Bigdaddy:
My question is, my GF is she a feedee?
For the past year we have been dating I’ve told her I like curvy woman. She is slightly chubby. I asked her if she would be into gaining more weight. She freaked out. So I’ve dropped the topic. Started buying her donuts she ate them. Then started buying cakes and cookies lots. We chill and watch TV at night I’ll bring out the cookies she gets mad at me but by the end of the show she’s killed 20 cookies. It’s gotten worse, bag of chip a night a loaf of bread a day, on average 6 donuts a week. She’s put on about 80lbs. I tell her she looks good and she freaks out. I’ll bring the food out at night she’s mad again but eats all of it until she’s stuffed burping etc.
is she a feedee?

Mobius:
Putting yourself out there for one. Sites like this help a lot, given the niche community.

But it's a lot like anything else when looking for a relationship, whether that be platonic or romantic. You strive to find a community and seek out like minded people.

Be communicative and make sure you're both on the same page about what you want. However that sort of thing takes time in order to establish a meaningful connection.

SlyFox:
Thank you so much! These are very helpful pointers

Mobius:
Hopefully that helps.

Also, and I am sure you know this. But bears saying, sometimes it can be really exciting to find someone local. Like any sort of situation exercise caution and discernment with meeting up.

Angelette:
When I first started out, I have gotten messages as usual from guys. Even if I hardly say a word. Now, it has toned down and I get messaged from people I know.

Even on my old account from 3 months back the same thing happened. Makes me wonder what happens if I switched the gender settings?

2seatsalways:
Chat helps for views but yeah I've gotten them as well. Just be careful tis the season to scam

Wowthatsbig:
Hi. Hope this gets buried in the forum. Need a place to put my thoughts and any feedback from others is welcome.

Me and this girl have been seeing each other for a while. She's a big name in the community. Pun intended.

It's been on and off for a while and everytime I think we're making progress one of us backslides in the relationship.

She lives 2 hours away.

I work 60 weeks.

She's an amazing person but she's got her own struggles.

Take her struggles and mine and it just doesn't seem to work.

But dear God I want it to work. At least I think I do. I don't know. She's such an excellent person and I've been more vulnerable and intimate with her than anyone I ever have.

I think I'm afraid it isn't working so I quit trying.

And now shes with other people while we still message and hurts.

Thanks for listening.

Munchies:
Bro, if you don't feel like it's working, and you can't handle being just friends, then move on.

What benefit does it bring either of your guys to stay in this zombie of a relationship? Just let it die. Are you so afraid to be single? Or are you terrified that you won't find another play partner?

Wowthatsbig:
Damn. Zombie of a relationship. That hit the nail on the head. I don't mind being single it's more the fear that I'm unlovable. That's not the right word but I can't think of a better one. Incompatible?

BigFox:
Anyone els getting a random influx of new profile views from new accounts?

Wowthatsbig:
Hi. Hope this gets buried in the forum. Need a place to put my thoughts and any feedback from others is welcome.

Me and this girl have been seeing each other for a while. She's a big name in the community. Pun intended.

It's been on and off for a while and everytime I think we're making progress one of us backslides in the relationship.

She lives 2 hours away.

I work 60 weeks.

She's an amazing person but she's got her own struggles.

Take her struggles and mine and it just doesn't seem to work.

But dear God I want it to work. At least I think I do. I don't know. She's such an excellent person and I've been more vulnerable and intimate with her than anyone I ever have.

I think I'm afraid it isn't working so I quit trying.

And now shes with other people while we still message and hurts.

Thanks for listening.

FatLime:
I feel like everyone is chasing size and weight, so they try to fatten up the bigger feedee. In large communities I rarely get any messages at all, let alone donations for fattening

Bv333:
It's way too common, and if they didn't have such success doing it, it wouldn't be so common. One of the biggest red flags imo is if their profile said "looking for feeders" (plural). Or if you get into a conversation and you suggest going on a date (you know, like normal fucking people do regardless of kinks and fetishes) and they suggest an online feeding to "make sure it's real" (what's more real than actually meeting each other though?). And a couple other things. It's too bad that this community is so chock full of scammers. Just gotta be careful and set your priorities.