FatFalcon:
So I decided to regain again and went back to Grommr. Two encouragers are helping me. But odd kinksters who one of which thinks I should be a punching bag with boxing gloves. The other one is into squashing which I am fine with but I am not really into it unless I want a relationship and discuss it. I have been blocked by two guys who really just set me off. I’m starting to think it’s a mistake to gain with that crowd.

MickRidem:
So, it's not really the gain that's a problem, but the company?

Grommr is an ...interesting place. A lot of hit or miss, and some who are outright disrespectful. Is this something you can just do for yourself? Or wait until you feel more comfortable with the company you find?

FatFalcon:
Basically an environment that is actually better and not just cringe worthy. I have been in an out of that community and to me it’s been really just feels like it’s worse than it’s ever been.

2seatsalways:
If anything I'm for your body you do you, but Ozempic being abused for weight loss instead of mainly diabetes is really tragic. Sure there is mounjaro and a small list of others but ozempic was the leading medication that helped millions of patients.
Now those patients are struggling to get ozempic because it's becoming more available for weight loss than helping blood sugar levels.

Hot take I know but rather this pill be used for people who need it.

Munchies:
Yeah. Plus it's coming out that a decent size of people who are taking this are experiencing permanent side effects.

But that's not about fat exceptance.

PurpleJade:
Curious as to what side effects you’re saying, of listed on webmd all seem standard and pretty expected of a medication. Anything different you’ve heard in particular? My S/O is trying to be approved. I’m not really for it, but that’s not my decision.

Malvineous:
I'm addressing this to people who say they love contrast. I'm curious as to whether the contrast is actually what most people here are into, or if it's just a preference for a partner of a particular size. Maybe I'm way off base, but I get the impression that with many people who say they love contrast, it's just a way to reframe their physical attractions around a secondary effect that they like.

I suppose what I'm trying to get at is, if you're fat and prefer thin partners for instance, do you prefer thin partners because there's contrast? Or do you enjoy the contrast that happens because of your attraction to thin partners? Would your preference change if you were also thin, or would you still prefer thin people regardless of there being no contrast?

Milhause:
I think this is slightly chicken vs. egg territory because for a lot of ppl, asking them to articulate why they’re attracted to something is difficult. Sure, I can list reasons why I prefer a larger partner but at the end of the day the reason I’m attracted to that body type is simply… because that’s how I’m wired.

I like contrast but there’s definitely a preference involved. I’m not short, but at 5’8” I’m also not super tall. I’ve dated taller women in the past (contrast) but ultimately the attraction wasn’t as strong as when i dated women closer to my height but more plus size.

IGotFat0817:
I'm finally back on track with my weight gain journey to 300 lbs. The biggest advice I've come to acknowledge is: to eat even if you are not hungry at all.

As a person who has a fast metabolism (and it's slowing down finally at the age of 31), This is a HUGE advice for me. My appetite has grown because of it, sometimes it gets a lil scary to be able to cram more food in. My mindset is literally shifting to food. Don't eat to live, Live to eat.

I haven't weighed myself yet, but I FEEL fluffier and heavier. 150 lbs was my highest weight, and I miss that feeling. Now it seems like I will move pass that point in no time.

What is an advice you received or researched which helped you cross the threshold into obesity?

Pigpigpig:
Gonna second cooking with heavy cream, so many delicious things you can make with it! Fettucine alfredo is a personal favorite, my gf adds some to scrambled eggs and it makes their texture really fluffy. If you drink coffee you can also replace half and half/milk with heavy cream.

Personally, I'd never drink it straight up, but it works for some people. I'd rather enjoy myself on the way to getting huge than force it.

Xenonprincess:
Generally breeding is more of a biological urge that most of the population gets (not all but definitely a majority). Read almost any romance novel and the idea of "breeding" is present. Big bellies are very sexy in this community too. Most women are socialized to be (as well as sometimes naturally are more) submissive. Men especially when interacting with women in this sort of context feel entitled to sexual interactions so women who are dominant are less likely to put up with that sort of behavior. I don't think it's more common in the fetish, just more common on forums.

