For our wedding we decided to just get a nice dress and a nice suit that we could wear to other events. We both outgrew our nice new clothes before the next appropriate event came along. It was a nice theory, but I couldn't even be mad it didn't work out :-)

Was the wedding last month, or still most of a year away? If the former, congratulations and I hope the happy day went down well, and that he could button every thing up. If the latter, it sure sounds like any fitting would be way too early with the way you describe his progress.

I'm curious -- Did the date happen? How did it go?

I was a chunky kid -- enough to get teased occasionally and to have to buy clothes in the 'husky' section some years. But somehow I just felt that the rest of the world was wrong and I was perfectly fine just the way that I was.

Bullet-proof male ego, maybe? Just kind of socially oblivious so that I didn't notice most of it much? It may have also helped that I could out-run, out-skate, and out-ski almost all of the kids my age, so that I had reason to feel to feel that my body was good?

I was less chunky after the puberty growth spurt, but that was when I started having 'fat' as part of my self-image. I guess I was still thicker than my peers, just thinner than before or after that period. I knew that wasn't good for dating, but honestly stressed more about having glasses and bad acne.

And the only time I got bugged about my weight in high school was generally when I was owning someone at floor hockey or passing them while running or the like. So I had a weird mix of feeling fat, but not having a lot of the typical feelings about feeling fat?

As one suggestion, if you have the opportunity try writing some feeding scenes, with different variants on what is going on, feeder, etc. Be brave in taking chances in writing, go places you think aren't you, and generally explore your reaction to various corners of those.

Once you understand what this means to you in more detail, you'll be in more control and it may not seem so hard.

Totally, up around the top end of my usual range I just feel very satisfied with my bulges and softness. It is like I'm where I'm supposed to be.

"If I get fat, I'm totally blaming you!". You can say it as a bit of a tease, but his reaction may tell you a lot.

Good luck!

I may not be a good judge of what is kinky and what isn't, but to me this one is. Getting into a relationship with a very large and out of shape woman (somewhat limited mobility in various ways)-- which would not normally really be my type, but for whatever reason we get together.

She realized that her degree of lack of mobility is a problem, so I help her gradually get in a little better shape, maybe even lose a few pounds. At first I have to really encourage this but eventually she has her own 'fitness routines' of walking several minutes a few times a day, doing some stretches and super light weights.

But meantime I am living her lifestyle, getting fatter and out of shape, but she likes me fat and of course I'm in way better shape than her, so I'm not worried.

Eventually she encourages me to more actively gain, as she is getting into how fat and flabby I am, and it turns out I'm really good at gaining.

And so it goes until one day we need to do something slightly active, and we discover that I'm actually in worse shape than her now, despite that she is still super fat and out of shape. And she loves this and encourages me to stay like that, if not getting even fatter and even more out of shape.

The thing is, there are some people here (and at any similar site) just looking for mastubatory objects -- and since they don't care about the people they don't care if the offend or sadden, they don't care about the pleas to leave you alone, they just care about the rush they get from their words.

I really don't know how you get rid of them, unfortunately.

I'm not especially fat, but here are my answers

1. The feel, softness, and jiggle. The extra resistance going up stairs or biking up hills. Most of the time how I look. All the good food I've eaten to get this big. Just feeling that I look the way I should (well, on the very lowest edge of that, at least)

2. Being able to do team sports with normal weight people, easier / better fit of clothes, being able to easily run or jog some distance, being able to get up out of the water more easily when water skiing, being able to go harder at downhill skiing, fitting in more easily / thin privilege (not that I was ever especially thin, but close enough to get some of the benefits).