Not into this but this forum strangely comforts me

JN_TumLover56:
You know I’m not exactly crazy about the kink as I used to. However I also do find that reading into these forums/threads do sometimes make me feel that bit of comfort. Or at best give me some kind of insight into a better understanding about the world of either the kink itself or just being someone who’s into larger people.

From when I found out about my interests within larger people I did knew about the stigmatization and the guilt that comes with it, but I’ve always wanted to find a place where I don’t have to be ashamed of myself anymore or at least a lot less guilt?? Either way it is kinda nice to be in a place without the outside noise from society telling someone how incorrect their body is and that you have to fix it to be more acceptable. kinda a breath of fresh air if you ask me?

Also I also kinda find it interesting for how in a community like this there’s some kind of an understanding when it comes to weight change. It’s almost there’s a nuance towards it, compared to the outside where it’s so noisy and how weight loss is celebrated like hardcore. 😅 Maybe I’m sounding a little extra, but that’s what I have noticed anyways.

Now yes as you probably already notice, I am not a bigger person myself. But I believe that there is a place for someone like me (someone who’s into bigger people) to belong to a place like here. And trust me, the negative noise out there can affect people like me too. Maybe not that often, but it does happen.


There is no reason to feel proud or ashamed for something you didnt conciously decided!
1 year

Not into this but this forum strangely comforts me

123456kevin:
I’ve been dealing with an ED for a while due to beauty standards, I feel like I have to starve myself cause I’m ugly if I’m not skinny and no one will ever love me. I’m not into this but this forum is strangely comforting when I’m really deep in my ED, that some people wouldn’t find me ugly for my chubby appearance. So uh- Thanks for existing ig?


Beauty standards, especially for women, are completely ridiculous and stupid. Please, be aware, you dont need to subscribe to a stupid idea!

(i'd write a wall of text, expanding on this, but i'm not sure if anyone would appreciate it)
1 year

Idk why it’s weird to like larger women

Munchies:
Idk, but I'm also black, so Imma leave that one up to the white people to figure out.


Im curious on why you would say that. Do you think the color of your skin affects your ability to judge the sppearance of people that have a different colored skin? (propably not)

Im also asking because i know that you’re really not uncomfortable with expressing your opinion on others' sppearances (and im not saying this as a bad thing, im just making an observation), so why is race the consideration for what is axeptable or not?
1 year

Old dude with thoughts on the community

Maybe it is too early to speak about solutions to problems, we have not yet identified clearly (i think what has been mentioned so far is somewhat surface-level observations) but, i think this should be also mentioned, an element that is missing is a lack of intentionality in the conversations that have to do with the betterment of our communities.

In general, people want to fix what annoys them, not problems, necesarily. And the rarely go on a theoretical analysis to identify their problems correctly (or at least, to not confuse symptoms as their problems). For example most people have a sentiment against comercialization, they will identify it as a problem and if the space allows them, they will try to push back on it. Thats one thing. It is another thing entierly to actually build community.

I've tried to do a few things with, more or less, the intend to improve FF in fundamental ways (for example i have asked Hiccupx to create a forum-like space, but one in which people will engage in a hegelian dialectic when in it, i dont know what's going on with that request. I could try to share this somewhere though!) but it seems that each time i end in bigger and bigger trouble.

And on that note i want to ask for advice. I do want to see a better community and i do want to participate in community building. What can i do? (meaning, what can a person do to at least faciliate this process of community building?)
1 year

Old dude with thoughts on the community

Im really interested in this discussion, as with others similar to it.

I think all these characteristics you two mention are true, and i can see this being an effect of people mentally degrading, mostly due to working much harder due to economic crisis. Many people dont even have the time to think. Either they are wasting up in a gig economy job, or they collapse into a couch and recoop for the next day. This, then, means that people dont develop at all! Ideas, from the worldview of someone to something pragmatic like "how do i attract a partner" remain at a shallow level, almost as if waiting to be refined. People in general are very shallow now (On the other hand, im not convinced that the situation has ever been much better).

EDIT: Narcissism! I forgot about narcissism! So, our (western) culture encourages and glorifies more and more narcissism. It is very likely that much of the behavior you inscribed is also an effect on the increased levels of narcissism, among the general population.

What do you think?
1 year

Unorthodox feminization

First of all, this is a wonderful thread! 😂

Im really uncomfortable with cum shallowing, but i enjoyed very much all the rest!

So, ive seen this term being thrown a bit lately on Tumblr, "Lard locked", which refers to the situation of a feedee's genitals being completely burried under their fat pad!

