Thepiggygirls:
The way we combat this is by sitting in the shower 🤣 then you only have to worry about getting up once and don't have to stand the whole time!

MarieTrans:
My name is Marie and I'm trans, ta-da

M05Padding:
Are you sure? I think we need more context.

X_Larsson:
To sum it up, the many interventions by moderators are that some people are "offended" by something, even if it is not personal attacks or denigrating statements?
Alternatively, shut down preventively by moderators before anyone complains?

So discussions are not really discussions, more of somewhat uniform flow of inputs, morally approved, in the "virtues" currently "in fashion" of more conformistic parts of the society? And avoiding to potentially "hurt someone" is consistently more important than discussing the topics? (There are clearly some people that should be more protected than others.)

It is good if the contents of these applied (but not always stated) rules are clear, which they obviously are not, by looking at the numbers of stopped discussions (as I referred to in my initial question).

Again, this is posted as I see that many discussions (that I not posted in) develop in very odd directions.

Ligr77:
Currently trying to write a Dragonfable fanfic with some stuffing content in it! I'll post it on Tumblr first, but I'll post a link here if anyone's interested!

Munchies:
Not my fandom, but it could be fun. You could post it as a story if you wanted.

Ligr77:
I might have to take you up on that, too!

EDIT: Scratch that, I did!

fantasyfeeder.com/stories/view

fantasyfeeder.com/stories/view

fantasyfeeder.com/stories/view

Ligr77:
Currently trying to write a Dragonfable fanfic with some stuffing content in it! I'll post it on Tumblr first, but I'll post a link here if anyone's interested!

Munchies:
There's a difference between teasing in love and teasing in disdain. For example, if I call my partner a "gluttonous fatty" it's a term of endearment. He knows I like that aspect of him, so he loves it when I say that to him.

However, if a rando on the street called him that, it wouldn't have the same connotation behind it.

In your situation, this guy was belittling you. It's clear he's fatphobic. And since he's also a client, he was probably on a power trip too. He sounds like he's fun at parties /s

Otacon0205:
Funny thing is that the guys is chubby himself, so I’m like, why are you judging?

Munchies:
There are a lot of bigger people with internalized fatphobia. I wouldn't be shocked if he was insecure about his size. So when he saw you, 40 or so pounds heavier, it was his time to shine.

You also see it a lot from people who are significantly bigger than the people they are fat shaming. The other side of the coin is when they are "concerned" about your wellbeing. There's usually some unsolicited advice mixed in.

You hate to see it.

Otacon0205:
For as much as I would not to, I am afraid is bound to happen. Too many rude people around that think you have to listen to their opinion. As they say, opinions are like an asshole, everybody has one. To counter that, whenever I meet a big person, I always make sure to treat them with the outmost respect and make them feel welcome and confident around me. I strongly believe we should stick together and change public perception.

Morbidly A Beast:
That’s so inappropriate at work and it kinda stinks that there’s no repercussions for behavior like that if it’s a client like what’s your boss gonna do drop him? Doubtful.

Otacon0205:
Exactly, given our dynamic at the time, he knew he could got away with it. Or generally I don’t think he realized how inappropriate what he said was. Some people are very oblivious about their fatphobia, they just think it’s the norm unfurtunately.
For this reason I always rejoice when I read that at least in the US we are getting fatter than ever as population every year with more than 40% being overweight, soon we will be the standard.

Otacon0205:
Wish I was as big as some of y’all, but when I gained from 160 to 200ish the first time, I met a client of the firm I used to work with who hadn’t seen me for like 6 months. Last time we met I was 160.
He was in line behind me for the bank cashier and I noticed he kept looking at me and looking at me (was hoping he would not notice me), till finally he realized who I was and told me “hey long time no see, how are you? Woah what happened to you, you certainly look different?

At this point I was a little embarrassed and tried to cut short by being forward: “ yeah I put on some weight since we last met. How is everything?”
Him: “I would say more than just some (he said it with a smirky laugh), by that big rear I would certainly never thought it could be you.”

I could not grasp that he could be so forward in making comments about my body, thankfully the cashier called me and then I quickly got out of there. Still feel like his comments were violating and uninvited. Part of me loved the teasing, but since I was not used to receive such comments as I had always been skinny all my life it felt pretty weird being called out as a fatty for the first time.
Outside of the bank I looked at my reflection in the glass doors and thought, well I kinda have to agree, that is quite a big rear.

Munchies:
There's a difference between teasing in love and teasing in disdain. For example, if I call my partner a "gluttonous fatty" it's a term of endearment. He knows I like that aspect of him, so he loves it when I say that to him.

However, if a rando on the street called him that, it wouldn't have the same connotation behind it.

In your situation, this guy was belittling you. It's clear he's fatphobic. And since he's also a client, he was probably on a power trip too. He sounds like he's fun at parties /s

Otacon0205:
Funny thing is that the guys is chubby himself, so I’m like, why are you judging?

Otacon0205:
Wish I was as big as some of y’all, but when I gained from 160 to 200ish the first time, I met a client of the firm I used to work with who hadn’t seen me for like 6 months. Last time we met I was 160.
He was in line behind me for the bank cashier and I noticed he kept looking at me and looking at me (was hoping he would not notice me), till finally he realized who I was and told me “hey long time no see, how are you? Woah what happened to you, you certainly look different?

At this point I was a little embarrassed and tried to cut short by being forward: “ yeah I put on some weight since we last met. How is everything?”
Him: “I would say more than just some (he said it with a smirky laugh), by that big rear I would certainly never thought it could be you.”

I could not grasp that he could be so forward in making comments about my body, thankfully the cashier called me and then I quickly got out of there. Still feel like his comments were violating and uninvited. Part of me loved the teasing, but since I was not used to receive such comments as I had always been skinny all my life it felt pretty weird being called out as a fatty for the first time.
Outside of the bank I looked at my reflection in the glass doors and thought, well I kinda have to agree, that is quite a big rear.

HRHB15:
I’m thinking about redoing my shower so these are great tips if I continue to grow beyond my current expectation/goal. I definitely need a little more space already.