Fantasy Feeder

Asexualality; dating in the feedism world

Lovemylard:
I can somewhat relate, except I am not asexual.

But to be fair, regardless of the app, site, location, the type of guy he is, his income, his appearance, his age, his education, his race, his personality style, whether he's a feeder or not, and so on, NO man will ever want a relationship with me. So, whatever.

I am just absolutely loving the free food and fun, being taken to restaurants and nice places I've never been before without having to spend a dime, not even on gas. 😄
Being able to order the most expensive food on the menu, whatever you want, however much you want, without being side-eyed by your date is the main benefit of meeting guys from the feederism community. 😆 Just live it up as if these are your final moments alive!

*sips tea*

My dear, if you are struggling that much, the problem is you.

Like more power to you if you want to do the traditional thing where the guy pays. But don't be out here taking advantage. Not only is that rude and heartless, but it make it harder for him to pay his bills.

Have you see the economy lately? It's hard out there even if you have a good paycheck.

1 year

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Has your belly button become deeper and wider as you gain weight?

Fat Daddy:
you look absolutely amazing I'd love to fatten you up and spoil you in person

CookieCrumbs:
No one trust this person. They are rude and insulting and incredibly dumb

Having seen his forum posts, I don't doubt it. That said, there is a better way to handle this.

Instead of making a random forum post that will eventually get buried, you can contact admin at team@fantasyfeeder.com. Please include any relevant screenshots.

1 year

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Form post save error

I'm unsure if it's just me, but there's a recurring error message when I make a forum post. It looks a lot like the error message several users got when trying to interact with photos the other week.

This only happens when I post. The post goes through, but I still get the error message. I have to go back a few pages to see the site again.

Update. When I posted this, it went through with no issues. It seems only to happen when I hit the reply button or make an edit.

1 year

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Judged very harshly

FatFalcon:3. This website used to have a lot of gay guys who were into Feederism. But they went to Grommr and Feabie. I hardly ever found my Mr Right in this community. Another thing to add is this website used to have an LGBT forum.

So yes a profile is meaningless if you can’t find your SO.

I am thankful that I found Bigger City for us gay men who are under appreciated.

This wasn't here when I started typing my response.

I'm glad you've found a space with like-minded people. I'm sorry to hear that FF doesn't feel as gay-friendly as it used to be to you.

That said, I want to point out something important.

Fantasy Feeder is not a dating site. It's a kink site. While you can find romantic partners on here, it isn't the sole focus of the site. There are a lot of people (including gay men) who are here for the kink community. Some either have a partner or are happy being single. Some are only here to find a playmate to be kinky with.

Since there are so many reasons you can be on FF outside of finding "The One, " many people put in their bios what they do and do not want. This is helpful to you, a gay man looking for Mr. Right, because it helps you weed through things. Imagine you hit up a cute guy only to find he's straight, married, too far away, or has a kink you very much do not like. If it's in his profile, you could have avoided wasting time by never contacting him. Or, imagine you find someone you click with because you read their profile and it's nothing but green lights.

To be honest, I'm struggling to come up with a reason not to read a profile.

1 year

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Judged very harshly

FatFalcon:
Ignore the haters. If they are screaming to look at their profile then ignore them. You shouldn’t be hated because someone else’s opinion. Just ignore their hate.

I disagree. A lot of us put things in our profiles for specific reasons. For example, my profile explicitly states that I am in a relationship and do not want a side piece. I had to put it in there because so many people kept messaging me, knowing full well that I was taken and wanted me to cheat on my partner with them.

Since I've put that in my profile, the number of creeps messaging me has drastically decreased. But I still get messages from time to time from people trying to get with me.

They really shouldn't do that. That is a warning for their wellbeing. Failure to heed this warning means you consent to be my chew toy.

Other people put things in their bios for a wide variety of reasons. They detail what they're looking for, what they are into, and (most importantly) what they are not into. Bios give important information about who a user is as a person and what their boundaries are. And if you can't do something as simple as checking their profile, you get what you get.

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Judged very harshly

Bigs1996:
I’m probably going to get a lot of hate for this post. But everyone I talk to seems to slowly hate me. Been getting a lot of hate being accused of I don’t read people’s profiles, nor do I care about the other person I’m talking to. Been here for awhile, and I’ve been trying to stay positive. But I think I should just not talk anyone.

Obviously there’s something wrong with me if this keeps on happening…

I’m not mad by the way, I’m just sad that I can’t have experiences and relationships in this fetish.