Id definetely love to be fattened up to that point, no doubt! O.o

The other thing i wanted to say, in response to the mention of androgyne, is that i think maybe some people are into some kind of... I dont know what term to use but, act like child subs? For example i really really love being called "good boy", or "fat boy". It makes me feel like i can be an irresponsible feedee who can just eat, cum and sleep all the time, preferably even on the request of a hypothetical mommy dome feeder girlfriend who will take all responsibility, but also control with it, away from me!

Like... I dont get the same kick at all from being called "fat guy"!
1 year

Do not date, save your self

Munchies:
FF is not a dating site.


Out of curiosity...
There *is* actually a section in profiles about dating interests / characteristics or whatever. Doesnt that make FF a dating site by design, at least among other things?
1 year

Moderation.

(also, increase some more the character limit maybe? 😅)

And i would like to talk to some mods about a number of things, not entierly specific to moderation (can i dm someone?)
1 year

Moderation.

I want to respond to what you said C00kie, but this also goes to everyone who's interested in this discussion. Any criticism on my points is welcome.

On threads going off topic (derailment):
There seems to be confusion around the issue. That's either because of a lack of clear line between what counts as derailment and what doesnt, or that line is poorly placed. The latter seems more likely acording to my experience. There have been instances where people percieve a clarification question (and the conversation that comes out of it) as a derailment. That should certainly not happen.

The purpose of moderation is simple: to ensure that site rules are followed so that everyone can enjoy a safe and positive space. These rules aren’t complex but are designed to maintain respect and safety for all members.


This is perhaps the most importand thing to talk about. You (the mods) are honestly doing an excelent job here, and i mean this sincerely. The cases in which a mistake happens from your side (and acording to the objectives you have as moderators) are too rare to account for the frustration people have.

To cut a long story short, i think the very goals of the rules, which you enforce, are not great. There is a lot of nuance that is not taken into account by them. I see that this domain (of community management) has been investigated on a very surface level only. Thats not specific to FF thought. The majority of online communities of all kinds seems to suffer from this. Its just that usually the problem doesnt manifest since conversations on issues that demand a more developed ability to think and communicate, dont really happen. But this also means that when such a conversation does take place, the reaction is usually to shut it down.

Recently, several threads have been closed due to veering off-topic. Our moderators are doing their job by enforcing the guidelines we’ve set. The goal isn’t to stifle discussion, but to prevent unproductive exchanges that can lead to frustration or arguments. When conversations stray from the topic, they often devolve into back-and-forth disagreements that derail genuine discussion. In these cases, closing the thread is sometimes necessary to prevent escalation and ensure the forums remain constructive.


Again, thats the right uproach acording to the rules, but often the participands may end up going in the other direction, which is to settle the matter they disagree on!

And there is something else to be said here. Even if the argument escalates, shutting it down is nothing more than a symptomatic treatement. It doesnt solve any problems, and in fact makes them worse by making them more unoticeable (because the way to notice a problem is through the symptoms it causes) and thus reducing the likelyhood of them being fixed.

(I dont have something to add/say about the next paragrpah, i skip it here. The one after it contains multiple points which i will have to break down a little bit!)

Finally, I want to remind everyone of the importance in online communication. Without the benefit of facial expressions or tone of voice, written words can sometimes come across more harshly than intended.[quote/]

People decide (usually uncocniously) how to interpret words. In enviroments where people are not concious of how they decide this, it is often the case that some thing will necesarily have to be said, that will innevitably make someone react in an unproductive way.

Also, tone policing (which is something that happens in most online communities) is really bad for a couple reasons. The one in best aware of, is that it encourages people who behave abuively to mask their behavior. That innevidably makes moderation more difficult.

[quote]While I try to give everyone the benefit of the doubt, I understand how sensitive topics can lead to passionate discussions. Let’s all be mindful of how we communicate with one another. If you think someone or something is inappropriate or breaking site rules, please highlight it with a moderator through the various tools.[quote/]

Well... lets call things by their names; there is no such thing as a sensitive topic, it is a very common misconception. The very phrase doesnt even make sense, if you notice. You can say that some people are less able to discuss these, which immedientaly opens up an other, and i think better, way of handling this issue.

[quote]We do monitor the site daily, but with thousands of members and just a few of us, it can be a challenge to catch everything right away. Your help in self-moderating the community is incredibly valuable. Reporting issues when you see them allows us to respond more effectively, and working together is the best way to ensure this space remains enjoyable for everyone.


Last point, any kind of self-moderation would be *massively* helped with a code of conduct that will go in adequate depth. We do not have tha
1 year

Ai feeder

Reddoughpiggy:
Looking to playing in scripting for LLM AI to create an app to act as a fat coach/ encouragement for wieght gain! Any feature you folks want to see ?


I know its a bit off topic, but im really curious. Have you investigated the ethics of something like that?
1 year