Is SnapChat different than it used to be? So many people seem to use it but it was only for sending pictures that disappeared after 10 seconds. How do people have conversations that way?

Well, I'm not a SSBBW, but I live in the Phoenix-Mesa Metro area and thought I'd say howdy anyway. Hopefully you're at a nice hotel near some good places to eat. :-)

I had to stop and really think about this. My earliest memory involving this interest is when I was in 5th or 6th grade (based on the house we lived at, at the time). That would put me around 11 or 12, I think. It was something I never spoke of or shared with anyone.

After high school and the Internet became a household word, I got curious one night and wondered if anyone else liked bigger girls or gaining weight. I think "Excite" was the big search engine back then. I searched and discovered the "Fatten Up" website and it quickly became my favorite place to go. From there, I discovered the UK Feeder site and others, including Yahoo groups and WebShots, all with guys sharing pictures of beautiful plump girls. I still remember a couple of my favorite stories from there.

I think you absolutely do need to tell her something about it but I think the key may be to tailor your approach to what she will be able to reconcile and be okay with. You probably want to tell her EVERYTHING and ultimately I hope you can, but to start with, that may overwhelm and freak her out, so give her a bread crumb and not the whole loaf. Something little that won't be a big deal. Let her get used to that and then down the road, reveal another little tidbit.

Examples: The next time the topic comes up and she asks if you like big girls, ask her what is 'a big girl' to her. Her definition and your definition may be completely different.

You could say something like 'Well, I have seen some very beautiful big girls" or "Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes" which may sound cliche so hopefully you could say it in a way that she would know you are being sincere.

Perhaps later on, or if the topic of food comes up, or maybe she's commenting on how much she enjoyed something, you could tell her it's great she enjoys food, some girls obsess and diet all the time and it's really annoying. Or, how sad it is that some people miss out on all the good food they could enjoy because they are obsessed with being skinny. This will probably prompt a "what if I get fat" question so be ready. You could say "then we'll get you some new clothes" (Note "NEW clothes" not "bigger clothes" or just say, "then we'll go shopping!" You could also say "Well, food is enjoyable and fun, so I'd just view it as a sign your happy" or "Its a well known fact that most women gain weight when they get married, and I'm okay with that, it just means your happy" - getting her to mentally connect increased weight to happiness, instead of something bad, would be good.

Hopefully that gives you something to think on. Keep us all posted and if you need suggestions, I'm sure we can come up with many but only you know your girl. It's not only about what you want to tell, but also how much CAN she hear without being weirded out. Unless she's really ready and okay with hearing the whole thing, I'd take it slow, one step at a time. Besides, girls generally like a little mystery... She might have fun thinking she's sneakily drawing this little secret out of you....

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Not surprising that many of us here find the same features to be appealing.

Personally, I love the look of a softer, rounder face, but only to a point. Like, I think a little double chin is cute, but a large hanging jowl, not so much. I am endlessly enamoured when I see a beautifully big girl with a gorgeous face that you'd normally expect on a girl not quite as large. For example, a 300 pound girl but with a face you might expect to see on a 200 pound girl. It really truly depends on the individual with me. I have seen many big beautiful women with proportionately sized faces that I thought were stunningly beautiful. Heck, my high school sweetheart was one of them. Even years later, she is still one of my fondest examples of a truly beautiful-to-me face... And body too, for that matter. Unfortunately for me, she figured out she was actually a lesbian and we got divorced. Remember Ross off the show "Friends"? Totally me in so many ways! lol

Some great ideas in here. MissStuffed, what you describe is something I've always thought sounded good. I've never had the opportunity. Glad the two of you enjoy it :-)

Oh absolutely!! It's the theme in many mental fantasies, such as:

Doing my part to make sure my girl was happy with her life in general. That's very important to me. Of course, I'd have fun making sure she was well fed and stuffed to capacity, as often as it was fun for us. At some point, when her shirt slipped up a little bit, I'd gently grab the exposed flesh and lovingly jiggle, poke and pat it, thus pointing out to her that I am very aware of just how big and fat she's getting. I'd verbally tease her with a disapproving comment or two, like "Someone's been eating well" and "my, my! Look how big and round you are now. Your clothes can't even keep you covered!" Then I'd smile, grab the exposed roll and use it like a handle to pull her to me as I leaned forward to whisper in her ear, "Let's go fatten you some more." Then off we'd go to an all you can buffet.

I'd monitor, measure and graph her changing dimensions, enjoying her ever increasing softness, roundness, heaviness, and size. My hands would squeeze, rub, caress, stroke, play with and enjoy every inch of her body. We'd share many happy, and intimate moments. We'd cuddle a lot. Her body would be my playground and she would love my touch. As I gazed at her, I'd think back to her smaller sizes and compare them to her current size, enjoying her increased size and softness even more. I'd admire her currently, as I played with her soft, jiggly body, and image the future as she continues to grow rounder, softer, heavier and bigger. I'll look forward to seeing her clothes tighten as she grows, going from loose, to fitting, to snug, to tight, and finally, to the moment of failure as my well fed beauty overpowers the helpless clothing with her beautifully expanding body. I'd purposely buy her clothes a little too big, so I could watch her fill them up as I repeatedly stuffed her with an abundance of yummy food. Then we'd celebrate as her growing abundance finally ripped them to pieces. I could go on, but it'd probably just get repetitive and boring. But, to answer the question, yes, I would absolutely love and enjoy taking a woman and growing her. :-)

I've been open about it for years and always had positive results. I don't shove it in people's faces and I do alter what and how much I say based on the current audience, but I've opened a few people's eyes and helped a few other guys who thought they were the only ones that liked bigger girls.

I think one good rule of thumb is to not make a big deal out of it. I'm open and honest, but I don't make it out to be a big deal. I treat it like it's completely normal. If there are questions, I answer them without getting all preachy or defensive. I've never been sorry I was open and honest about it. :-)

I see lots of big couples and I've dated big girls that loved my size wanted me bigger - and they weren't even aware of this community. So yes, fat with fat happens a lot. While some big girls like the contrast, others like the guy to be bigger than them, so they feel less big or still feel safe and protected or a variety of other things.

Embarrassing?!? Lol I was thinking that would be a proud moment for both Dom/Feeder and sub/gainer.

But humiliation and embarrassment doesn't work for me so perhaps I see it differently. I love how we all have different but yet not uniquely exclusive interests.




Bondage is something that has never grabbed me, but the idea of fat girl tied up and suspended while I feed her is interesting. I'm picturing her growing and growing, the restraints straining as her body swells and her new fat squeezes out. I keep stuffing her and stuffing her until the ropes suspending her fail and she falls (or plops? Lol) to the floor or bed or something set up so she doesn't get hurt. I love my girls. I don't want to actually hurt them.

Hmmmm maybe she falls into a cage - can't have her escaping now, can we? Breaking her ropes, she is both simultaneously freed and recaptured as she falls into my cage where I then fatten her and fatten her until the cage can't even hold her....

Not realistic of course, but I'm a little surprised how fun that sounds.