Baronbeta:
It’s still new to me, and I’m not interested in extreme obesity, but perfectly fine with gaining weight (both fat and muscle).

I’m addicted to femdom joi, and a few dommes have some files that train someone to associate food with arousal. I haven’t done a deep dive yet, but I am noticing that I feel really horny lately when eating bigger quantities, especially if I’m indulging in a sweet (cookie, muffin, etc.)

is this normal for everyone here? Does this ever go away? Am I already in too deep?

Crazyfool:
Having a bad day or something? These answers aren’t aligning with my questioning, and instead of asking me questions for further clarification it seems like you’re being a fair bit condescending. As a neurodivergent I’m not always capable of reading the room but you’re giving me some icky vibes. You even abruptly cut off other people who were making attempts to communicate and be helpful.

MickRidem:
You're asking if you should adjust insulin levels to gain weight.

Munchies is very knowledgeable, and correct in expressing the dangers of doing this.

If you're asking how to gain as a Diabetic, her response to make sure you're leveled off and healthy first, is also correct.

These may not be the answers you were looking for, maybe you wanted ways to "cheat the system"? It appears that way to me, and perhaps that's why the answers seem blunt and opposing?

I've been following Munchies for a long time, and she truly doesn't want anyone to be in danger.

PurpleJade:
Probably the moderation of the website. Threads with toxicity are taken down or locked easily and it sets a precedent for much of the rest of the website that it’s not welcomed. The flow of the forums at least seems to be relatively slow.

Munchies:
Have you discussed this with your wife?

Baronbeta:
I have not mentioned that this is a fetish that seems to be increasingly arousing to me. Maybe i's too soon and it'll eventually go away? But I thought the same about femdom and it's only gotten stronger over the years.

I've mentioned to her that I want to 'bulk' up and add more muscle mass and will eat more as I am tired of fasts and being too slim. I have not mentioned that I'm okay that the bulking includes fat as well.

Yet she's always so sweet and encouraging about eating sweets. Not junk food per se, but wholesome cookies, ice cream and pastries from Whole Foods we typically have in the pantry. It may not be garbage food, but it is very caloric and as added to my BMI.

Munchies:
You need to sit down and have an honest conversation with her. One of the other site users made a handy break down of how to do this. Give it a look.

loradayton.com/2022/01/26/how-to-have-the-kink-talk-with-your-partner/

Baronbeta:
Thank you for sharing. This was a good read. I always appreciate in any fetish community the candor about the pros and cons to embracing one’s fetish and emphasizing concern for significant others. So, thank you.

She’s aware that I want to bulk up and understands with that there could be fat gains. I just need to tell her I don’t mind the inevitable fat gains. I don’t want her to be a feeder; who she is now is more than enough to make me rounder.

Any thoughts to my other question on the impact on the public area and how much weight would be needed to engulf a few inches of my penis? I understand everyone is different, but would love to hear opinions and experiences.

Crazyfool:
Having a bad day or something? These answers aren’t aligning with my questioning, and instead of asking me questions for further clarification it seems like you’re being a fair bit condescending. As a neurodivergent I’m not always capable of reading the room but you’re giving me some icky vibes. You even abruptly cut off other people who were making attempts to communicate and be helpful.

Munchies:
Have you discussed this with your wife?

Baronbeta:
I have not mentioned that this is a fetish that seems to be increasingly arousing to me. Maybe i's too soon and it'll eventually go away? But I thought the same about femdom and it's only gotten stronger over the years.

I've mentioned to her that I want to 'bulk' up and add more muscle mass and will eat more as I am tired of fasts and being too slim. I have not mentioned that I'm okay that the bulking includes fat as well.

Yet she's always so sweet and encouraging about eating sweets. Not junk food per se, but wholesome cookies, ice cream and pastries from Whole Foods we typically have in the pantry. It may not be garbage food, but it is very caloric and as added to my BMI.

Beergut:
Super hot indeed. Imagine pounding someone and their belly would just bloat up and grow bigger and bigger with so much cum inside the belly. 🔥

Ligr77:
Anyone else get that feeling after a big stuffing or bloat where your brain is kinda fuzzy, almost a if you've been drinking?

I've hadthis happen a few times, and I'm super curious to see how common it is!

Baronbeta:
Hello, everyone. Newbie here. First, it's great there is a body positive community out there like this to support people in their journey!

I've been slim for most of my life, except in my teens when I was powerlifting and eating so much I got 'chunky.' In my late 30's now and I'm slim at ~175-180 lbs, though can tell there's some extra fat on me than before.

I don't know what's happened, but I suddenly feel excited and turned on by this fetish. I've been into femdom humiliation since I was 18, so I suspect a part of it is feeling even more inferior around slim, fit, hot women, which would include my wife.

I find it arousing that my belly and fupa could inhibit ordinary sex, effectively "shrinking" my penis. I've always been into Small Penis Humiliation even though my member is average.

My wife is not a Feeder as far as I know, but she often encourages me to eat whatever I want, whenever -- especially little goodies, i.e., snack bars, protein bars, cookies, sweet loafs, etc. She 'jokes' she's going to make a hog out of me so I can't leave her since I'm currently slim, attractive, and have a successful white collar career.

Anyway, I don't know where to go from here. I'm sure you've all heard it before from us slim people before they take the plunge. I'm open to fattening up but through heavy weight lighting, eating more (not fried greasy foods), etc.

I'd love to lose penis length due to this. But now sure how far I'd have to take it to see my fupa take a few inches away from me. Interestingly, I already have a plump fupa that's never gone away since my teens!

I'd appreciate any advice on becoming a 'healthy' piggy and whether there are angles I need to consider before committing.

TL;DR
I'm slim but have a femdom humiliation porn addiction for years now. I love not having a useful penis for my hot, slim and fit wife. I'm suddenly aroused by the thought of becoming a feedee and making healthy gains through heavy lifting and lots of (generally nutritious) eating. Torn on whether this is a fetish I should embrace. But would want to gain enough to see my penis size reduced by a few inches. Any feedback would be greatly appreciated.

Crazyfool:
Type 2 diabetic and I don’t really eat sweets anymore because the sugar spikes are never worth it. “I get some sugar spikes” was pretty literal because SOMETIMES I hit the carbs a little too hard and I try to avoid that as well. I’ve been a diabetic for 5 years and have no real complications from it.