Munchies:
From where I sit, this sounds extremely toxic and controlling of him. Again, taking the fetish aspect out of it, it sounds like he's being extremely fatphobic. He's got some personal maturing to do, and I don't think you can help him with that.
Unfortunately, it seems you will have to make a choice. Will you lose weight to keep your boyfriend happy? Or will you keep gaining even if that means breaking up?
I all honesty I'm a bit surprised with all this. he's never been like this before, and when I first told him about my fetish he said he was cool with it, because he likes me for me... But clearly somethings changed.
like i don't want to loose weight, I'm the happiest I've ever been since deciding to gain and let go. I've been in this boat before with the possibility of a break up, this being my 3rd rodeo... but this time o thought it would be different than the other 2. I guess I'm just doomed for failed relationship's.... I'm gonna give him some time to think. kinda ended on a sour note earlier with me hanging up.
But your right, I'll need to make a choice soon
2 years
Morbidly A Beast:
Maybe he’s concerned or thinks you’ve gained to much already? Sorry you’re being put through this hopefully it will resolve in your favor in the end
I think maybe that's a factor to it, and thank you 😌
2 years
Munchies:
What would he do if you got fat but didn't have a fat fetish?
I never understood people that get bent out of shape over their partner's size. So long as you are healthy and it's not causing any harm, it's dumb for him to be upset about it. This goes for weight loss and weight gain.
My question is, why does he have a problem with your size?
I don't get it either, imo you should love someone for what they are on the inside, not the out
And i spoke with him about it earlier. I didn't go well, ended up becoming a argument. He told me he doesn't know how to feel with the prospect of just watching me continue to get fatter and fatter, And doesn't know if he's finding me physically attractive atm or in the future, depending on who knows how Fat I get. It kinda hurt hearing him say that tbh. He said to me he doesn't just wanna sit there and watch me balloon, and how he misses the old me (Health and fitness obsessed me)
2 years
Dutch Feeder:
Well, have you thought that it's possible that his issue might not even be with your kink, but it's a way for him to vocalize something else that's been bothering him?
Perhaps, I'll try again with him. But i do feel its most likely my weight thats the issue
2 years
Dutch Feeder:
Its possible they're giving him a hard time about it, but also possible that they don't care. Do any of them have bigger girlfriends?
I would recommend just talking to your guy to find out what's up. Either he might not have realized how 'fat' fat is to you or something else is going on.
2 of them do yeah, But i don't really know them that well tbh
I have tried speaking to him about it, But it didn't really go anywhere
2 years
Dutch Feeder:
Have you considered that it might not be coming from him but his friends or family?
I don't think his family, as his mother is a sonewhat fat women
His friend's though? I don't know
2 years
To put a long story short
My current boyfriend has began to show his distaste towards my weight gaining. He knows I'm into this and at first said he didn't care if I gained.
But that's changed now. He's become more vocal about it and asking if I'm going to be stopping now after passing 200 pounds. With him seemingly having a distaste towards my gained weight now
I guess I'm just seeing if any one's been through something similar and some advice maybe
2 years
For me its skirts/dresses maybe
2 years
Not vaccinations causing autism beliefs 😫
2 years
I was in a similar boat to yourself. I was a FA from my teenage years
For me, I put on about on 10 pounds unintentionally during the covid season. And I didn't really mind it
I had always had the idea of being a feeder, and wanting to fatten someone up. But then i stopped and thought about how I liked this new 10 pounds I had gained, and what it would be like to gain even more?
So i took up gaining, and enjoyed it greatly so far! I'd say i took it easy at first but then more recently pushing myself more, Going from my fittest at 110 to now 196, and aming for 200 this summer
I'd say gain that 15 pounds and see how you feel, If you like it? simply gain even more! Gaining is a experience, and I'm sure you'll love it
2 years
