Fantasy Feeder

Feeder wife or else??

Swiss Gainer:
Why does anyone give statements on a single quote..and have to be so rude .. at least read all the history …
no one knows her better than me … and no one loves her more than me .. and the opposite… again I'm not looking for couple therapy.. just to understand the tools to use to face a very peculiar topic that put me in a stall.

No one is being rude. We are being blunt.

We can pontificate until the cows come home. But everything we say is a stab in the dark based on whatever information you give us.

Literally the only way to know for certain is to ask.

If you want advice on how to go about doing this or understanding how feedism works, that's perfectly fine. But no one in the entire universe can tell you if your wife is a feeder or not except for your wife.

Talk to her. You are working yourself up over something you don't need to work yourself up about. Maybe she's a feeder. Maybe she isn't. You'll never know until you ask.

What are you afraid of? That she'll end up being a feeder and ask you to get fatter? Or are you afraid that she isn't and you've let your weight get out of hand? Or is it a secret third thing?

1 year

Munchies

Feeder wife or else??

Swiss Gainer:
I know that you all expect that I want to hear as an answer that she is a feeder.

but honestly “nop” my hope was for a love language of food or over-caring … now I m not worried but…

No, I want you to have a conversation with you wife about your concerns. I do not care one way or another if she's a feeder or not. I'm not the one married to her.

1 year

Munchies

Feeder wife or else??

Swiss Gainer:
To foreverFFA and Munchies
Yes, I am worried to ask ..

about 50 extra kgs in 2 years and about what you two just said, now I’m a bit worried .. I thought that was quite natural for a couple gain weight when are settled together even if I was conscious that 25 per year was just quite over the normal fluctuations..

To munchies
Why you say “I can see why you think she's a feeder”

As a female feeder myself, I've seen other feeders do these things. However, as someone from a culture where food is a valid love language, I cannot say for certain that this is what is it. You yourself mentioned that there may be a non-fetish reason for her acting like this.

You put on 50 kg in a few years. That can't be all her doing. I put about 50 kg on my partner, but he was a willing and active participant in all of this. He kept himself stuffed pretty much all day and I had to force him to eat healthier and exercise.

So it's entirely possible that she feeds you because she knows you like it but doesn't want you to feel bad about it.

That said, what are you worried about?

That said,

1 year

Munchies

Feeder wife or else??

Swiss Gainer:
I have no conclusions so far, and for that, I'm here.

considering that I have spent every day of the last 3 years, happily and deeply in love with her, I don't need to be “ Mr Gibson of criminal mind profiling”, I think I'm able to detect any slowly and slight behavioural changes in her, the same changes which made me suppose that she might have some kind of feeling towards my gain.

what is about this change and what forms, Well, I Still, don't know..

I don't like “the list” because you can't paint everyone with the same brush on the ground of the list or define someone.

However, if a list is required, I can summarize a few of those that caught my attention like exceedingly denying the evidence of my weight gain, increasingly ordering for me more and more food when I'm at work by delivery, even when I ask for for a smaller order; ordering food that she doesn't like and then offering me the food in question that supposedly she dislikes; a sort of hidden disappointment when I don't eat (nothing evident only slightly perceivable since I well know her), and kind of new recent things that she does in our intimacy all that associated with her slightly recent weight loss.

I can see why you think she's a feeder. However, if you want to confirm it, it's best to ask her.

1 year

Munchies

Feeder wife or else??

ForeverFFA:
If she has openly said that she loves your size (which is different than loving you at your size), then she has already basically admitted to being an fa.

Can I ask why you are worried it would offend her to gently ask her if she thinks she might be a feeder?

I see why you might think that and disagree with Munchies (slightly) just because most wives don't manage to put 50 extra kilos on their husbands within a few short years of marriage.

You're right. The average person won't gain 50 kilos (110 lbs) within a few years of marriage. But to gain 50 kilos in a few years requires a whole lot more that being regularly overfed. And since he didn't give his full life story, I can't say how much of his gain she's contributed to.

1 year

Munchies

Feeder wife or else??

Swiss Gainer:
I do care about her feelings very much and the last thing I want is to make her uncomfortable, embarrassed or ashamed of whatever her preferences or mindset and yes, I don’t mind how these preferences will affect my weight,
I haven’t to please anyone other than her, and to be honest the thought that she like or she might have this “preferences or whatever you want to call”, is the only thing that made me accept, and even smile at times, to all the silly stupid gross comments from relatives and friends on my weight.. that would otherwise have made me “uncomfortable”.

About her preferences, she likes me big, she is my wife, she loves me she will never do anything different than for love I'm at my actual size thanks mostly to her “extra attention on my diet…. that’s where all my thoughts on this topic are coming from; about my body, she usually minimizes when I say that I gained and when I share my clothing size problems, she is always caring providing or supporting in shopping together on the other side.

My question is how did you even come to the conclusion she's a closeted feeder? Everything you are describing sounds like normal wife stuff

1 year

Munchies

Favourite accidental feederism?

Mr Smith:
Yeah peta can be pretty funny. Though things like this do make me wonder sometimes.

You and the rest of the internet.

1 year

Munchies

Favourite accidental feederism?

Mr Smith:
Can be anything for me cartoons and stock images seem to be most prevalent but it is in all media.

Munchies:
PETA's anti-fois gras campaign is hands down my favorite case of accidental feedism.

Some examples:

Everything is so overtly sexualized - which is the norm for PETA. But this specifically comes off as feedist BDSM. And I am not confident that is what PETA was going for.

Mr Smith:
🤣 Thing is a lot of accidental stuff has a reasonable explanation but that is just bonkers so obviously fetish looking. Imo it's in some ways weirder making something like this if you don't have feederism fetish.

PETA's campaigns are all about show and pageantry. And they often post things that feel fetish-y. But it's supposed to be a reason why you should be vegan. I remember coming across a picture of an older man sucking an anthro cow's titty. Felt like soft core porn, ngl.

1 year

Munchies

What does it feel like to go from fit to fat?

HectorConvector:
I used to be 127lbs and am now over 205lbs is that enough?

I used to be practically anorexic though, so at my current weight I have more energy than I did then actually. My belly is sticking out a lot though and can get in the way.

Good on you for overcoming that. That couldn't have been easy. Here's to staying in a good headspace.

1 year

Munchies

Favourite accidental feederism?

Mr Smith:
Can be anything for me cartoons and stock images seem to be most prevalent but it is in all media.

PETA's anti-fois gras campaign is hands down my favorite case of accidental feedism.

Some examples:

Everything is so overtly sexualized - which is the norm for PETA. But this specifically comes off as feedist BDSM. And I am not confident that is what PETA was going for.

1 year

Munchies