LilRascl:
For me it came in stages: I’ve fantasised about growing a huge spare tyre of a belly since I was a child, but suffered with disordered eating/bulimia when I was 16-17. I was a chubby kid and never got below 150lbs though. By the time I was out of high school I had developed a “chubby girl with brains, wit, and a great personality” attitude about myself, which is now deeply entrenched in me and gives me a fuckton of confidence. I also practiced and eventually stopped any body shaming self-talk, and I try to live by the rule of never being meaner to myself than my most honest best friend would be. It’s worked out well too!
The coping strategies I use now are all based on two things I remind myself of if a nasty comment comes my way: 1. I chose to be this fat, and 2. I worked hard to grow this fat because of how much I really, truly I love it!
At the end of the day, I’m the only one who gets to live my life, and I’ve made a conscious and irreversible decision to live it exactly as I want to, and that continues to be in a fat/growing body 🙂
I hope this helps! Best of luck with your research - I’m glad academics are asking good questions of us 😋
Well said, and here is what I can add. To get as fat as some of us are; that takes time and dedication so I see those who have taken that plunge and "waddled into the kitchen" like those professional eaters so they inspire me. The next step is to get rid of those folks in your life who bring that type of energy to always say something hurtful and once you realize that your life is so much more peaceful then the next step is to own what they are saying and accept it. I had family members call me lard butt and "you must be a pig to get this fat" and the truth is that they are right; I am a pig both figuratively and philosophically. It takes a certain mindset to actively move beyond your greediness and succumb to it to a point that your body becomes the success of your submission to it. The truth is, most folks who say things want to feel powerful by trying to trigger me but what they don't realize is that for those of us who actually waddled this long path; those sarcastic comments trying to humiliate us becomes a sign that your efforts to expand and be obese has caused someone to comment about it and some of us come to like when people comment on our girth. Others don't even give a damn about how fat we are. All of the negative comments I get bow are all online while offline I have found more people who dig my fat than hate it
4 years
BBWcreator82:
What community??
It's just a bunch of people looking to find like-minded people.
The days of "Community" are long gone. People show up, curious then leave. Remake and delete accounts, come here to get attention or money. Read a story and look at pics.
None of that stuff requires community. Just a Website.
Once they get what they need, they go back to their normal lives.
There is no community. Just a fetish that links us all, loosely.
The chat is 99% Snipers (people who immediately PM every woman who walks in) and Moneyseekers
(you're not a real feeder if you refuse to pay strangers, after all, right?)
Most people who have a phone can't use it correctly anyway and it turns the chat into a dead zone even more.
The forums are the same old recycled topics over and over that devolve into the same old tired arguments. Or just people doing personal ads, complaints.
Communities have goals, pride, and unity.
Even the "Plus size' movement usually thinks feederism is just abuse anyway. So we really can't even claim to be a legit part of that, either.
So yeah, the "Community' days are long gone if they ever really existed in the first place.
There are no leaders, there is no goal, it's just every person out for themselves, expressing fantasies when no one's looking hoping someone on here has the same thing.
Usually, those people have nothing else in common.
People leave the website all the time, they return all the time, but there is no community to leave.
This is one of the most accurate assessments on this subject. People come and go all the time and the truth is that most of this is a substitute for not being able to actualize these likes offline. There is no community only a bunch of folks who like and get off to fat. We have to mission statement so how can we be a community ? I came here to find newer and better ways to help me with my fat body building philosophy. I wanted to indoctrinate my mind in seeing if I could become that person obsessed with fat only to find all different types of people and notches on this fat fetish spectrum. I get all different types hitting me up because this is the only place they can talk to people who actually live their life as someone who taken the fat plunge. We expect way too much from these sites and we project our frustrations for the site not meeting up to the unrealistic expectations we had for it in the first place. You will meet all kinds on here from the socially inept to the people trying to scam for cash in the chat; it is what it is and just accept that.
4 years
Weed was my gateway into obesity. I would take sativas to give me a head high to sit back and when I meditated this allowed me to get used to the psychological aspects of getting fat while the indicas helped calm my hunger to the point that I could actually concentrate while I was stuffing. So, I could feel my addiction to fat taking over and harness them only to choose to let go even more so. Weed has been my feeder
4 years
WideJuan76:
I have always been mostly chubby but it wasn't until I started to really gain that I started to really understand that there are levels to this. When I crossed the 400 mark was when my gut was hanging lower than my shirt and female associate came by and poked me with two fingers and teased me did I realize that I had gotten so fat that I didn't feel my gut hanging lower than my shirt or hitting my thighs
Tubby Puertorican:
That’s actually possible? You can’t feel your belly hanging out of your shirt? I seen some heavy guys on Walmart that you could see a little of their belly hanging ,down. I always believe that they just didn’t mind. What a hot discovery.
Yeah, when you have so many different sensations coming from all over your body some smaller sensations get caught in the maelstrom of other sensations. I have calf fat now so just feeling that jiggle while I walk boggles my mind.
4 years
I have always been mostly chubby but it wasn't until I started to really gain that I started to really understand that there are levels to this. When I crossed the 400 mark was when my gut was hanging lower than my shirt and female associate came by and poked me with two fingers and teased me did I realize that I had gotten so fat that I didn't feel my gut hanging lower than my shirt or hitting my thighs
4 years
Ditzy:
I never thought of such a thing but if you guys can do it I think thats amazing.
What happens is that when some of us males germinate from just the chubby guy to the full on lard guy that is when you see a change but onve I learned how to develop subcutaneous fat that is where it changed because initially I gained visceral fat post rugby days but lost it and when I was introduced to this life and how to gain subcutaneous fat that is when I developed a pear shape and that is when I had to face new challenges like a gut that hangs to the top of my thighs so it is just our new obese little quirks.. lol
4 years
BigFox:
I can't speak for everyone. But sometimes Its just as easy to sit down on the toilet then it is to find it at times
Once you start getting to the point where it hangs love, sitting is the most comfortable and efficient
4 years
Ditzy:
Very interesting topic.
I hope I'm not being intrusive to you guys
Nope, we enjoy your company here...
4 years
Laumichro:
There was a fella delivering bread today to the grocery store and I might have made him uncomfortable if he had caught me staring😋 he was like 5’7 300+.. his shirt was a few inches too short to cover his hanging gut.. I had a clear view from produce and just stared as he stocked shelves and kept having to tug at his shirt to cover that hang he had.. it made me horny, in the produce department🥰
I had this issue back when I was around two fifty but now with a low hanging gut it makes it really obvious and I have the 5XL shirts and still it hangs lower than my shirts but when I was in the south most women liked it but on the subtle tip and they would send me hints
4 years
princealex:
I was wondering if anyone else has similar fantasy?
I want to gradually become a slave for someone who gets lazier and lazier as I start to do everything for him. I want him to keep me in a cage when he's not getting me to clean the house/ bring him food/ wash him, and to not be allowed to speak, leave, or behave like anything besides a slave purely for his convenience.
I like the idea of doing everything from brushing his teeth to being his (TW: piss/scat) toilet, so he never has to move and consequently gains until eventually he's immobile.
Anyone have similar fantasies? It's very hard to find content for this type of thing, since most feeders like to be dominant.
I do mostly have dominant fantasies, but this one has been coming up more and more recently.
I have always been the chill type of guy but I met a young lady in North Carolina when I moved there to fulfill my feedee fantasies I met a guy who had started a group of dom feedees and he became like an obese mentor to me because the other dudes were way fatter than I was and their women loved being their subs and at three fifty then I was the smallest lard guy there
4 years
