I started as a feeder, for years, the last two, or one and a half, I've slowly turned into a feedee. Now im trying to stay away of the fetish, or at least limit it in the realm of fantasy because i feel bad about it (because of ideology) and also because i wish i could have a romantic relationship free of sexual stuff (if that's possible)

And no heavy subjects! I know from personal experience!
(altho I'd wish for the opposite for myself at least)

What I'm into evolves through time i guess. But as far as fantasy goes, an evil female feeder, especially a muscular one is a turn on for me! I like the contrast! My feeder whould be strong, dominant, intelligent and someone who knows what she wants and how to take it! I, on the other hand whould be really weakened, submissive, in a constant state of being horny, with no goals, but only to please my feeder no matter what because that's the only way for me to cum!
And she'd apsolutely abuse that power she has over me, to make me eat as much as possible! Ideally, I'd be too horny and too painfully stuffed to even think! So she'd keep me like that until she makes me fat enough to not be able to move! >.<

(Again that's only for fantasy)

Hello my balcan comrade!

Hello! Im also in a position where I'd love to just get rid of it! I think a good option might be ideology. It might not br sufficient alone, but it might help! If you need to talk about this, im open to that! I'd love to try and help you!

Thanks for the replies! I just really wanna get out of the situation I'm in and i cant see where it'd be better to go. It's not a very happy period of my life, i just hope that at I'll find someone I'll love, but hope won't do something to help. :/

Okay so as a heads up, this is a serious issue for me, so I'd prefer if you'd take the time to think about what you wanna advise. Also, for the shake of transparency I'll try to be as honest as i can.
So i have a problem (or two) with feederism. Even tho I'm a very horny person and I'd really like to just be forcefed to immobility or something, i wanna do stuff in my life. Not because i wanna have a full life, but i see a lot of things in life that desperately need to be worked on and improved. I just can't ignore them. I have to do something to help, at least, fix them. But at the same time, my sexual need to do.... the things you can guess, is really strong and i just feel like i really need to do something about them as well. I'm in this state for over a year now, thinking that i can subsidize doing things for real with fantasizing. I don't think balancing these two is possible, since one has to steps completely on the other. (For example if i decides to gain, I'd love to go for something really extreme, close to or beyond immobility)
And on top of that I'd love to have a normal, romantic relationship where I care for my partner and i get cared for by her as well. In a mutual way. I feel like I really need all of these.
Do you have any advice? (if yes please try to describe your thought process fully)

Understandable, if i make a thread for it whould you be interested to talk there?

Again I'm only trying to figure out how you all perceive it, because it doesn't make sense to me to call it Fatphobia, I'm not saying it's any better than Fatphobia, could be a lot worse than it, i just don't think calling it this way is an accurate presentation of the subject, and it is really problematic when it comes to try to find a solution for it. Specifically, whatever solution you might propose, it won't solve what you're perceiving as Fatphobia. The thing that is propably confused is if it's rationality. It's not irrational thus i dont think it's Fatphobia. As Lora put it, that makes a HELLA lot more sense, it's propaganda!! It has a goal and builds a logic (accurate or not) that will lead to a conclusion that will serve a goal!

Is this bad? WAITTTT!!!
don't say yes, immediately. Let's analyze it before we go there! Let's have a rational discussion! Maybe we'll learn how to deal with it from that journey!!, or learn what's causing it! Sounds good?

Btw does the above make any sense to you? Im deliberately asking because i wanna make sure what i have in mind isn't so badly warped that it doesn't make sense on my text, or worse it doesn't sound like i have a different opinion entirely