It might help if you think in terms of small, interim goals. 5-10 lbs here and there.

You might also not want to think in terms of a final goal, because either it's so far away that it seems demotivating as you said, or you do reach it only to find it's not enough. Having a major goal is fun to think about, but I don't think you should be overly focused on it, or when you might reach it.

Using small goals like I said, you will get there eventually, if you really want to.

I've been waiting for this thread to die, and not because the OP is no longer here. This kind of topic, or a close variation, does comes up from time to time, and it's the same, tired old saw, every time. I also have no doubt there are some readers who have so far not said anything, but might be thinking it.

It's nearly always the personality and vibe that's off-putting, damn near every single time. Did you come on far too heavy (pun not intended) or strong? Do you ever talk about anything besides feederism/fat chat/how much you gained/lost/etc.? Maybe you're not coming off as all that interesting, or you reek of desperate anger and your attitude sucks.

Speaking of attitudes that suck, to really help to drive this point home, let's flip the script and reverse places. Imagine some woman out there, who says things like "no one is into fat chicks" or "all men are scum/bad/no good/whatever." It's even very possible you might look at her and think "she's kind of cute and easy on the eyes." But know what else you're going to think? "What a rotten attitude! She's a hot mess that I don't want to have anything to do with!"

It gets even worse if you start talking to people who agree, and before you know it, you've formed your own "He-man Women Hater's" club or a "Feminazi All Men Are Trash" club, and now you're trapped into this deafeningly loud echo chamber of negative reinforcement.

This doesn't apply to just forming relationships either, romantic or not. Imagine if someone was selling a car. If the car salesmen starts off the sales pitch by groveling at your feet, saying things like "I've been trying to sell this car for 9 months and I knocked 75% off the sale price!," does that make you want to buy the car more, or less? Pretty sure most folks are going to be turned off and wonder what's so seriously wrong with the car for a few seconds, until then trying to get away from the salesman as fast as possible. But then on occasion, you might get a customer who will pick up on the desperation, then exploit it to negotiate the price even lower.

Similarly, this desperate anger would actually leave you vulnerable to someone very bad who might find some way to exploit you.

Another thing to remember - you won't be everyone's type, but that's okay. Lot of other people out there aren't your type either. Preferred age range alone probably eliminates 90% of the population from consideration.

Yet another thing to consider is this. I do concede there's a serious problem with some users, usually male, flooding female users with silly messages that consist of little more than "how fat do you want to get?" or "show boobs." I wish they'd stop doing that, but that's a bit much to hope for.

Maybe actually be interesting and remember you're talking to an actual person. Suppose you actually did get into a relationship? It's not gonna be about the kink at least 95%+ of the time. Also, gaining has to stop at some point.. you probably don't want the relationship to stop. So what's going to hold it together?

Finally, if anything, the experience I've had is that I actually get more attention from the ladies after weight gain, not less.

CPD - Calories Per Dollar.

If a cookie has 150 calories and costs $3 from somewhere, the math is 150 / $3 -> 50 / $1, or 50 CPD. Most would consider this very expensive.

Imagine a box of cheese sandwich crackers, that contains 16 packages. Each package is considered a serving, 200 calories each. That means the entire package supposedly has 3,200 calories, because 16 * 200 = 3,200. Then suppose the package costs $6. 3,200 / $6 -> ~533.33 / $1, or ~533 CPD.

I hope this helps.

I appreciate the clarification and you're right, you did mention that about pasta and rice. And I did say I expected you understood this clearly.

I just wanted to point out the other side of things because I never know who might be reading these posts.

And granulated, refined white sugar is apparently "2,161 CPD" at least from my local Wal-Mart, which assumes the 4lb size which for whatever reason, offers the cheapest cents/oz. ratio.

So what?

I.. gawd, where the hell do I even begin with this one?

I get it.. some items have experienced considerable sticker shock in recent years. Some folks might not have gotten a raise to match the inflation, and even if you did, there might be other expenses that went up faster. There does seem to be more who seemed squeezed than before.

I'm assuming the OP understands this clearly, but even if he does, my biggest fear is someone reading this thread is going to take this seriously in the wrong way, and attempt to prioritize CPD above all else.

That's absolutely the wrong way to look at it.

I mean okay, suppose you do eat nothing but white rice, or even white refined sugar? Health concerns and other problems aside (more on that later), you would get tired and bored of that. You would go insane, probably.

And yes, that would cause all sort of health problems. If you only have simple carbs without any fat or protein, I don't even want to theorize what would happen, but it's not going to be good.

Having nothing but sugar would pretty much guarantee diabetes, and I once heard of someone who's poor and lacks healthcare coverage, so to pay for $500/mo. on the insulin she needs, she forgoes rent and lives in her car. High fructose corn syrup, the shit that's used to sweeten soda in the U.S., causes sugar crashes that are at least 3-4x as bad, and in those large quantities would mean diabetes too. I still remember this 19 year old user who drank a 2 liter every day, and she was told she'd get diabetes if she kept that up. The only way she knew about it was she'd regularly get blood work tests done, as part of a M2F sex change transition program. That this almost happened to someone, especially so young, that's scary.

