
2. Keep it hypothetical
3. Don't make assumptions
4. Be open about your actual feelings (eep!)

we exist! alas, I may be a smidge old for you though

no, it doesn't bother me. None of my friends or families know but it's not like it's their business, but talking about eating/getting stuffed/gaining weight is not inherently sexual to me so it's fine for me to discuss.

though one time I had a friend try to tell me about some very minor and obscure drama/gossip within the community some years ago that she pretended to have heard about from Tumblr (and could very well have been the case) but she REALLY tried to pretend that she found stuffing revolting and it's like... it's ok you can like it lol but I didn't say that.