The guy that was racist towards Asians and black people? It's crossed my mind, but I cannot confirm it. It's just as possible that these are two different guys.

But yes, I am not asking for much. I am very reasonable so, I get pissed when my requests are disregarded. Plus I've already proven in this very thread that I am happy to back down. When you (not OP oddly enough) were kind enough to show me I had the wrong impression of the scene, I let it go.

The same cannot be said for OP.

Then why escalate it? You're doing something then complaining said thing happened.


Why do I need to say anything if it's subconsciously understood?
What racism did I commit which I need to atone for?


But I don't understand



Yeah, that sounds about right. Either he'll eventually grow up or he'll get worse

Feeders like him give he rest of us a bad name. I'm a sadistic domme feeder, and I have never once treated my past or current feedees like this. If I dared to treat my submissive masochistic feedee partner like this, he would rightfully leave my ass.

I have no idea. With any luck, he'll either change or suffer the consequences of not doing so, which can be anything from community backlash to getting banned.

Remember that other user from Romania that did something similar? He got banned once or twice before leaving the site and deleting his account. I wonder, whatever happened to that guy?

Then why escalate it? You're doing something then complaining said thing happened.


Why do I need to say anything if it's subconsciously understood?
What racism did I commit which I need to atone for?


But I don't understand



Why am I still pushing this? Because stuff like this isn't welcome here. Misogyny isn't welcome here. Racism isn't welcome here. Bigotry in general isn't welcome here. And if the community doesn't push against such things the moment that it happens, others will think it's welcome.

I've explained my thinking more than once. You simply refuse to see your actions as a problem.

So this is what's going to happen. I've already reported this thread to the admin team. They will lock the thread. And since you've proven to delete anything that makes you look bad, I will continue to quote and respond to you to preserve evidence. As such, your own words will be on display for all to see even if you delete everything on your end.

Please tell me what racism I did and how it's racist.



Oh boy. It seems that I was right on the money about the racism.

When normal people of all races are told something they did/said was racist, the apologize and stop the thing in question. If they don't understand why it was racist, they will either respectfully ask what made it racist or research it themselves.

You are not doing that. You are defensive and lashing out. And it only makes you look even more racist. Stop while you are ahead.

I'm not baby nor girl. Why call me this?


What racism? Did I even mention an ethnicity or race?



Baby girl is what I call misogynistic men who start having tantrums when people call them out on their mess.

As for the racism ...

You did not say anything racist. But being racist is more than saying slurs.

My initial problem was the gif. In it, a white man attracts the attention of two Klansmen. He then pulls a black man out from behind a rock who says something. As I mentioned before, I hadn't seen the movie this scene is from, but I assumed he said something similar to what you had said. I also correctly assumed you were making a joke based on that scene.

Setting the misogyny aside, to someone who hasn't seen the movie, this scene looks terribly racist. It looks like this white man is gleefully giving a black man to two Klansmen. Adding onto the fact that this is an older movie, and black people tended to be written in ways that accept their dehumanization, it wasn't a good look. So, I took issue with the fact that you posted it at all.

Morbidly A Beast was kind enough as to give me more context, so I looked up the scene in question:



Having watched this, I continue to have issues with this film, but these issues are now unrelated to the scope of this conversation. So, I will set them aside.

However, this does not absolve you of racism.

In my initial post, I calmly told you that I, a black woman, found the gif racist. I also mentioned that I have had run-ins with the KKK. This was a good opportunity for you to explain yourself. You did not do that. Instead, you ignored that part and only focused on the misogyny.

I brought it up again more than once, but you ignored it. You did not address it until I forced you to. You were happy to address the misogyny and not the racism.

The only conclusion I can come to is that despite your views on women, you want them to have a favorable opinion of you. However, you couldn't care less about how black people see you. Why? Because blackness isn't important to you.

Not really



This is true. This did not need to escalate.

He could have said something along the lines of, "I wasn't trying to be racist. This scene comes from this movie. This is what was happening in the context of the movie. I was trying to make a joke based on this line from the movie. But I can understand why you might think that."

This did not happen. Instead, when I brought it up and mentioned my past trauma involving the KKK, he just ignored it.

It feels creepy because it is.

Nothing wrong with wanting a fat wife. This is a fat fetish site. However, he wants said wife to hang other fat women in hopes of her getting fatter for the sake of his fetish.

It's controlling because he wants her to hang around specific people for the sake of his fetish. It's objectifying because she isn't the one that's looking for these kinds of relationships. And OP had admitted that he isn't married, so this woman doesn't exist.

It's creepy because he is trying to research how to control her life before they even get together.

A lot of racism is incidental. You are not trying to be, but it still happens. This is why I am giving him a chance to address it and not going full tilt like you've seen me do to other people.

Baby girl, I am not not giving you an excuse to ignore that, so I am not going to engage with the question until you engage with your racism.

You posted a racist gif. I called you out on it. And while you have been happy to engage with everything else, you have not addressed that in any capacity.

You have not apologized, taken down the gif, or anything.

You might be happy to ignore that. I am not. So I won't let you.