New relationship

Chinchilla:
A month ago, I started a new relationship with someone awesome. The first weeks went by smoothly, I enjoy cooking for both of us and I started having a bigger apetite and enjoying food better.

Four years ago, after I intentionaly gained 20lbs, I decided to completely forget about feederism because it was taking to much space in my life (I'm kind of an obsessive person when I'm interested in something). I managed to not think about it for years, but suddenly this new relationship made it all come to the surface. Damn, I love eating so much, I love feeling full after a good meal and seeing my body expand !

So I started eating more... And complained a bit to my boyfriend that I was eating to much and that I will certainly gain weight because of it, as to test the water. And what did he say ? He said : "you eat more probably because you are happy. And if you gain weight because you are happy, then it makes me happy too."

And since then, he seems to borderline encourage me to eat more. Like the other day, I was eating a pack of biscuits. I told him : "I'm eating too much, I should save what remains for tomorrow." He said : "Do you want to eat what remains ?" "Yes." "Then eat it if you want to, nothing is stopping you." Seriously, this made me so horny ! Of course then, I finished the pack.

Beside these encouragements, he started buying me treats often and he never tells me that stop, I had enough. If a finish a pack of candies in one sitting, he doesn't even seem to care.

So I came to question if he might be a closet feeder ? He said he likes to touch my belly, but at the same time he seems carefull to not overtouch it so I don't notice how much he likes it (that's my impression, maybe he is just not THAT fond of of it, just normaly likes it).

Anyway, I just gave in. I will gain weight, and since it won't even bother him I don't have to worry. I will have the fat that I want, I can eat what I want, I'll be happy and well loved. And being in a new relationship is the perfect excuse to gain weight, my family won't find it as strange as the first time I gained weight and I will be less self-conscious about it. It's just something that happens when you are in a relationship.

It's only been one month, I started eating way more after two weeks and I'm up by 4lbs. It's not much, but I can't wait to see my progress the next month, then the next one, since my apetite seems to grow a little bit everyday.

For those who want to know, I started at 105lbs (BMI 19.5). I didn't really set a goal, I mostly want to enjoy it, but I would like to be chubby (not obese, it is not for me) so maybe have a BMI of 25, that would make me weigh 140lbs. But maybe that won't be enough for me. Or maybe that I will be unable to stop gaining. I don't care actually, I just want to eat and be fat.


Just talk to your partner. Communication is key. And if you can't talk to them about something so important to you, then that doesn't bode well for your relationship - no matter if it's a kink or something else.

You are making the decision for him. You are deciding that he can't handle the real you when, based on what you shared, he seems pretty okay with it.

And if you truly believe that he won't love you fat, then that's not a relationship that will make you happy long term.
1 year

Has your belly button become deeper and wider as you gain weight?

Perfectly Rounded:
Yeah I have also noticed the same phenomenon. My belly button has clearly gotten more shallow as my belly has grown. I wonder if it will eventually pop out completely.


Sounds like you have a lot of visceral fat.
1 year

Everyone's losing weight

52Percent:
Hehehehe maybe you should try telling this all this to Nas Daily or Brett Cooper or Moon! Or how about that bodybuilder who made the video “Let’s Tax Obese People” on YouTube! I bet they’d love you.


I don't care. I'm still right. And body builders ain't all that healthy either.

Besides, their opinions don't matter in the grand scheme of things.
1 year

Everyone's losing weight

52Percent:
Everyone’s losing weight huh? Yeah I’ve been noticing that a lot too. Buckle up everyone, we’re about to witness the beginning of the end of an era. smiley

JN_TumLover56:
That is quite a bit excessive, but at the same time I can understand where you are coming from.

Munchies:
This is whole thread is a huge nothing burger. Fat people are going nowhere.

Now, there's a conversation to be had about fat positivity and such. But the fight against fatphobia is different from the unfounded fear that fat people will stop existing.

52Percent:
Yeah? I’ve heard about stories about people with a large following than all of you taking about about the government should start FINING and TAXING people for being obese. All for everyone living a “happy and healthy” life and live forever. Like if anyone really wants that.

Also with fat acceptance now being labeled as “cringe”. We’re gonna be seriously f*cked in the future!

Oh I’m also pretty high as a kite right now.


Yeah, I can tell. Because this is a load of horseshit.

First off, fining and taxing people isn't going to stop people from being fat. We already tried that with booze and smoking. That didn't stop nothing.