Also, such a diet will mean malnutrition, which is NOT a pretty sight or experience. Scurvy is only the tip of the iceberg.

I don't even want to theorize what kind of healthcare costs that might result in. Good grief. Even if you live in a country with free or virtually free universal healthcare coverage, you will still face costs.

Lost income from work, lost income from the time period to find work again, assuming you even can work anymore. How much is that going to cost you?

Poor quality of life because of severe malnutrition from a lack of vitamins, that you can't really quantify but is still extremely serious.

I haven't even touched upon digestion and digestion problems.

Not all calories are exactly the same, either. Sure, oil is one of the most calorie dense substances out there, but if you try to chug a bottle of that, it'll just run right through you, and you probably wouldn't even absorb most of it, most likely. Same thing could also happen if you have too much dairy fat at once. Different types of food can also take different amounts of energy to digest, too.

Go ahead and have those vegetables on burgers and pizza, drink fruit juice or if you do have soda, get the kind that uses real sugar. Junk food is often yummy of course, but try not to have too much of the really ultra-processed stuff. That's usually the stuff that comes in boxes and isn't refrigerated.

Certain canned good are okay, though a lot of them can have a lot of sodium that you might want to watch out for. While you do need sodium in your diet, odds are if you're a gainer you get more than enough of it.

Most importantly, if you can, try to have fun and just try to eat more. Do keep nutrition in mind, try to be at least somewhat balanced, and for the love of everything good, don't prioritize CPD to the exclusion of everything else. You will seriously regret it if you do.

I think this is a personal's ad? Moving it to the right board.

Fortunately, not me. That being the case for most jobs. I'm assuming you're asking about hard, explicit limits where actual numbers and measurements are used as a limit.

I suppose there might be an implicit limit in the sense of a sheer inability to perform the essential functions of the job. But, this number will vary from person and will also be very large. For most jobs, I doubt that'd be a problem unless you're in the top 0.5-1% "most heavy," and at that point you might be having problems in your personal life. At that point I'm talking well over 500-550, even 600+.

That said, there are a small number of jobs that could have such a limit, or where being beyond such a limit could cause hassle, and I'll list some examples.

One of the latest trends I've heard is of long haul truck drivers (company drivers) who have a neck circumference above a certain number, perhaps 18" or 18.5" being forced to use CPAP machines out of concerns over sleep apnea. Thing is, unless you really have sleep apnea it not only doesn't help but just causes a whole lot of hassles and problems. I've been told I snore, and I'm nowhere as large as that. Big deal. Anyway, this new requirement only increased the rate of churn for a job that already experiences extremely high rates of churn (the average new driver doesn't last beyond the first year). Why this is, is beyond the scope of this post.

I suppose anything which might require the wearing of a safety harness, perhaps because of working from great heights. An example of this would be radio tower technician, since someone has to be able to go up there to repair and replace the equipment up top. For a long time, those safety harnesses topped out at 250 lbs, which also had to include the weight of tools and replacement parts. Although I would expect safety harnesses with higher capacities have been introduced.

Anything that requires the use of an extension ladder. Last I saw, it's still possible to buy models that are only rated for 250 lbs, although models that support 400 lbs are far more common. Now that said, in the professional trades world, they're moving more towards bucket trucks and other lifts with railings, as those are considerably safer than ladders. Those lifts presumably have a much higher weight capacity.

Perhaps obviously, anything that involves modeling and acting, which are also the only occupations in the U.S. that are exempt from anti-racial discrimination laws, and are part of an extremely short list of exemptions from anti-age discrimination laws.

That said, I would be be interested to see what other jobs, if any might have explicit weight limits like this. I'm not really aware of very many. In other thread, I pointed out there was a 700+ lb owner of a tow truck business, and he was apparently able to perform those tasks just fine, despite the physical nature of the job.

Yeah, and that PM I just received, also generated an e-mail like it was supposed to.

So, problem solved, I guess?

I have no idea what happened this morning but if it doesn't repeat itself, I'm not gonna worry about it.

I just sent one.

Interestingly, the e-mail I get if there's a post right after I make a thread or reply, that seems to still be working the same as before.

I haven't seen anyone else report this, and maybe this is a new problem, perhaps introduced at about the same time the notifications area changed (which is very recent) ?

Anyway, I apparently did NOT get an e-mail telling me someone sent a PM to me, even though I did get one a few hours earlier. This is in spite of having the account settings set to send those e-mails to me.

So, this appears to be a new bug. I did check the Junk directory to make sure it wasn't that.

To be clear, I'm talking about PMs on the web site and not within the chat.