Seven8the9:
Thank you. I appreciate you all saying what you have, as it validates my feelings.
I do agree that going to the gym/working out elsewhere would be good for general health.
I can't help feel betrayed or led on. In his dating profile, it said his preference was larger women. That's one of the main reasons I messaged him. When I asked him about this early on, thinking it was flirting on the idea that he was an FA, he said that he was just trying to get more responses to his dating profile. And that he likes fit-thick women. Which I'm not and never was.
Pregnancy obviously will come with bodily changes, during and after... all of which I thought he would relish in but now I feel very insecure.
I beg your biggest pardon?
So, a couple of things.
In another post, you talk about the journal being out and bookmarked. I've owned journals as a teenager. I promise you nothing was ever in the open and bookmarked. Unless that's normal for him, he wanted you to see that.
Also, lying about your preferences to "get more responses" is a red flag moment. It's one thing to go outside of your preferences. That's fine. But how he says it makes it sound like he was looking to settle. And now that he has, he regrets it a little bit.
That's his problem, not yours. But if this isn't addressed, this
will become your headache.
I agree with everyone else not to admit to the snooping immediately. But it's good to come clean about it at some point.