You'll be eating the same meals together right? If where you're eating and what groceries you buy are making you fat, they're most likely going to make her fat.

My wife told me just because we're getting married, she's not going to gain weight. She had a crazy metabolism in her 20's. 12 years later she's a total fat ass. The lifestyle she enjoys now, she's accepted it was inevitable she was going to be fat.

Most of your friends will probably gain after marriage, too which helps. My wife feels almost no competition or pressure at this point. Most of our friends have gotten much larger than her.

Was curious if I was the only one turned on by this. My wife has gained fast and is not accustomed to properly washing in her rolls down there and at the end of the day she straight up smells like a pig if I attempt to go down on her. I've brought up that she needs to use baby powder down there because she sweats so much now between her thighs. But a part of me actually likes her turning into a smelly piggie. 🤷

My approach has always been conveying that my wife has "earned" this lifestyle. It's her "reward" for working so hard and being a great mom. Now she can lay around and be pampered.

And the bigger she gets, the more drained she is: the more she feels she needs a nice reward and go out for a big dinner.

She never wanted to be fat. But now she believes she's earned the right to be a total lazy fat ass. She's put in her time, now it's time to be a princess. Get what she wants to eat, whenever she wants. Make her feel this is all about HER. And just keep the the food comin'.

It's a downward spiral from there.

Nothing makes you fatter than combining carbs with fat. And guess what? Carbs are cheap as hell.

Gluten free pasta tastes identical to regular pasta, I eat it all the time.

Any of those boxed rice (gluten free)/pasta/potato dishes are dirt cheap and you combine them with fats (butter & milk). Just double or triple the butter and you can use heavy cream instead of milk if you like. Easy too.

Pasta. Dirt Cheap. Again carbs combined with fats (olive oil or if Alfredo: heavy cream).

My wife used to fat shame our neighbors behind their back all the time for being too obese to take care of their yards. She even called the HOA on them and complained about their weight being the cause!

And now she's a lazy fattie who can't help with the yard work or house work because her "feet hurt" and she gets "too sweaty now".

I make damn sure to point it out to her when I come in after the work and she's laying on the couch watching Netflix snacking with her gut hanging out or when she continues to handover chores to me because she's to fat to keep up.

Told her last week "I was about to call the HOA on your fat ass." 😈

My 5 yr old started singing "Big & Chunky" around my wife after her gain. Pisses her off to no end.

Exactly. Witnessed this 100%.

A weight problem is only a problem when you think of it as a 'problem'. Once enough time has passed it is simply the new normal. It's your body. It's you. Then and there: BIG THINGS on the horizon. 📈🌅

With each added pound it becomes easier to accept that over-indulging doesn't matter any more because "nobody's going to notice at this point". Everybody saw and accepted you were a fattie long before you even accepted it!!

I love the sense of accomplishment and pride as a feeder. One of my best friends is a skinny FA, married a super fat girl. I married a skinny girl as a feeder.

There's nothing better than when we hang out and him and his wife's eyes open wide taking in "look how big she is now. Great job!"

Such a sense of pride. They both appreciate "now there's a girl that's being TREATED." 👸

Your spouse confronts you that you need to wash between your rolls now. 😳

That's the key. An unnoticeable pound a month, 15'ish a year...10 year anniversary and you have a 300lb momma on your hands. Slow and sneaky.

Pregnancy is the big wild card, too. Some might put on 100lbs from just one. If they can't shed the weight, they usually just let go and balloon after that.