There have been articles questioning the so called obesity rates. For one thing, they changed the definition of obese. Also, the ethnic make up of the US is changing, and the people who are more likely to be obese are increasing in numbers. Drugs with weight gain as a side effect are being used more.

Tell her you are thinking of losing weight, and see if she protests or agrees.

If you don't like the discomfort and the comments, perhaps gaining is not for you. As you get older, you are much more likely to have orthopedic issues. My wife is not gaining on purpose, and in her 60's, she has a lot of pain which is worse than discomfort.

I used to chat on IRC, and had the opposite problem. The people wanted to talk about fattening up their kids. That was so wrong, and I would stop chatting with that person.

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Not all women, even fat ones have big breasts, or even medium ones. It's all genetic. Estrogen helps only if you have the family genetics to grow breasts.

What bugs me, is that when I state that I prefer larger women, people either ask me why, or try to figure it out. If I said I preferred blondes, no one would ask me why,

Women seem insecure in dating men shorter than they are, or men who have breasts bigger than they do. It makes no sense to me.

Fat increases estrogen in males. That is why some of the men here have full size female breasts. If a male's nipples are sensitive like a female, the male is high in estrogen.

Computers, phones, TV's, stereos, etc.