Johnxyz:
I would much rather the people who are online to make money have their own site. There's nothing worse than a feedee coming on to you like they like you, and then asks for money. Of course, with me being 73, I know anyone coming on to me is likely looking for money.
Letters And Numbers:
Isn't that just life, though? I know, big philosophical question, but every person place and thing is trying to sell you something, right? I'm trying to sell you something, check out my profile and buy an upgrade account to read my dirty book.
Your alternative, though, a site with no people asking you for money, would probably just be a site where nobody talked to you, because of your age. Would that be better? People who are on here to find a romantic partner are not looking for 73 year olds. There are websites specifically for older people to find romantic partners.
I'm also double confused, cause I've been on this site under different names since the very beginning and I've never-not-even-once been hit up for money. The whole thing is bizarre.
Munchies:
It comes down to how gender roles work. Men are seen as inherently providers, and feeders are seen as a masculine role. So men in general will have people asking them for money - especially male feeders. However, feeders in general get asked for money too. I'm a woman, and I get the occasional ask/demand for money. Usually they backpedal once they realize I'm a woman too.
It's weird.
But yeah. Women like that have bought into the patriarchal lie that men are providers and women will be provided for so long as they satisfy male urges.
This is extremely dangerous because when they come across someone who subscribes to that ideology too, that person tends to be abusive. This is why such women tend not to stay very long in the community assuming they don't get banned.
I think for as much as many of us will vociferously protest, many of us treat this site and this larger community as an extension of the pornography world. So while it might be a hangout spot just like a social club some of the time, it's a social club where people sneak off to masturbate constantly and they also like to talk about what they masturbate to and complain about things and then masturbate again. And I think this leads many people, men and women, buyers and sellers, to internalize that it's a series of transactional relationships.
I don't even know if that's so different from going to any other website, or any real bar or social club, except that people have lower inhibitions here and everyone is aware what everyone else wants to pay for. There are few secrets.
But if I was trying to meet someone IRL and get them to essentially gratify my fetish, I could use my charm and wit and good looks. That and paying them some money might get me what I'm looking for. And then there's Fantasy Feeder.
