CreamFilling:
I just spent some time reading through this thread. The conversation itself was illuminating. I am new to the fat positive community.
I freely admit I found this site because I was looking for a job I could do online from home. I did not know what it was. The site was mentioned in an article I read relating to eating on webcam for money.
Then I found the chat room. And a 9 day bender ensued. What do you mean fat positive? You guys really think a person being fat is a good thing? What do you mean I'm sexy? I was shocked. I wasn't sure what to think. And I had no idea this was a dating site. It was overwhelming. 3 weeks later (when I came down from cloud nine), I finally contacted site admin, and was told about the model thing. And it was, oh yeah right, the reason I came here in the first place.
I have made so many wonderful friends in the past month. And blocked several ppl on Skype and elsewhere. Golddigger my ass. I needed a job. And now I have one. And an idea of what to do for a career.
I was sick of having no purpose in life. And of feeling worthless. In this community I am valued. Because I have finally found acceptance, I am overcoming my fear and my shame about my size.
And also achieving financial independence, which was always my goal. I'm sick of living on disability.
So no. I am not a golddigger. Just a fat girl. Who needed this site. And these people. All of you.
And instead of giving in to agoraphobia, I went to a bar last night. By myself. Just a local pub down the street. But more interaction with real life than I had had in years. I haven't spent more than a day inside in over 2 weeks now.
I'm winning this battle. Finally. I will not waste another moment of my life feeling ashamed of my body.
By finding social acceptance I am learning self acceptance.
And remembering who I used to be, before I let the world convince me I had no value.
To then be slut shamed or poor shamed or called a Golddigger is a bit shitty. I do not believe I have done anything wrong.
That's just my 2 cents. Make of it what you will.
I thought I'd quote your whole post because it's so good I want it to stay up even if you leave.
There are a lot of 'normies' who are against Fat Acceptance as they say it's encouraging people to be obese.
I think it is wrong to tell people they should be fat just the same as it's wrong to tell anyone what they SHOULD be. What we have been oppressed by is people telling us what we should be and in the case of fat people it's that they should be slim.
Once you know that there are people who love fat people and people who love being fat then you know you're OK. It seems that this has been kept secret from you as it was from everyone here until they discovered Fat Acceptance.
It's now a very big thing in the main stream but has got rather a bad name as it's being promoted by feminazis. They are countering the pressure of people being told they should be slim and only like slim people by telling anyone who is not attracted to fat people that they are bad.
Acceptance is the key. To know what you now know, that fat is sexy for many people.
