You might consider adding some other "deviant" behaviors, for example, bondage. Bondage could provide the same notion of his not being able to pleasure himself -- you totally in control of his orgasms -- without making him more unhealthy. Some sort of cockring or chastity device might also be fun for him, as you take total control.

Food play and stuffing/inflation could also be fun without necesssarily making him any heavier.

I agree with the Doc. Be careful not to slip down that slope and into a place neither of you want to be.

Your body will become more and more sensitive to the touch, to the senses, and you will think about nothing but food and growing fat.

1- Having a sneaky feeder who tries to fatten you up without your knowledge or consent?
2- Submitting willingly to a dominant feeder who takes full control over your gaining?
3- Having a lovey dovey romantic encourager who makes sure you are gaining as comfortably as possible?
4- Having a boy-toy encourager for you to boss around and send him to run food errands?
5- Having an encourager who is more verbally teasing calling you names and slapping your fat around?


I'm thinking more in about my fantasies and the order in which I would love to experience these things:

4 - I start out dominant as a feedee. I like the idea of my girl-toy racing around at my beck and call, serving me, cooking for me, feeding me.
3 -- As I grow a bit more lazy, I want her to become more romantic and lovey-dovey, tying my eating to sexual and romantic pleasures.
1 -- I tell her I want to stop, I'm fat enough, and she assures me that she is stopping. However, she is adding fattening ingredients to my food and undermining my attempts to stop getting any fatter.
5 - She starts breaking down my will by taunting me, calling me names, squeezing my flab between her fingers.
2 -- Finally, she dominates totally, taking full control of my gaining and leaving me under her will. My subservient girl-toy has grown into a dominating bitch, and I am her ballooning boy-toy for her to continue fattening.

Amen, brother, Amen!

I always re-visit this topic for some new kinks. Wow! Just wow!

"Being Fat Does Not Suck"
By Zonker (aka GrowingLoveHandles)

Being fat does not suck

Fat people are adorable

They are soft

And squishy

They don't have any hard edges

Their bones don't poke into you

When you hug them or make love to them

Their faces are round and so cute

Chubby cheeks and delicious double chins

They have luscious love handles

And creamy thick thighs

And beautifully bulging bellies

Or small pooches of fat

Which will soon become bigger

And fold into rich rolls of flab

Being fat does not suck

It is awesome

You can just eat

And eat and eat

And you can be lazy

Because people expect that of you

They expect you to eat and be lazy

And you really don't want to disappoint them

Or deny them their stereotypes

So laziness and gluttony are the twin pleasures of being fat

They are gifts from those who stereotype you, fatty

Nothing about being fat sucks

Except not being fatter

And a few dozen donuts can help that

Or maybe pancakes with syrup and butter

Or mmmmm biscuits and gravy

Or lasagna all dripping with cheese and sauces

Getting fatter means you get a new wardrobe

New clothes every time you outgrow a size

Okay, time to be honest

Being fat does suck only a little

It sucks only when you get to the bottom of the cookie or candy bag

And you inhale the crumbs

And there is nothing left

But that is the only time being fat sucks

It only lasts a minute or two

And then you get some more candy or cookies

And life is heavenly again

Being fat does not suck

"The Allure of the Pregnant Woman"
An essay by Zonker (aka GrowingLoveHandles)

I have to admit that I find pregnant women very hot. That may be disturbing to you, and it does disturb me some as well. But the reasons I enjoy the so-called "fat fetish" and feederism (the swelling bellies, the weight gain, the consumption of food -- eating for two!) are the same reasons I enjoy the sight of a beautiful pregnant woman.

There is something so erotic about a pregnant woman. Her shape and size, I find so desirable. And her glowing face, her countenance so beautiful it almost makes me cry.

In the same manner, I find myself staring at photos of the latest Kardsashian to bare herself -- this time in pregnancy. I don't know any thing about the Kardashians as celebs, but here I am enjoying the visage of a beautiful woman, ripe and plump with child. Should I feel bad that I find this erotic? Am I perverted? I don't know.

What she says about all this is something I find enlightening:

"I’m at my best when I’m pregnant. It’s such an amazing feeling, the transformation that your body goes through. There’s something about that that’s so empowering and beautiful and I just really embrace it. It’s what a woman’s body is made to do."

I have thought about this a lot because generally, I find pregnant women to be very attractive to the point that I am aroused by them. I hope that doesn't upset you any, but it is true. And I am certain many others (both men and women) feel the same way.

I used to think I was somewhat perverted and unusual in my peculiar interest in pregnant women. I thought this was all because I was into weight gain, BBWs and bellies in general. These days, though, I wonder if perhaps the reverse isn't true:

That I am fascinated with female bellies and female weight gain because of a biological attraction to females who are pregnant.

Let's face it, guys (and gals)! There is something just inexplicably hot about a woman from the moment her baby bump becomes noticeable until she is swollen and ready to pop! I don't know what it is, but plenty have zoned in on the fact that she just seems to be "glowing" and indeed, her face seems so happy so much of the time.

I think this goes to our need to reproduce, and a sensual pregnant belly makes us all (men and women) extremely excited at the continuation of our species. That's the biological quirk we have which causes us to favor pregnancy and to view it in such an otherwise disturbing manner.

Of course, there are other sides to this as well. There is the naughtiness factor as in pregnancy is the result of good old-fashioned fun sexual activity.

And then, there's the fact that she represents good old motherhood. She is a mom-to-be, and in that role, some of the stodgier psychoanalysts might say that we guys (and maybe even women) want to bed her. I don't know about that, but there is something very hawt going on here for many of us, including yours truly.

Also, there is a vulnerability about a pregnant woman which causes all to want to shield her and protect her in so many ways. But on the flips side, she often shows a strength and courage which we all find desirable. She represents the best of all humanity -- and her strength comes from her ability (and in the modern world, her willingness) to grow a huge belly and become a mom, all for keeping humanity going.

Philosophically, then, she represents the very best we have to offer, a promise of a better day -- a hope for the future, no matter how dreary and desperate today may seem.

To update this a bit, that link no longer works. And yes, this is an excellent look at male belly enhancement. Here is the new link:

I had this happen at my 10th high school reunion years ago. I had grown a beard since high school and gained nearly 50 pounds. I remember someone finally saying, "What happened to the old Zonker?"

My reply: "I ate him."

At your height, I doubt a guy would notice until you gained about 5 pounds. And he might not say anything (out of politeness, his own insecurities, etc.) until you gained 10 or 15. And if the gain is slow, he might never say anything no matter how much you gain.

You're going to have to prompt him, perhaps looking in the mirror in front of him, poking your belly out a little and saying, "I think I'm getting kinda chubby. Can you tell?"

That could start the conversation you desire, and you will know how he feels.

Best of luck.