Secondly, the fat tax isn't a tax on obese people. It's a tax on things linked to obesity like fast food.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fat_tax

They've been trying to make this a thing on the federal level for decades in America. Didn't catch on. However, it's been a thing at the state and sometimes municipal level. New York City's ban on soft drinks above a certain size comes to mind. But all that did was make people buy two smaller cups of soda instead of one lager size. It was repealed not too long after. All in all, it's been a failure.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sugary_drinks_portion_cap_rule.


All that aside, the only way to truly combat obesity would be to make a lot of changes that no government or big business is trying to do to start with. Because that would mean making fresh, healthy foods available, revitalize urban planning to make cities more walkable and bike friendly, properly fund schools so kids can get the proper care they need, change up the entire welfare system since there's a positive correlation with obesity and poverty, etc. etc.

And I promise you that all of that won't happen any time soon.

So they can pump out all the weight loss drugs they want. It's not going to change a damn thing at the end of the day.
1 year

Is it weird that as a cis guy i want a feminine figure?

Nyarlep:
It’s worth considering that you needn’t try and fit yourself neatly in a box. Gender identity and being cis or not isn’t a simple yes or no. Also forgive me for reading into it too far if I am but the sentiment feels quite familiar; if your wondering if you could be trans or something of the like but don’t experience dysphoria or discomfort, not every trans person does.

Alternatively speaking, fuck gender norms, do what makes you happy.


Being trans is more than just swapping to the other side. You have genderfluid, demi-gender, bi-gender, and non-binary people. And from there you have scores of different flavors of gender expression.
1 year

Is it weird that as a cis guy i want a feminine figure?


Munchies:
When cis people think about their ideal body, they don't imagine themselves as a different gender.

Someguy98:
That’s a fair response tbh and honestly I’m not trying disagree with you. However I really do feel comfortable as a man, but I also want to be more effeminate (and fat lol). I don’t know how to properly express the feeling. I hope I’m not just rambling. Thanks for taking the time to respond.


I'm not saying you're one thing or another. That's your business and for you to decide.

That said, there is a difference between being a woman and being effeminate. Being effeminate means embrace stereotypical aspects of femininity as a man. Being a woman isn't one thing or another. I know some cis women who have more masculine traits than some men I know.

Gender and gender expression aren't the same thing. It is what it is.
1 year

Is it weird that as a cis guy i want a feminine figure?

Someguy98:
I’m a cis guy, I’m comfortable as a guy and have never thought about considering myself anything else, but when I think of my dream body I picture wide hips, and prominent butt, and even breasts (all nice and fat ofc). I fantasize about being mistaken as a woman sometimes. I’m not sure how I feel about this sometimes.


When cis people think about their ideal body, they don't imagine themselves as a different gender.
1 year

How fast heavy cream will effct?

Leptine:
I use heavy cream years ago. It were 3 weeks and week break during 2 months.
1/3 liter per day - about 1000 additional kcal.

It was crazy time because then I drank heavy cream, GOMAD and eat bigger meals.

Munchies:
Drinking a gallon of milk every day sounds like far more trouble than it's worth.

Your profile says you are Polish. Milk costs on average 4.35 zlotzy per liter. 4.35 zlotzy comes out to about $1.09. This doesn't seem too bad until you remember that a liter is about a fourth of a gallon. So that brings it to about 17.40 zlotzy or $4.36. That comes out to 121.80 zlotzy or $30.52 for a week's supply of milk.

And that's assuming you can fit all the milk inside your fridge. Maybe you don't mind multiple trips to the store, but a lot of people try to go at least once a week.

All that aside, the GOMAD diet is actually dangerous.

bonappetit.com/story/gomad-diet

Leptine:
You're right. I wrote quickly, so no details.

I finished GOMAD after two weeks and couldn't drink a gallon. I ended up drinking two liters a day.

Economically, milk is not profitable. I also read that GOMAD is an unhealthy alternative.


Don't be out here promoting stuff that even you know ain't good. That's dangerous. It's one thing to talk about your experiences, but you need to be honest about them.

Mess like this is how people end up in the hospital.
1 year

Do you like charcoal or wood-fired meals?

Wood fire all the way. The smoke adds flavor.
1 year

Ladies! what is your opinion on men that look pregnant? like a big ball belly

Dutch Bbw:
I think a big round belly on a man is really hot, especially when the rest of their body is slimmer. The ball shape turns me on somehow, I can't explain it further 😇

Estil17:
So what you're saying is that I should put some pics of my belly? Considering how growing I felt so ugly and was such geeky outcast (at the time I was actually too skinny) it would be real nice if I did have something about me that some women here would actually find attractive.


You can do whatever you want. But cool it with the desperation. It's the least sexy thing anyone can do.
1 year