My fiance and I have discussed this many many times over the years. His personal preference is very fat without becoming immobile, which aligned with my own weight gain goal and limit. It isn't so much about whether someone is attractive as whether the feedee partner is living the life they want without limitations being too much
10 months
My fiance hasn't exclusively been with big women, but he definitely loves the contrast. He is tall, lean, and fit... I'm short and bigger around than I am tall. When I started getting up in the 500 range, I asked him if he was enjoying my size or if he was more turned on when I was in the 300s. He responded that, on me, he found extreme girth sexy and said he loved that I am bigger than 99 percent of women. He also knew I was really enjoying being super obese, and he said my confidence, which was increasing along with my weight, was a turn on.
10 months
At home, my belly is intentionally exposed, probably 80% of the time. I have even trimmed t-shirts to expose my abdomen and side rolls. I tend to run very very hot, and it helps me stay cool when my tummy isn't stuffed into clothing.
10 months
The first time I reached 30,000 calories in a day, I had a bloated tight belly 4 or 5 days. I also continued overeating daily, though not to that extent. But then, I woke up about 6 days later, and It felt as though the bloat had turned to thick fat. I also felt that my muffin top had become thicker. Sitting, showering... So many new sensations. I even felt heavier when I walked. Boy, those were the days, lol.
10 months
Roundingout66:
Last night one of my hometown friends who has got to be over 350lbs was visiting and we went all out. The food we both ate was insane but putting only what I ate in order:
-4 IPAs (760cals)
-chorizo nacho tray (900cals)
-2 margaritas (500cals)
-chicken flautas (840cals)
-onion rings (600cals)
-guacamole bacon burger (930cals)
-2 IPAs (380cals)
-half bag Ruffles (800cals)
-French onion dip (275cals)
-2 IPAs (380cals)
-chocolate fudge brownie ice cream (1050cals)
Total over 7600cals
Holy moly!! Well done!
10 months
AskDrFeeder:
One of the downsides of getting fat is the social stigma.
I've always thought the best way to deal with that is to make fat friends, and possibly to dump thin friends.
Has anyone done this?
Has it helped?
Is it easier to make fat friends than thin ones?
BigBallBellyGirl:
Ehhh, I've always been fat, and I was outgoing in school, so I seemed to find my crew pretty easily. I also had friends among the thin popular group. I think because I was so unabashedly myself, I wasn't too much of a target for teasing. It's hard to tease someone who either doesn't care or enjoys it
As an adult, I'm by far the fattest of our social group. One friend was probably 160-175 and got into fitness. She is now super lean. Another blew up when he got a desk job and now sports a big pot belly. They're still the same people they've always been though, and my weight doesn't really come up unless we are going somewhere as a group, and they want to make sure I would be okay in the physical setting.
JN_TumLover56:
Sounds like you are lucky to have such great and loyal friends!
Oh, I consider myself very fortunate. We hear stories all the time in this community about spouses losing attraction due to weight gain, family nagging, random strangers criticizing. There have been a couple of times friends have had questions if I was out of breath, but I never perceived anything judgmental. I'm quite thankful for it.
10 months
I've never asked a random person to touch me in any way, but I did once demonstrate to a non-feedist friend how tight my belly was after a giant meal by poking my finger into it to show there was no give. We were in a large group, and everyone was intoxicated. She did the same to me and commented the top of my gut was like a drum.
10 months
BigBallBellyGirl:
I've been planning to keep my weight in this general neighborhood, but I fell off the maintenance wagon hard last night at all you can eat sushi, and I have been eating ever since. Last night, I had 56 pieces with tempura vegetables and tempura shrimp. I woke up very bloated and also very hungry, and I have been eating continuously. It's so hard, when you were addicted to being overstuffed beyond your limits for a long time, to go back to regular meals. There was something so pleasurable about being packed like a drum, with my belly feeling bloated and sensitive, I haven't been able to stop myself. I've had around 14,000 calories so far today, and i know I'll gain some weight from this, but I'm going to give myself a day off from maintenance and get as stuffed as I want to. I've genuinely missed the feeling of physically ballooning outward from over indulgence. And tomorrow is another day!
Delta9:
What are your maintenance calories? For someone your size it's probably still a lot. Just wondering. And have you actually gotten that low yet, or just slowed the gain?
My maintenance calories are 4100 to 4300, which I realize by most standards is still pretty generous. I think I struggle so much because I stretched my capacity with some very extreme daily habits. I had just begun maintaining, with only a pound or two of fluctuation, until I stuffed for about 36 hours (with a break to sleep of course). I was up 11 lb this morning, and I probably consumed about 3500 calories today. Tonight I'm only up 9 lb from where I started before I went wild with sushi and continued on a full day feast.
10 months
BigBallBellyGirl:
Agreed. Somewhere outside of the fantasy of endless, hard core gaining is a reality where most of us live. I consumed well over 22,000 calories Tuesday, and those into hard-core gaining would consider that "hot". So do I. I am turned on by the internal sensation of fullness, the swelling/bloating, and stepping on the scale to see the numbers climb. Realistically though, I know where doing that every day leads, because I did it for months at a time. I put on 200 pounds in 13 months. And there's not a world in which that could continue without completely losing independence and mobility. I don't want to get married in December from my bed or give up our honeymoon (which will already present special considerations). It doesn't mean I'm rebelling against this community by not wanting to blow up endlessly. It means that my "fat reality" is now how to keep the weight on but not get much bigger, how to stay active enough that I take some pressure off my knees and back, and what accommodations are necessary for an ambulatory supersized life. I can't talk about that with people outside this community, because honestly, I don't know any other 500 lb people in real life. My fiance has done his own research and built his own knowledge because we have a partnership, but he's 180 lb. This isn't his personal physical reality. And even though my doctor is not fat phobic or dismissive of symptoms, she will point to my size and eating habits as the causes of my blood pressure going up, shortness of breath, and knee issues, because, well, they are. I knew that when I was stuffing myself to oblivion, gaining 10 lb a week. So yes, I appreciate those who recognize maintaining is a part of the conversation, and a part of fat life, too!
Munchies:
Yeah, not a lot of people seem to get it - especially my fellow feeders and FAs. Weight management and weight loss are dirty words. And every moment of weekness is a chance to convince you to give up completely.
We gotta be better than that. And I'm glad people like you aren't afraid to post their truth.
Sincere thanks for the support. Also pointing out, if due to health, personal preference, or any other reason, a person who is obese now chose to lose... But they still enjoy this community (the pictures, the culture, the stories, the connections) they should feel no less welcome here. It is the interest that ties us together, not necessarily the physical attribute.
10 months
I remember reading somewhere the biggest belly ever measured was 120 inches, and I used to think I wanted to achieve that. Currently -- I'm around 93 inches standing, and I'm dealing with a good bit of back pain, because I carry a lot of visceral fat. I don't really think my body could handle a bigger belly. It's still fun to fantasize though about being 10 ft around!
11 months
