Amaretta,

You advised her to cut down on salt. I disagree.
You advised her to do what her doctors advise, I disagree.
Dairy fat and meat fat is better than vegetable fat. Olive Oil and Avacados are OK but the biggest source of vegetable fat are cooking oil and margarine type spreads which are terrible.

I advised her to do her own deep research where as you advise her to do what her doctor says. Your advice could get you into trouble since you're not advising her to make up her own mind.

When there are doctors maiming and killing people all over the place and their oath of do no harm has gone out the window it would be terrible for someone to simply do as their doctor said.

Someone advised a friend to get surgery for her carpel tunnel syndrome. Then the advisory said, "sorry I can't write anymore my hands still have not recovered from my carpel tunnel surgery".

Seriously the best advice is to listen to what people say, research it then take responsibility for your own decision.

For example I am saying doctors are idiots and maim and kill people all the time. Research that, see if there is any validity to that. What do people on forums say about blood pressure medicine or statins?

The medical profession has it backwards with blood pressure. High blood pressure is a symptom of a problem not a cause. A fire engine attending a fire is a symptom of the fire not the cause.

If blood pressure is high then it needs to be. Perhaps blood is not reaching important parts of the body and the body increases pressure to compensate. Clearly reducing blood pressure would be like pulling the fire engines from a fire.

Your body needs plenty of salt. If you have more than you need then you just wee and sweat it out. If you have less than you need then your body chemistry goes wrong and you get inflammation and high blood pressure and many other problems. In order to digest food your body needs the chlorine from salt to form stomach acid. Without strong acid you get acid indigestion and undigested food in the gut making you fart.

Part of the problem with obesity is the life threatening but well meaning advice from people who tell you that salt is bad. If you have health problems and you're not even obese then you probably eat plant fats rather than animal fats. You probably drink skimmed milk rather than whole milk. You probably think soy products are healthy.

A good way to reduce the need for high blood pressure is to put a lot of epsom salts in your bath water and soak for an hour. If you only have a shower then get a spay bottle of magnesium salt and spry it on your skin.

If you use a blood pressure meter you should be able to bring your blood pressure down first by calming yourself and secondly using the magnesium salt. What you must not do is take drugs to force down your blood pressure, that's worse than using leaches to drain blood. That is unless your blood pressure is so high it's actually causing blood vessels to burst.

Do some wide reaching research. Get to actually know your own body. Don't let doctors dictate to you, it's amazing how stupid most of them are (I know from bitter experience). Be in charge of yourself.

Don't be FORCED by doctors. They are there to assist you live your life. Obviously they are going to advocate health, they are doctors.

You need to accept a fact that being obese will reduce your health, activity and lifespan.

How much it badly affects you physically is controlled by a number of factors, some of which you can control.

As a fat person you need to work out a compromise or trade with yourself between your health and your enjoyment of being fat.

Some people want to live the healthiest possible life at the healthiest possible size. We're not those people. Some people want to keep growing as fat as possible until it kills them, that's some of us.

If you like being fat you're going to be dealing with doctors giving you a hard time about weight, blood pressure, cholesterol and blood sugar. Even if you are very healthy and fat they will nag you about your BMI.

Ultimately you are responsible for how you live your life, you don't have to please other people unless you need their support.

The matres with alternating inflating cells stops the pressure saws problem.

You may need wider door ways. Probably want to make the living room the bedroom too. Open plan so that you can keep each other company when you're cooking.

Decent TV and Internet will help.

Probably get a medical hoist and suitable sling. A power wheelchair off ebay. Like a scooter only shorter. A commode.

You need to make sure the Feedee is comfortable and happy.

You should not keep your creative efforts online. Google can delete these at any time or even report you for a hate crime. Your PC is your friend.

Exactly!

Relationships between men and women can be difficult. It's very easy for a man to be perceived as creepy. Sometimes the man is genuine but the woman has been affected by extremist feminism.

Or in other cases the man has been affected by extremist feminism. Look at how feminist men get accused of being creeps because really they are just trying to please women in order to get laid.

If I am virtue signalling then I have been told on this thread that I'm not making many friends this way.

To be an effective virtue signaller I would need to be a Social Justice Warrior Feminist. There is a limit to how many virtues one person can have since they start to contradict each other like Feminism ve Islam or Christian ve Abortion enthusiast, Cultural Diversity ve Racial Purity. Also these don't get you laid so no point in them.

;-)

Which dude? Me the one saying he does not like SJW because they promote toxic ideas or the other due because not liking SJW is a toxic idea?

To use a term I've seen on FF. Embrace your obesity.

If this really is 'your thing' then you should Just Do It (tm Nike&apos.

Or in other words Own It.

Realistically you might get some ribbing over your weightgain. You might even get some concerned talking to's by relatives, friend and your doctor. This is your right of passage. These people are not wrong. Gaining a lot of weight could be very unhealthy. You will probably never be able to get back to your current size. Your life will be shorter.

Obviously to most people these things sound terrible. To a Feedee they are the cost of being a Feedee but worth it. They may even be a turn on and driving force.

You can gain weight secretly for a while during this time prepare yourself for a lifetime of obesity.

The problem is what the person is putting across to the other person. Either the transmission is not genuine or the reception gets scrambled.

Also people do delight (perhaps the wrong word) in taking offence.

Using text to transmit emotions is fraught with problems. Autistic people have problems with those subtleties at the best of times which can be compounded by text.

A prevailing feeling that men are all creeps will cause men to second guess what they are saying. They will then not be genuine and therefore be the creeps they are trying so hard not to be.

If this post seems a little creepy it's probably because I'm trying so hard not to offend any SJW or Feminists, the main culprits for lack for tolerance of diversity of opinion.