It's tragically comical how often I'll see people making "Is my spouse secretly a feedee?" threads. And every time without fail it's just some person doing regular people things.

Or the feedees terrifying someone will think they are a feedee for buying a carton of heavy cream.

It's the same with the evolutionary essentialism crowd. It's ultimately about legitimizing the taboo. People want to enjoy their fetishes but also want to fit in. Nothing wrong with that. But the way they go about it is very ... having your cake and eating it too.

Sooooo ...

You are attracted to fat women.
And only fat women.
You don't find any other body type attractive.

And you are on a fat fetish website,

My brother in Christ ... that's a fetish.

Being attracted to fat women isn't a fetish. But the way you go about it is inherently fetishistic.

The same goes for any other kind of woman: thin, muscular, thick, tall, short, etc. If you can find different kinds of women attractive - even if you have preferences - then it's not necessarily a fetish. But if you can't find women attractive outside of a specific kind of woman, then it's a fetish.

Here are some suggestions in no particular order:

Take care of your joints. This is extra important when you're super-sized because everything starts disintegrating after a certain point. And if you are already there, try some water exercises to build your strength back up.

If you have trouble reaching, you can get sock aids, shoe horns, and reach extenders. They tend to be pretty cheap and can be major life improvements.

Make sure you are getting enough fiber and water. When you eat a lot, your body has to work overtime to process it. Don't make it harder than it needs to be.

If you're struggling to pleasure yourself, don't be afraid to buy a toy. I recommend getting a wand with an extra-long handle. (To my AFAB peeps who want that internal stimulation, get you a thruster. They are a bit more expensive, but they are amazing.)


DON'T AVOID THE DOCTOR

I repeat

DON'T AVOID THE DOCTOR

Gaining weight increases your risk of several different health complications. It can also exacerbate pre-existing ones. I know many people don't want to go because they don't want to get scolded for getting fat/fatter. But hiding your head in the sand is doing you a huge disservice. Plus, you can get non-weight related illnesses that will never be fixed if you don't go to your appointments. Plus, there are fat-friendly doctors out there you can see instead.

Say less. I got you.

fantasyfeeder.com/forum/posts

Your girlfriend made the thread months ago.

Just one if he's forklift certified.

There are far more men on here than women. Of the women on her, most of them are feedees, gainers, and foodies. There are female feeders on here, but most of us keep it on the down low. We are overall kind of skittish due to the sheer number of horny creeps we have to deal with. So you'll have to be patient.

My best friend is a bigger woman, but she is emphatically not a feedee.

She slimmed down considerably and was loving how she looked and felt. Then she dated a guy that, in hindsight, was at least a chubby chaser. She dumped him for a number of reasons, but one that stuck out was how he was always taking her out to eat and never wanted to go anywhere healthy.

He stayed in shape, but she gained about 30 lbs. They were together for 5 months. Her self-esteem is shot, and she feels gross. I catch her beating herself for not saying no from time to time. She says the reason she went along with it is because the food was good and it made him happy.

This is what happens when you push your fetish onto a non-consenting party. It messes them up and makes them miserable. And if you really loved your girlfriend, you'd never dare do something that would make her miserable.

Lol, I did mean 10k. Typos

It's hard to eat 10k calories a day for a week. You'd have to train yourself to hold that much food, and it will take a toll on your body. Your body wasn't meant to eat that much - let alone over a period of time.

It is possible to put on that much weight in a week. But then you'd have to be eating upwards of 10 calories a day. Plus, some of that weight would be water and food weight.