Munchies:
You have confused breeding kinks with the biological urge to reproduce. You have also confused having a breeding kink with power play.

Breeding kinks are all about having sex with a chance to be pregnant. It often coincides with a pregnancy kink, but they are two different things. It's super common to be into breeding and not pregnancy.

It's also super common to enjoy breeding without the power play or for the person being bred to be the dominant one.

Xenonprincess:
I am just talking about my experience with what people mean when they talk about a breeding kink. Usually they are discussing actually wanting kids and getting/wanting to get pregnant without any interest in the 'kink' part. A lot of people tend to call the biological urge a kink. They usually just want to get to the point they can have kids with their partner. I know some who do have the fetish but they talk about it much differently than most people do and I only know 3.

2seatsalways:
If anything I'm for your body you do you, but Ozempic being abused for weight loss instead of mainly diabetes is really tragic. Sure there is mounjaro and a small list of others but ozempic was the leading medication that helped millions of patients.
Now those patients are struggling to get ozempic because it's becoming more available for weight loss than helping blood sugar levels.

Hot take I know but rather this pill be used for people who need it.

Arfacode:
something that i have noticed lately is that people are getting extremely angry at the existence of weight loss injections and people using them.
when the fat people they hate so much start losing weight in a new way they don't like they start trying to find reasons to justify denying its use and keep insulting them. it really exposes the fact that all they wanted was a reason to insult somebody for how they look

Casual Gainer:
Reminds me of a post I saw where someone mocked a fat person for trying to lose weight at a gym.

Although I think this was a YouTube Reddit r/facepalm compilation video, so at least they were getting mocked for it.

Malvineous:
I'm addressing this to people who say they love contrast. I'm curious as to whether the contrast is actually what most people here are into, or if it's just a preference for a partner of a particular size. Maybe I'm way off base, but I get the impression that with many people who say they love contrast, it's just a way to reframe their physical attractions around a secondary effect that they like.

I suppose what I'm trying to get at is, if you're fat and prefer thin partners for instance, do you prefer thin partners because there's contrast? Or do you enjoy the contrast that happens because of your attraction to thin partners? Would your preference change if you were also thin, or would you still prefer thin people regardless of there being no contrast?

Malvineous:
Here's my theory. From what I've read, the way memory works in your brain is by creating a neural pathway for the event. The more your brain travels that neural pathway (the more you think about it), the stronger it gets, and the easier to access next time. This is why people can easily forget what they had for breakfast yesterday, but they still remember things they had to memorize in school when they were 10 years old, even if it's knowledge that they don't find useful in their daily lives. In the first example, they only thought about it while it was happening and never returned to that neural pathway, whereas in the second, they had to think about it a lot, so they permanently made that memory strong in their minds.

I think fetishes work in a similar way. They create a neural pathway of a trigger, like 'fat = arousal', and the more that gets triggered in their brains, the stronger that connection becomes. Your interest in it may come and go (just like you can go years without thinking about a specific memory), but that connection is permanent and there's no way to weaken it. I think if you don't want to have certain fetishes, your best bet is to not expose your brain to them in the first place.

Baronbeta:
I think this checks out. I’ve tried to reduce the effect femdom has on me, even erase it by any means possible I found online, and nothing worked. I could put it to the back burner for a bit, but sooner or later, I’d hear a phrase from a person or TV, or see something that immediately triggered a response and it came flooding back.

Currently, I’m able to tel myself I don’t want to be fat and can eat a normal portion. And yet other times, like yesterday, I’m happily indulging in a double burger and fries from Shake Shake (my wife kept feeding me the fries wtf!) and snacking on available cookies. And yet I can tell myself I don’t want the extra weight…

I’m worried it’s already been neurally tied to my love of femdom and is just here to stay at this point…