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Feedist flags variations

I guess I was thinking more about flag _shirts_. Individuals might want to be more specific about their preferences. I don't have an example of one of the more specific-pattern shirts but this'll give you the idea:

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Feedist flags variations

JN_TumLover56:
Are those the official pride flags relating to this community?? This seems new to me.

Like I said, I'm just spitballing. If anyone has better ideas, feel free to post them.

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New feederism article - advice needed

Very nice, just a few notes:

1. I don't think you should say feedism is "addictive". It can be, but it doesn't have to be and it's probably better if it isn't.

2. Maybe I missed it, but you should mention that part of the fun of feedism is the ability to eat all you want without guilt. Once you decide to get fat (or fatter), there is no shame in having that extra doughnut or whatever. In fact, you may even feel a responsibility to eat it.

3. Another part of the fun is the increase in capacity as you get bigger. If eating a lot is fun, eating more than a lot will be even more fun.

4. And of course, if a feedee can find a feeder--as can happen on fantasy feeder--that also ramps up the fun. If you have a feeder, overeating and gaining are not merely guilt-free but become acts of generosity.

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Feedist flags variations

Just spitballing here. These patterns could be used for flags or clothing:

fantasyfeeder.com/pics/photo

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Explaining away rapid weight gain to friends and family

J8o8h8n:
I was wondering what people's thoughts were when it comes to explaining away weight gain to friends and family when they ask and comment on it? Particularly if it's fairly rapid gaining.

Obviously you don't need to tell them that you're gaining intentionally, but you rapid gaining for people who aren't into feederism is typically tied to lots of negative underlying issues like depression, etc. Wonder if anyone had any ideas on how to reassure friends and family you are doing/feeling great while gaining a significant amount of weight fairly quickly and put their minds at ease? (Without telling them it's cause you are actively trying to become a fatty).

MartinChap:
It's definitely pretty scary! I think Dr. Feeder advised that you should just "shrug and say you like to eat."

Basically! Here's some more detailed advice I gave someone once:

Dear Dr. Feeder,
My name is Amanda. Last year I began university, and because of this had to move away from home onto campus. One thing I had promised myself to do when I moved out of home was to gain weight. Since moving onto Campus I have just let myself go completely, and as a result gained 50lbs. However, this summer I will be visiting my mother back home whom is very into healthy eating, and so forth. Let me say right now that I am not loosing any weight whatsoever for her, nor do I intend to stop. But, I do not know what to say to her to avoid her from being too upset.
What can I say to prevent her from being too angry?--Amanda, April 2, 2009

Dear Amanda,
You may not be able to keep her from being angry. Settle for keeping her from nagging you to death. Try:

1. If she gets angry, DON'T get angry yourself.
2. If she asks why you gained, say it's because you like to eat and don't mind the extra weight.
3. If she asks you why you don't diet, say you've tried diets and have found you're happier eating what you want.
4. If she makes a comment about your weight that is not in the form of a question, don't respond.
5. If she says something mean, say "Now you're just being mean."

And remember the three NEVERs:

NEVER apologize for your gain;
NEVER apologize for your size;
NEVER apologize for your appetite.

If she tries to get you to eat healthy food (fruit & vegetables, etc.) go ahead and eat it. It will make her feel better. You can still eat your favorite goodies as well.
If she won't shut up about it, say 'look, I know you're just saying all this because you love me and you want what's best for me, and I appreciate that, but it's my decision and you need to respect that.'
Let me know how it goes!--Dr. Feeder

Dear Dr. Feeder,
Sorry for the long reply period, I only flew in a couple of days ago. As you can imagine, it wasn't great at all. But surprisingly I didn't feel down about it whatsoever! When I first gave my mother a hug, she put her hand on my stomach and patted and squeezed it, constantly glancing down at it. It was horribly awkward. For some reason I expected that would be it. Later that night she gave me a brief "discussion" about my weight and asked me if anything was wrong and so forth. I explained to her exactly what you suggested, that I was happy the way I was and didn't feel the need to diet. Amazingly though, that was it!
Thankfully, she hasn't said anything else yet about my weight which I'm very pleased with. Thank-you so much for your help - the food here is quite healthy, so for that reason I'm looking forward to returning home where I can eat what I like.

Again, thank-you so much for the wonderful advice,--Amanda, May 4, 2009

Dear Amanda,
You're welcome, I'm glad it worked out.--Dr. Feeder

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Training yourself to permanently overeat/binge eat

J8o8h8n:
I was wondering if anyone had any advice for training your body to overeat to the point where you no longer have to actively think about it and your body just 'autopilots' to eating thousands of calories more than you need in a day.

I was also wondering if there's a point where it no longer gets uncomfortable stuffing yourself with that amount of food. Obviously you will probably be uncomfortable if you're always pushing your body to its limits, but is there a point where you'll be eating thousands of excess calories on the regular and it won't feel uncomfortable because you've expanded your capacity to the point where eating enough to constantly grow is your new normal?

For anyone who's done this, how long does it take for this habit to become the new normal?

BigBallBellyGirl:
I can tell you it absolutely is possible to hit a stage where you need 15,000 or 20,000 calories a day to even feel full. I can also say it comes with consequences you have to be ready for. That's not what you asked though, so I'll share my experience.

I've been fat my whole life and have only ever tried to lose weight once. I dropped from 370ish to about 190, and it was neither easy nor fun. I think I probably do have a slow metabolism as well, because my body didn't seem to want to maintain 190, even though at the time, I was physically active and pretty strict with my diet. When I acknowledged I was unhappy, I first started eating whatever I wanted. Having been accustomed previously to being a big eater, I fell back in the groove pretty quickly, and I didn't really find it hard to hit 4,000 or 5,000 calories a day. I'm also a stuffer, and initially, the average stuffing would be 10,000 calories in a sitting to begin with, and then kept increasing. I found, the bigger my stuffings, the more my regular daily appetite and capacity grew. During peak gaining periods, I've put on 10-12 pounds a week. That required monster stuffings, in addition to all day grazing. I'll also add, eating like that is very expensive. My fiance and I have good incomes, but we're not rich, and we've had weeks where I cut out other personal expenses because the grocery bill was between $800 and $1,200. We agreed on the expense though. I guess we considered it an investment in our lives just like anything else, because we were both enjoying what we were doing.

In any case, if I had any pointers, it would be increasingly large stuffings and staying constantly full, topping off anytime the fullness alleviates. If stuffings aren't your thing, eating something every hour, like a 500 calorie snack is effective too.

How often were the stuffings?

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You know you're fat when...

People have given up trying to get you to lose weight.

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How would this experiment go?

AskDrFeeder:
How about this feedist flag shirt? (From a story written by me, illustrated by CyrelleX, and posted on DeviantArt):

GrowingLoveHandles:
I’m imagining this flag on everything from trucker’s caps to bikinis to barbecue aprons.

Sounds like a business to me! Go for it. If people were afraid to wear them they could just say they liked the colors and didn't know what it meant.

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