LoraDayton:
He's inconsistent because he's married, insecure, and fatphobic. His own behavior is right there in front of you. It doesn't matter if you or anyone else you know is the butt of the fat joke; they are by definition at the expense of all fat people, and you are one of them so it is also indirectly at your expense. He chooses to devalue people like you publicly for all the same reasons anyone (including and ESPECIALLY many fat fetishists) is fatphobic. Many people who fetishize and/or are attracted to fat bodies are angry about it and so you will see behavior like this.
It has nothing to do with you.
I've had two very distinct situations in my life that reflect what you're experiencing here and I can't stress it enough: he's unavailable and if that changes, it's not going to be because of you trying to do the mental and emotional labor for him.
You do not need to prove your worth to others who choose to openly devalue you. Maybe he really does like you! Maybe he doesn't and he's just confused and frustrated. Him being married makes it even worse and harder on everyone. No one gets out of those situations unscathed. No one!
But facts are facts and it's not your job to read his weak, stale tea leaves.
Thanks, but I am not interested in him: he lives abroad and is married. I was just curious about his attitude. Besides his jokes were really mild. I think it's more a case of someone not understanding that he is being a bit shallow and inappropriate. And yes, I know he likes me and even if he didnt, I dont have to prove anything to anyone. I was just curious. I am not in love or anything
2 years
There is this guy I am in touch with on fb, who is just gorgeous. And he seems to like me too: he always likes my pix and sometimes we even sext, although it's more about exchanging flirty messages. However, when commenting fb posts on random groups, he will crack the occasional fat joke, not about me or at anyone else 's expenses, just in general. Ofc, he is married to a really thin girl, but I dont resent him for that. People may fall in love for different reasons and anyway he lives abroad. I am just wondering what could motivate a guy to act with such a lack of consistency. Mind you, my pix are recent and unfiltered because I want people to see the real ME, so he certainly noticed I am a BBW. How can you like some characteristics and at the same time make fun of them? I have slight preference for short guys, but I am nit tempted to make fun of them
2 years
Coming to Lisbon this weekend. Does anyone want to meet?
2 years
Guestoflegend:
Your health is important (if you care about that).
The fetish is just that, it also leaks into fantasy elements that are unwise or unrealistic.
If the urge is always going to be there, indulge it while you are young still.
Once you are older it all comes at great risk and can come back to bite you.
Also keep in mind that if it's strictly a sexual thing, your libido may wane as you get older and you won't necessarily enjoy it the way you do now. Even if you're stuck with a heavier body.
Thanks. Just this.
2 years
I prefer real food... so delicious
3 years
I prefer real food... so delicious
3 years
HappyBigBelly:
We’re hiding in plain sight on here :-)
Not hiding
3 years
Satana:
I think it creates a strong intimacy. When someone trusts you for shaming them and respect their limits. It's very intimate so very hot...
The subversion too. We know fat-shaming people is wrong, I would never do that IRL without consent. I yell at people who fat-shame actually.
So it feels really good to have that freedom here... (or with a consenting partner)
Also there is something very cute about a fat guy blushing with embarrassement ^_^ It just drives me crazy.
What a pity you are not bi, I love the French language and I dream about a 3sum with a guy and a girl based on size contrast
3 years
Satana:
I think it creates a strong intimacy. When someone trusts you for shaming them and respect their limits. It's very intimate so very hot...
The subversion too. We know fat-shaming people is wrong, I would never do that IRL without consent. I yell at people who fat-shame actually.
So it feels really good to have that freedom here... (or with a consenting partner)
Also there is something very cute about a fat guy blushing with embarrassement ^_^ It just drives me crazy.
What a pity you are not bi, I love the French language and I dream about a 3sum with a guy and a girl based on size contrast
3 years
