Exactly what I'm dealing with right now and it blows.

I guess this goes hand-in-hand with the weak blockages thing, too.

I hate to say it and pull this card, but I've been here a LONG time and I'm a premium member, I'm clearly invested in the community as a whole. While that should not be a requirement and I don't expect others to be, I don't think it's too much to ask that we aren't used and manipulated on a constant basis. It feels so weird and just makes me feel gross like I'm an animal in a zoo.

I really hope there is an update to this sooner than later. I do not want to see or be seen by people I block or those who block me. Quite frankly it's upsetting and hurtful. If something doesn't work out or someone is being played/used it sucks to have to see them again and again. This is a standard feature of any social site and it's really bothersome that FF has made blocking as ineffective as possible.

Can there be a cool-down or anything for someone who keeps deleting and creating new accounts? I know it's against the rules to have multiples which is not what I mean. I've never deleted and re-created mine so I am just assuming that the signup process is just email-based, but having an extra measure to prevent block evasions or whatever it is that makes people constantly re-create accounts would be great. Maybe IP matching instead so people can't evade with separate emails.

Not sure if I answered this before but recently told a very good friend about it, she was super cool about it and I had a feeling she would be! We had such a good talk about it—I was actually leaning on her about a ~situation~ that had happened in this community—and there was no way I could tell the story without her knowing about the whole thing and it went off well! Not something I intend to advertise, that's just me, but it's nice knowing that *someone* in my life knows lol

There are a lot of people out there seeking simply casual or feedist-only engagements. However be smart about it: if it becomes a regular thing with someone you must make it a point to check-in and make sure emotional boundaries aren't being blurred. Just because it's a casual thing doesn't mean it's not a relationship of its own kind, it needs its own maintenance. Ensuring both parties are getting what they want out of it and all that jazz.

After seeing a ton of questions about this, helping friends through these conversations, etc., I finally sat down and wrote a guide about how to have the kink talk with your partner, whether or not they are into feedism.

loradayton.com/2022/01/26/how-to-have-the-kink-talk-with-your-partner/

TLDR is this:
1. Ask for consent (yes)
2. Keep it hypothetical
3. Don't make assumptions
4. Be open about your actual feelings (eep!)

we exist! alas, I may be a smidge old for you though

no, it doesn't bother me. None of my friends or families know but it's not like it's their business, but talking about eating/getting stuffed/gaining weight is not inherently sexual to me so it's fine for me to discuss.

though one time I had a friend try to tell me about some very minor and obscure drama/gossip within the community some years ago that she pretended to have heard about from Tumblr (and could very well have been the case) but she REALLY tried to pretend that she found stuffing revolting and it's like... it's ok you can like it lol but I didn't say that.

What I think is that it's disgusting and dehumanizing to use feedists who have eating disorders as a mere token of discussion in a sexual conversation. and it's also irresponsible to encourage them to do so or imply that it can help. Having the kink and having an ED can both happen, but feedism is a kink, nothing more. ED treatment would help someone cope with feedism, not the other way around.

and nonethless, it is vile that you even thought it was a serious question to ask. Eating disorders can be fatal.

This is not a conversation for you.

absolutely not. No. NO. This is such an irresponsible question to even consider. Only—ONLY—qualified medical and mental health providers can do this. I cannot even believe I have to say that out loud.

a kink is not a treatment for a disorder. Literally what is wrong with you.