Daily "i'm fat" reminders

When you visit a friend who has a lot of glass work, and you can hear it rattle as you waddle by, you remember just how fat you are!
1 year

Heavy and healthy

Feedher3000:
I Pose this question to the combined knowledge here. How does one get morbidly obese while still being healthy? Is it possible to be 350-400 and still be healthy? I want to be a big guy but don’t want diabetes or heart trouble.


I feel like reaching a morbidly obese weight inherently comes with *some* health risks, though, I'll be careful to add that obese people can have health problems that are entirely unrelated to their weight. I've always been fat, and now I'm over 500 lb. That said, being thin and fit doesn't protect you forever from health risks either.

A morbidly obese person can, however, take some steps to mitigate risks. I haven't always been health conscious, but because I'm so big and don't intend to lose weight, I'm implementing small changes. I used to drink only soda, shakes, and fruit juice all day; I've started drinking water. I have never, ever engaged in any kind of exercise until now; I'm adding steps to my day and doing chair yoga so my knees and back don't hurt so much. I still eat around 4000 calories a day or a little more, but I'm making some different choices; I have at least one salad a day, and I make it a clean salad that isn't loaded with cheese and croutons and ranch dressing. Consequently, I'm in better health at 520 lb that I was at 375. My blood work and blood pressure reflect it.
1 year

Feeders how fat is too fat until you lose attraction?

My fiance and I have discussed this many many times over the years. His personal preference is very fat without becoming immobile, which aligned with my own weight gain goal and limit. It isn't so much about whether someone is attractive as whether the feedee partner is living the life they want without limitations being too much
1 year

Contrast/size difference

My fiance hasn't exclusively been with big women, but he definitely loves the contrast. He is tall, lean, and fit... I'm short and bigger around than I am tall. When I started getting up in the 500 range, I asked him if he was enjoying my size or if he was more turned on when I was in the 300s. He responded that, on me, he found extreme girth sexy and said he loved that I am bigger than 99 percent of women. He also knew I was really enjoying being super obese, and he said my confidence, which was increasing along with my weight, was a turn on.
1 year

What does your belly peeking out feel like?

At home, my belly is intentionally exposed, probably 80% of the time. I have even trimmed t-shirts to expose my abdomen and side rolls. I tend to run very very hot, and it helps me stay cool when my tummy isn't stuffed into clothing.
1 year

Woke up fatter moments

The first time I reached 30,000 calories in a day, I had a bloated tight belly 4 or 5 days. I also continued overeating daily, though not to that extent. But then, I woke up about 6 days later, and It felt as though the bloat had turned to thick fat. I also felt that my muffin top had become thicker. Sitting, showering... So many new sensations. I even felt heavier when I walked. Boy, those were the days, lol.
1 year

Super massive stuffings!

Roundingout66:
Last night one of my hometown friends who has got to be over 350lbs was visiting and we went all out. The food we both ate was insane but putting only what I ate in order:
-4 IPAs (760cals)
-chorizo nacho tray (900cals)
-2 margaritas (500cals)
-chicken flautas (840cals)
-onion rings (600cals)
-guacamole bacon burger (930cals)
-2 IPAs (380cals)
-half bag Ruffles (800cals)
-French onion dip (275cals)
-2 IPAs (380cals)
-chocolate fudge brownie ice cream (1050cals)

Total over 7600cals


Holy moly!! Well done!
1 year

Social stigma and friends

AskDrFeeder:
One of the downsides of getting fat is the social stigma.

I've always thought the best way to deal with that is to make fat friends, and possibly to dump thin friends.

Has anyone done this?

Has it helped?

Is it easier to make fat friends than thin ones?

BigBallBellyGirl:
Ehhh, I've always been fat, and I was outgoing in school, so I seemed to find my crew pretty easily. I also had friends among the thin popular group. I think because I was so unabashedly myself, I wasn't too much of a target for teasing. It's hard to tease someone who either doesn't care or enjoys it

As an adult, I'm by far the fattest of our social group. One friend was probably 160-175 and got into fitness. She is now super lean. Another blew up when he got a desk job and now sports a big pot belly. They're still the same people they've always been though, and my weight doesn't really come up unless we are going somewhere as a group, and they want to make sure I would be okay in the physical setting.

JN_TumLover56:
Sounds like you are lucky to have such great and loyal friends!


Oh, I consider myself very fortunate. We hear stories all the time in this community about spouses losing attraction due to weight gain, family nagging, random strangers criticizing. There have been a couple of times friends have had questions if I was out of breath, but I never perceived anything judgmental. I'm quite thankful for it.
1 year

Have fat people ever asked you to touch or rub their bellies, and why?

I've never asked a random person to touch me in any way, but I did once demonstrate to a non-feedist friend how tight my belly was after a giant meal by poking my finger into it to show there was no give. We were in a large group, and everyone was intoxicated. She did the same to me and commented the top of my gut was like a drum.
1 year

Fell off the maintenance wagon hard

BigBallBellyGirl:
I've been planning to keep my weight in this general neighborhood, but I fell off the maintenance wagon hard last night at all you can eat sushi, and I have been eating ever since. Last night, I had 56 pieces with tempura vegetables and tempura shrimp. I woke up very bloated and also very hungry, and I have been eating continuously. It's so hard, when you were addicted to being overstuffed beyond your limits for a long time, to go back to regular meals. There was something so pleasurable about being packed like a drum, with my belly feeling bloated and sensitive, I haven't been able to stop myself. I've had around 14,000 calories so far today, and i know I'll gain some weight from this, but I'm going to give myself a day off from maintenance and get as stuffed as I want to. I've genuinely missed the feeling of physically ballooning outward from over indulgence. And tomorrow is another day!

Delta9:
What are your maintenance calories? For someone your size it's probably still a lot. Just wondering. And have you actually gotten that low yet, or just slowed the gain?


My maintenance calories are 4100 to 4300, which I realize by most standards is still pretty generous. I think I struggle so much because I stretched my capacity with some very extreme daily habits. I had just begun maintaining, with only a pound or two of fluctuation, until I stuffed for about 36 hours (with a break to sleep of course). I was up 11 lb this morning, and I probably consumed about 3500 calories today. Tonight I'm only up 9 lb from where I started before I went wild with sushi and continued on a full day feast.
1 year