That's a whole lot of words to say "I have literally no idea how bodies and metabolism work especially for people who menstruate."

as someone who has lost 130 lbs and is constantly told my body is never enough for this community, I just really needed to see this thread, thank you all

I did it and also started publishing on Amazon. I have made some commission so far. You've got nothing to lose by trying!

I definitely understand the appeal of fat-on-fat and engage sometimes but as the squishy person in my escapades, I have to say I equally love the feeling of someone pressing into me. I'm not nearly as big as other BBW but I am very soft and there is just no feeling like it!!

You definitely didn't bother anyone; at least, not me!

It's not fair to compare yourself to a hot-shot director because not only is film an entirely different medium but movies take an ENORMOUS team to make. Filming isn't easy anyway but it's a much longer process than people think, especially when making *good* ones!

I was just reading literally last night about the 80/20 rule. It might be useful for you to read up on in relation to writing.

Perfect writing *can* and sometimes does exist, and I used to be overwhelmed by that need to be perfect, too, but it held me back! I've learned to see writing as sculpting. You start off with a hunk of clay and just keep working it. In most cases, you can adjust things if something isn't working out. And you just keep shaping it until it feels just right over time.

Yes I even do this with my feedist writing. I push to have fun first and just get the idea out and then I shape it. It never ever comes out perfect on the first pass, ever!

But of course your health comes first so if you think you need to focus on that, you should. Your ideas will still be waiting when you're ready

I don't believe I've met any other Orthodox but I have definitely seen observant/practicing jewish feeders around here (and maybe I've seen them in the wild in my own social circle!) Don't give up hope

Either way, I'd definitely just to be down to chat and say hello some time, so: welcome!!

There's really no right or wrong way to write. As long as you're doing it, you're not doing it "wrong" it just takes practice and confidence. Write what you have now then revise and beef it up later! That's basically how I do all of mine. The answers you're seeking will come to you just be patient and work on the ones now that you can.

First drafts are never about writing it right, just writing at all.

As a struggling fiction and non-fiction writer in real life who's now also pursuing erotica, I think it's always worth it to humanize the story a bit. It doesn't even have to be much! I love short stories and usually prefer them but if it's all Mary Sues I can't be bothered.

I'm happy I could help and welcome you to message me if you need more advice!

Anyone who dismisses you telling you to write easy fap material can gtfo as far as I'm concerned. Sure, does it do the job sometimes? Of course. But there is a way to tap into what is both pleasing and enriching.

When it comes to giving the character "something else to do," what you need is a conflict. If it's your first weight gain story, it doesn't have to be anything complicated. It can be a romantic partner, a promotion, or a prize. Give them something to want and then do everything you can to not let them have it.

The rest will fall into place along the journey.

Because it's not another person's job to make you happy and if a person is only able to satisfy you by actually changing their body to meet your standards, it's the body that matters more, not the person occupying it.

If a person's status as a gainer ultimately matters more than anything else, it's not a partner you want: it's an object.