Fat cells do fill up, and the body isn't especially quick at making new ones. So gaining pretty rapidly will hit a plateau eventually, while your body grows new places to store the fatm (at least that is my understanding)

I think part of the issue is that some people (like you, like me) would enjoy more social support around it, but some people have this really as more purely a sexual kink and really aren't so interested in non sexual interactions about it.

That latter pool not only reduces the pool really interested in socializing, but can also poison the well a bit, because if you have an event and some of both groups show up, odds are high that neither goes away happy.

Best of luck in managing it all. Just remember that over time their say in your life will decline.

Any chance of moving somewhere with more opportunities? It seems like better work might make some of your dreams more feasible?

And as said it sounds like at the least she likes you fat. Perhaps after the wedding you can joke about finally getting off your wedding diet (even though you didn't lose any). See how she responds?

In practice I aim for fat and (somewhat) fit, because I like doing a lot of things that I'm not willing to give up.

In fantasy? More like:
Drop me off in front of the door of the -restaurant because walking from the parking lot would leave me breathing hard for ages.
-Even if so much belly didn't get in the way I couldn't do missionary because I couldn't support my weight for long at all.
-Getting up off the floor a major production that would leave me winded and shaking.
-Max of one flight of stairs at a time with long breaks in between.

I can see how it would be distressing, but it is also pretty darn hot.

I assume that these were chairs with arms that were hugging his fluff too tightly? (As opposed to the situation of someone discovering that they need an arm to lean on to get up out of a low chair)?

How is it going so far?

Things I've enjoyed:
- semi-sweet chocolate cooking wafers (amazing how easily those go down)
- cookies that don't shed crumbs (bonus if they are good dipped in tea. Love my mid afternoon tea and cookies ritual)
- not too juicy fruit. Nobody will say anything if they find you eating a clementine orange or some grapes it the like.
-home made baking that you put out to share, you have a pass to eat as much of it yourself as you want.

It is something I've seen a fair number of guys express, with varying degrees of commitment to the idea (some just want to fantasize about it, some working on their transition, and varying levels in-between)

215 guests? You are brave and stalwart folk! Glad the day was a good one