Friendly reminder that most people do this without anything sexual behind it. Unless you respond or comment in a suspicious way, no one is going to know.

Getting fat isn't as enjoyable if you can't be a person too. Good luck to you in finding your balance.

From what I've seen and heard from the ultra-supersized crowd, your options are getting custom-sized clothes, getting things tailored, or making them yourself.

That is impressively wide. Are you going to keep on the gain train, or are you still trying to slow down?

Good luck on whatever you decide.

In my personal opinion, people who value you less as you gained never valued you at all.

May 2024 lead to bigger and better things for us all.

And for my fellow Americans, good luck this election cycle. No matter your political stance, we are all going to need it.

People's bodies change all the time. How you look now will not be how you look later.

Ever see couples that have been together 40, 50, 60 years? Specifically the ones that are still in love with each other? They put in the work to achieve that. The truth is that no matter what your partner looks like, you can lose attraction to them anytime. And telling them "I'm not attracted to you," or "I'm less attracted to you," puts the burden on them.

And unless they are doing something no reasonable person would put up with like not bathing or being obnoxious, then it's a you issue, not a them issue.

My partner loves busty women. And I am very busty. If I went down several cup sizes and he said "I'm not attracted to you anymore," or "I find you less attractive," I'd be destroyed.

You have some things you need to work through - things that are not his burden to bear. If he asks, you can tell him "I'm sorry babe. I'm working through some things. They are not your fault, and you did nothing wrong. When I'm done, I'll tell you about it."

In the mean time, ask yourself if you can find other reasons to be attracted to him. When my partner decided to lose weight, he was terrified of me losing attraction to him. That never happened. If anything, the closer we get, the more I find myself attracted to him. Some of it involves me finding different reasons to be attracted to him. Like the growing muscle in his arms or how he has really nice cheekbones I never saw before. The rest is appreciating the things that don't change like his broad shoulders or sweet smile.

It's also important to find non-sexual reasons to be attracted to your partner. For me, it's things like how he makes me feel safe or his wicked sense of humor.

If you can find it in yourself to maintain your attraction, tell him. "Babe, I was worried I'd lose my attraction to you. But after thinking things through, I realize that's not going to be a problem." If you can't then you should probably end things. If not, the relationship will wither away and become filled with resentment.

It's this weird combo of patriarchy mixed with capitalism.

To be clear, I am not talking about the gross kind of guy that expects a free wank session on a feedee's dime. I am also not talking about people who have mutually decided for the feeder to pay for the feedings.

This specific kind of ick started on TikTok. Some plus-sized woman told her followers to find feeders for an easy buck. It dehumanized men by distilling them down to just being "providers" and increased the number of scammers. I've heard of and experienced women (some were catfish) sliding into DMs demanding money for food.

It's the inverse of guys that think feedees (and women in general) exist for their sexual pleasure. It's nowhere near the same level of harm, but it is harmful.