You can have some comments prepared to try and use at appropriate moments. Like
-"Yay, food is here! I hate being hungry"
-"This is good. Im not saying it is great food, but food is frikkin great in general, you know?"
-"I hate the Kardashians with their fake asses. You want a big ass? Eat some cheeseburgers."

Just little things to set a tone that you view food positively and aren't anti-fat. Then see if they pick up on that, and echo any of it back to you. If they do, then youcould try being a bit more open.

Bicepsual, nice that the sisters have each other for support these days

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In my family I have an uncle who has packed on at least fifty pounds a few times, then eventually lost it (at his thinnest he is still chunky, lrobably medically obese) . I think if my aunt waa more accepting of fat he'd have naturally become pretty big. I certainly remember the first time seeing him fat when I was a kid, being shocked and pleased (I was already into fat, but in a fat phobic family)

I've never quite been at can't move, but have reached hard to breath and moving beingdone gingerly.

For me to get there takes all day eating. Basically stuffing intestines as well as stomach.

For me a normal person's meal every couple of hours until I'm feeling pretty stuffed and uncomfortable, then start getting more aggressive on the eating. There is usually a point where I think I'm stuffed but then the stomach does one last pass to the intestine, leaving a bit more room which I fill up with something rich and tasty (something I enjoy eating to make it easier to eat well into discomfort). When I feel like swallowing any more would be impossible then i drink as much liquid as I can keep down.

That is just my limited personal experience. Others may have very different approaches.

The enjoyment of the struggle is real for me, on myself or my wife. I don't want us to lose too much functionality, but I'm willing to see a lot of ease lost.

Congratulations x2. Wishing you all much joy.

Snacks!

At first it might behard to remember to snack, but it likely won't take your body long to kearn tbe schedule and to stsrt reminding you with hunger prompts when it is time. Plus certain activities can be a cue to snack.

I don't know your schedule and life, but just for example.
- breakfast
- a snack in the car on theway to work (say 2 poptarts, for about 400 calories)
- 10am have a coffee with plenty of cream and a muffin (probably another 400)
- lunch
- 2pm a bit of chocolate (200 calories)
- 4pm a piece of fruit (50 calories)
- on the drive home a couple more pop tarts (400 calories)
- supper
- 9pm another snack, say a bit of ice cream (250 calories)

None of that is very time consuming, the only part that might seem odd to others is the poptarts but that is in the privacy of your car, and it adds up to 1700 calories in snacks. Personally I find it easy to end up snacking even more than that once I'm in that mode of eating something every couple of hours.

That much snacking can suppress your appetite for meals, but that is when you need just a bit of willpower to make sure you eat something like your normal meals.

Good luck!

And it helps to be doing things with the rest of your life. If you are getting good marks or wirking tough hours or really involved in community theater or are volunteering for a cause you are pationate about, or... ,

Then your story becomes more about that than about you getting fat, and your weight becomes more of a side note.

Yah, some of that is likely diet, some may be hormonal, some is just that the more your body works the more likely cancer is and fat bodies take more work.

We all know that being fat is apt to bring on health issues at a younger age. This is basically a subset of that. (People joke about being so fat that they suddenly die of a heart attack, but generally being fat takes away healthy years more than absolute years, there is apt to be more years of dealing with health issues if you are fat)

You'll find at most beaches and pools a big variety of bodies, once you look beyond your age group. Mostly just enjoying themselves like anyone else.

I've found that whenever I've gained, swimming feels odd at first. I think it is from floating higher in the water because of more fat, so it takes a little bit to adjust the mechanics of the strokes.

I never have, but I've learned to get good at separating my actions from my desires, enough of the time. Then again, I've not gone through years of deliberately gaining, so the experience could be very different.