A couple of questions:

1. Do you read profiles? If not, then why?

2. Has anyone mentioned why they feel you do not care about this?

1 year

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Buffet binge

FatCat300:
Has anyone ever been to an all you can eat place for pretty much all day or have gone for multiple days or even weeks. It has always been a fantasy of mine to eat at a buffet every day for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. And maybe meals in-between, in the hopes of getting fatter with each time I go.

It's been a reoccurring fantasy for my partner and me to do an all-day stuffing in a buffet. But, realistically, I am not sure we'd ever do that. Sure, doing a public stuffing in a buffet is definitely something we want to do. But, realistically, we probably wouldn't stay the entire time there. It would get boring after a while, and we wouldn't be able to do everything we normally do during stuffings at home. So it would be in foreplay territory.

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Any story ideas?

Letters And Numbers:
So it looks like you’ve got some college gain/workplace gain stories, and some sci fi. Is that what you like to write or are you trying to branch out?

TheBellyAppreciator:
that's what i mainly like to write, so any suggestions there would be great! but i'm open to hearing more suggestions as well[/quote]

Considering the type of things you write, I'm shocked there are no stories about culinary school.

1 year

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What is it about seeing a body growing large and soft?

Gastonitza:
There is no doubt about it in my mind, there is nothing as thrilling, fulfilling and arousing as witnessing fat being deposited on someone's body, including your own. From subtle changes to unmistakable ballooning. I have been much bigger before, and through various life events, have lost the weight. Coming up to the festive and indulgent season again, I am already gaining weight again, and although everything around us is shouting, stop! The allure of seeing that first little bulge or roll, or the slow but sure tightening of clothing, is intoxicating. We all know about the health implications well enough, but still we deliberately eat to gain body fat. I think I have always been this way, but in later life, with metabolic changes and more sedentary lives, the inevitable fattening happens with relative ease.

What was it for you? That thing that sparked your obsession to get fat or to fatten another? When did you know it, and is it still as exciting now as it was then?

Munchies:
I've always loved fat. It's soft, warm, mesmerizingly jiggly, and makes you sturdier.

I love it rough and I love to cuddle. And food is a love language to me. A big fat guy that likes loves to eat and can keep up with me just makes sense.

Gastonitza:
Wobbling, jiggling, shimmering... The swish and sway of fat when a large person moves, is hard not to stare it. I have been busted many times, letting my gaze linger just a little bit too long, when looking on in awe at a beautifully big person walks past or sits nearby in a restaurant. I love the way fat forms rolls and can't be concealed by clothing. It just seems so crazy to feel so attracted to fat and fatness, but it must be something to do with bounty, being plentiful, abundant. Being thick and substantial. There is nothing attractive about a stick insect!

I wouldn't say being thin is unattractive. While I prefer big guys, I've seen many thin ones that I wouldn't mind tapping. Plus, I've been thin before (I'm athletically thick now), and I've always been able to get it.

I've never had an issue with staring. If I saw a cute fat, I'd chat him up. Of course, that comes with it's own issues. A lot of fat guys have low self-esteem. So they get confused when an attractive woman comes onto them. It's kinda heartbreaking, honestly.

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Question for those in relationships

Evcole74:
Whether you’re a feeder/feedee, did you find someone who was already into this? Or had you introduced someone into the fetish?
I’m trying to gauge whether I should commit to one or the other 😅

Feeder here. I've had some dedicated feedees in the past in addition to regular playmates. I've always approached things without any expectation for more. About two years ago, I was in chat looking for some fun. I got a message from this nice dude that had similar kinks, so we had an online stuffing session.

Things went so well that he hit me up the next day. We got to talking about feedism and life, and had a great time. So great that we started talking every single day. Shortly after, he became my feedee.

The plan was just to have some fun, but when you talk every single day, you end up focusing on more than just kinks. And the more we talked, the more we realized how well we clicked. After a few months, we went from just playmates to friends and then to partners.

We'll always be kinksters, but our relationship with kink evolved overtime. It went from being the focus to more like a seasoning. This isn't a bad thing because our relationship would have been short-lived if it didn't.

This past January, my partner said to me he wanted to stop gaining and focus on being healthy. If kink was still the focus of our relationship, things wouldn't have lasted long. But since we love and respect each other so much, it wasn't a big deal.

We found ways to indulge in our kinks, but at this point we are more like your average couple. We even enjoy vanilla stuff because sometimes we are too attracted to each other to focus on kinks.

If you want to have a relationship with a feedist, more power to you. It's great being with someone you're sexually compatible with. However, if you want to make things last, remember you're partners first and kinksters second.

1 year

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