PurpleJade:
Oh boy… I’m definitely getting caught in it.

Almost done with the 3rd chapter with 1 more left, definitely cutting it close but I’m down for the challenge.

Malvineous:
Here's my theory. From what I've read, the way memory works in your brain is by creating a neural pathway for the event. The more your brain travels that neural pathway (the more you think about it), the stronger it gets, and the easier to access next time. This is why people can easily forget what they had for breakfast yesterday, but they still remember things they had to memorize in school when they were 10 years old, even if it's knowledge that they don't find useful in their daily lives. In the first example, they only thought about it while it was happening and never returned to that neural pathway, whereas in the second, they had to think about it a lot, so they permanently made that memory strong in their minds.

I think fetishes work in a similar way. They create a neural pathway of a trigger, like 'fat = arousal', and the more that gets triggered in their brains, the stronger that connection becomes. Your interest in it may come and go (just like you can go years without thinking about a specific memory), but that connection is permanent and there's no way to weaken it. I think if you don't want to have certain fetishes, your best bet is to not expose your brain to them in the first place.

X_Larsson:
Mostly yes, but I have a bit of objection here. As western society (like so many other civilisations before us!) is now in a stage of moral decline, hedonism and depravation, we see the same pattern happen as in the fall of the roman empire etc. This means a worsening normalisation of fetishes and kinks, which in turn means an ever growing exposure to normally repulsive, or at least unusual, scenarios and relations.

Compare the post 2015 world to what life was like in 1985, heck even in 1995! We did not have bearded "women" winning the Eurovision Song Contest, pride parades everywhere, SLEWS of mainstream movies about gay people, a massive promotion of body mutilation, BDSM, tattoos etc. Don't get me started on the pronounce debacle...

Now, everyone is just supposed to "accept" and "support" all these (objectively) rare manifestations, and they are given a huge display, front and center in so many places.

However, all the adult people in my social and professional circles, myself included, remain as disinterested and/or put off by this as we ever were, in spite of the massive and consistent exposure, year after year.

So in some ways, we are not always becoming curious about, or more prone to deviations, even if we are repeatedly exposed to them in many different situations.

For me personally, the way feedism manifests, as well as what constitutes an ideal feeder/feedee couple relationship, has not really changed even after decades. That is also what other male feeders have stated about themselves.

However, like Malvineous says and research shows, it is not uncommon that people with certain fetishes add more fetishes to their sexual deisres, as they grow older / get more experienced in their previous fetishes.

For me, this is another indication that feedism itself is not a fetish (manifestation of sexual desire in an object, ie shoes or BDSM leather outfit), but rather a sexual identity, like homosexuality.

FatFalcon:
Well most of my friends are married and already have partners. Some of them I haven’t seen in years. Otherwise I would love to get to enjoy doing different things. The biggest challenges that I have are.

1. Finding friends and a partner who can make me feel better without feeling second best. Or better yet being someone’s second choice.

2. I don’t want to be in a one sided situation. Some guys try to get me to go above and below my weight limit. Like really? It’s really confusing what guys want. Like I want to gain to 300 maybe 350 without risking my health. Some guys want me to go beyond my limit. like body contrast as an example. Muscular guy with bigger guy. I don’t fit in to either category.


3. I want someone who can make me happy and not make me feel like an outcast. Like I want someone who can give me the time of day and not feel so lonely. It becomes exhausting when trying to find someone you want to be with and spend time talking with without it being a one sided conversation. I put out but they really don’t put in energy. I just about give up.

Vryvo1:
Yeah I hear ya, I’ve had weirdos like that want to do the same to my big pregnant belly as well

FatFalcon:
It’s infuriating that this is going on. I have had three guys message me and think my stomach is a punching bag. Gut punching is dumb. Especially when trying to find a partner who is into what you are into. I even made it clear that it’s not what I am looking for at all.


Just a meaningful connection would be nice. Being in a relationship with a guy who is into different things would be ideal. No matter if it’s belly rubs or anything like that I would be fine with in a playful way. Gut punching is not playful.

Letters And Numbers:
this is probably a dumb question but have you tried non-fetish focused dating environments?

FatFalcon:
I have tried different websites and dating apps. so far it’s been all down hill. Guys are either too far away or guys who are only interested in hooking up. That’s part of the problem. A majority of the guys are only interested in hook ups and it’s impossible in making a connection to finding a partner.

2seatsalways:
Problem still exists and now on PC this issue is happening. Videos will not load at all.

FF Team:
Video playback not working is a separate issue, and there was a problem over the weekend which has since been fixed, so you will be able to view videos now.

Thumbnails are displaying for me on both mobile and desktop and we've not had any other members get in touch about issues with video thumbnails not displaying. It's difficult to diagnose the problem when we can't replicate the issue users are experiencing, but I will highlight this with hiccupx again.

Thank you for your cooperation and patience.

c00kie
FF Team