Stefan:
So im in relationship with perfect girl for me. I like her personality, humour, looks, ideas, she is really nice and kind to everyone. We are 1 year into relationships and both think this is going to be long term relationship, everything is going smoothly. Also she is normal weight around 130 and trying to loose little bit od weight(which i totally support). So i feel really guilty about having this fetish and fantasising sometimes about feeding her. I think she is gorgeous as she is rn but i cant help but think how would she look little bit bigger(she doesn't know i have this fetish im too ashamed to tell her, but she knows i like thick, curvy girls). So i come to conclusion i want to try to get rid of this fetish i think it will improve our relationship and i think i will feel much better if i dont have thoughts of fattening her up and encouraging her to eat. I always try to support her but this fetish sometimes hinders me. Does anyone have any similar experiences or know anyone that does? Have anyone tried to get rid of this fetish of knows how to?

Bigwideland:
The past 8 months have been very different to the first timevi gained over 550. I am 15 years older and have unstable thyroid post radiation treatment for graves desiese. My weight increase in the past 4 months has been rapid. And I have lost the ability to walk more than 50 metres with out needing to rest. My lower legs are retaining fluid tonight my ankles calf and feet are tight like a drum.So yes many issues, I am waiting to see if my higher dose of thyroxine reduces my fluids and improves my cardiovascular proforance. If not I may have so degree of heart failure. So will go back to my GP and find a fat friendly cardiologist to see what can be done.

Munchies:
I wish you well.

Bigwideland:
Thanks, my GP indicates it's my thyroid. And it most likely is. But no harm seeing a heart guy to see how it going, I am.going to a lung capacity test soon. I had some episodes of mild pneumonia since I turned 50. The joy of getting old and very fat. Non the less I am not one to panic will do and see the right people for the best management of my lifestyle.

Bigwideland:
The past 8 months have been very different to the first timevi gained over 550. I am 15 years older and have unstable thyroid post radiation treatment for graves desiese. My weight increase in the past 4 months has been rapid. And I have lost the ability to walk more than 50 metres with out needing to rest. My lower legs are retaining fluid tonight my ankles calf and feet are tight like a drum.So yes many issues, I am waiting to see if my higher dose of thyroxine reduces my fluids and improves my cardiovascular proforance. If not I may have so degree of heart failure. So will go back to my GP and find a fat friendly cardiologist to see what can be done.

Hectoplasm:
It doesn't help that even though I'm somewhat heavier than I used to be, I still look really skinny to others from being tall.

My profile pic gives a false impression, as I was bloated there and it doesn't show my legs which are veeeeery long.

Anyway my neighbour, who weighs about 300lbs, thinks I'm about a third of his weight even though we're the same height lololol.

Munchies:
Probably boils down to body comp and weight distribution. You can get 3 different people who have the same height and weight. But depending on their body comp and/or weight distribution, they may look heavier or lighter.

For example, muscle is denser than fat. So someone with a lot of muscle will look thinner than a fatter person. Also, all over gains makes someone appear smaller than someone with concentrated gains. Lotta things that go into it.

Personally, I wouldn't put too much stock into the numbers on the scale. But if you want to be heavier, I'd throw in some weight training. Not only will it make getting fatter more comfortable, it will make you extremely hungry. You'll want to eat everything in sight.

You don't gotta become a meathead or go the strong fat look if you don't want. But it helps a lot with your gaining journey.

Hectoplasm:
I used to do weight training, but I had to stop due to medical reasons. It did help me gain quite a bit of the weight have now.

Despite what weight I have gained it is true that the higher my weight became the bigger the difference there is between my actual weight and the weight I look like. Everyone under-estimates my weight by a lot now.

A friend of mine mentioned having thicker thighs than me for example. But when I got a tape measure (I am a stats nerd) and we measured them they were the same as his exactly. Weird because they do "look" thinner but actually aren't.

Hectoplasm:
It doesn't help that even though I'm somewhat heavier than I used to be, I still look really skinny to others from being tall.

My profile pic gives a false impression, as I was bloated there and it doesn't show my legs which are veeeeery long.

Anyway my neighbour, who weighs about 300lbs, thinks I'm about a third of his weight even though we're the same height lololol.

Hectoplasm:
So I have somehow lost 4 pounds in 3 hours. I was 201lbs earlier, now 199lbs, but in that time I have NOT used the toilet and I have eaten 2lbs of food. WTH? Why did this happen? My scale is now consistent that I have lost this weight. I am trying to gain weight to 250lbs but this is terrible, means I've only gained about 10lbs in two weeks. Pathetic!

Munchies:
Lol, what? There's nothing bad about gaining 10 lbs in 2 weeks. That's nearly a pound a day. That's good.

Be kinder to yourself and relax. All that stress from putting unrealistic expectation on yourself can, ironically, make it harder for you to gain. Not only can stress lead to weight loss, but you'll frustrate yourself and give up before you see any real progress.

The trick is to have fun with it. Have you been having fun with gaining weight? Because it doesn't sound like it.

Hectoplasm:
Most of that was water weight, but the actual weight gain has stalled off. Think I've exercised too much and not eaten enough.

I sometimes get a bit bored of the process but I do generally enjoy it... for a few months. I want to go slightly further than last year, but am a bit more conflicted about it this time.

Masuli:
I would say he should gain slowly or faster but take little breaks so that his body can get accustomed to carrying the weight on the longer run.

Weight training would be good if trying to keep mobile while gaining weight.

Also suggesting adding vitamin D & Calcium or checking levels on blood for bone strength, this is important when carrying extra weight.

Munchies:
Collagen is good too. Keeps the skin supple as you grow and promotes joint health.

Masuli:
Really good suggestion!

Fatluvinguy:
I would think a negative outcome would be the norm. Basically it's two or more people performing a play, but with no script. Making it up on the spot is not easy for many people. While I've wanted to try some role play, I imagine the participants have to be on the same wavelength or it will get awkward in a hurry. I've tried role play using AI characters and while I think it's helped me with carrying a storyline, it's not a substitute for the real thing, at least not yet, but the potential is there. Obviously with AI, there's no pressure either. I appreciate that in role play you want to get lost in the story and getting pulled out because the other person can't carry their end would be very frustrating.

MickRidem:
Honestly? If I know the other person is trying their best, I have zero problems. I can try to guide and help if they like, or wait and be patient while they get into it. I like slow role play, I'm not always available, and I'm not online for a long time to play out super elaborate scenarios. I love popping online, adding to the conversation as much as I can, and coming back again another time when I can for more. Usually, starting with what you are into, and your boundaries/dislikes will help a lot. 😁

Hectoplasm:
So I have somehow lost 4 pounds in 3 hours. I was 201lbs earlier, now 199lbs, but in that time I have NOT used the toilet and I have eaten 2lbs of food. WTH? Why did this happen? My scale is now consistent that I have lost this weight. I am trying to gain weight to 250lbs but this is terrible, means I've only gained about 10lbs in two weeks. Pathetic!

Bigboyyy5:
First of all you all should show love to the parts you love most at your partners, and I love belly's and bellybutton! So if I'm dating I always tell the girls that they have a beautiful belly and giving love to them helps a lot. Furthermore if you want him to gain without noticing *** *** ***