Supersizeher27:
I'm currently in a really amazing relationship. It taught me a lot about myself. However, one thing it taught me is that what I once thought was a slight feedism/fat kink actually seems to be a full-blown fetish that I can't shake. We've talked at length about it for a very long time and they tried gaining for a bit, but long story short, they really don't like it and do not want to gain more, which I completely understand and respect. This has left me in an interesting position. I love them so much and they are so perfect for me in every other way, but I've realized that I can barely engage with them sexually without having fantasies that result in me desperately wanting them to be fat (they are not) or gain weight. I am unsure what to do, this fetish not being satisfied is genuinely causing me a good amount of distress and I'm obviously not going push them to do something they don't want to do.

So, I'm left with a horrible choice. Do I stay with them? I can't imagine not being with them, but having to deal with this strange desperation for... fatness is very draining. I have talked about this so much with them (they have been amazingly patient and I am so grateful and feel so bad), and we are both at our wits end. I have never been with someone who is not skinny before, which makes it even harder because I don't really know what the alternative really is outside of fantasy. I want to know if anyone else here has had similar experiences, and for anyone (especially feeders) who have experience with actual feedism relationships, what would you do, and is being in such a relationship as good as my fantasies tell me? Thanks.

Also, one more thing, is it normal to feel the kind of distress I am feeling for not being able to engage with this fetish? I am worried that maybe it is not, and other people would not be this affected by it and so perhaps there is a deeper problem.

Letters And Numbers:
Potentially unpopular view incoming:

I don’t know (or want to know) what your porn habits are, but if you’re spending a lot of your time on sites that cater to any fetish or your algorithm on TikTok is constantly feeding you fetish content that hits your dopamine receptors in exactly the right place, youre probably getting a pretty slanted view of the world. I’m not an expert, but this community is pretty tiny. There just aren’t that many people who are into it. It’s niche. So if you really think the grass is greener, look at some of the stories of how hard it is for other users to find partners who share the kink. It sounds like you have a partner you love and are compatible with. That’s hard to find too. But you already found them. The secret ingredient might be unplugging from what’s frying your dopamine receptors. By all means, use this website responsibly, but if you think it’s a negative influence in your life — unplug, and that goes for a bunch of other sites, too. I know it’s hard when the app that shows you songs and funny cat videos will also show you individualized fetish content. We’re probably doomed as a species.

We’ve had a few of these threads lately and I wonder if it has to do with the change in seasons and everyone being indoors more.

Supersizeher27:
I'm currently in a really amazing relationship. It taught me a lot about myself. However, one thing it taught me is that what I once thought was a slight feedism/fat kink actually seems to be a full-blown fetish that I can't shake. We've talked at length about it for a very long time and they tried gaining for a bit, but long story short, they really don't like it and do not want to gain more, which I completely understand and respect. This has left me in an interesting position. I love them so much and they are so perfect for me in every other way, but I've realized that I can barely engage with them sexually without having fantasies that result in me desperately wanting them to be fat (they are not) or gain weight. I am unsure what to do, this fetish not being satisfied is genuinely causing me a good amount of distress and I'm obviously not going push them to do something they don't want to do.

So, I'm left with a horrible choice. Do I stay with them? I can't imagine not being with them, but having to deal with this strange desperation for... fatness is very draining. I have talked about this so much with them (they have been amazingly patient and I am so grateful and feel so bad), and we are both at our wits end. I have never been with someone who is not skinny before, which makes it even harder because I don't really know what the alternative really is outside of fantasy. I want to know if anyone else here has had similar experiences, and for anyone (especially feeders) who have experience with actual feedism relationships, what would you do, and is being in such a relationship as good as my fantasies tell me? Thanks.

Also, one more thing, is it normal to feel the kind of distress I am feeling for not being able to engage with this fetish? I am worried that maybe it is not, and other people would not be this affected by it and so perhaps there is a deeper problem.

Edddde:
So many feedees want to be fed for free that they solicit messages mostly to males who get drawn into their false affection. Don't do it. I've had many who do that me. Often, they create a profile with no pictures and when they show interest by asking for PayPal, gift cards, etc. that's when I block them and report them. These people need to be banned from Fantasy Feeder. I have reported them and there is a message from the FF team in the General forum about solicitation on Fantasy Feeder.

NoMoYoYo:
My lifelong dream was to become a fat, flabby guy. A few months ago I reached my highest weight of 275lbs. But I had a big ball gut with little flab.

Since then, I've lost about 15lbs. I decided to eat better/healthier and walk some more. It seems like most of the fat I've lost is of the visceral type, leaving me more flabby.

But in a strange turn of fate, I'm not enjoying it as much as I'd hoped. I don't know if it's because I'm in the process of losing weight (don't know how far I'll go), or if I don't actually lile it.

I'm so confused.

Munchies:
Do you prefer the soft flabbiness? Or do you prefer the ball belly you had?

NoMoYoYo:
I've always wanted this body. I've gained and lost so many times over the years and never been able to achieve it. I think the difference is I haven't been below 245lbs in 2 years so the fat I've accumulated has distributed itself more, leading to more subcutaneous fat in my belly area which was hidden because the visceral fat was so dominant. Now that I'm eating healthier, the visceral fat is disappearing and I'm appearing flabby. I've never had this happen before. Previously while losing weight, I just tended to lose my ball gut and that was it. Yes, I had some loose skin, but this isn't that...at least not yet.


To answer your question, I don't know. I think I just discovered that I was a fat guy hidden behind a beer gut. I didn't realize it was the case until the big ball gut started to go away. I just didn't expect it so it's surpising to see.

Munchies:
That's fascinating to me. A fat guy behind the ball belly. Would you say that you placed most of your fat identity on your belly shape?

NoMoYoYo:
I wouldn't say that I've put my fat identity on my belly shape, but that ball belly shape has been my identity. Every time I am in a gaining phase, I wind up with a round ball belly. But it's not the belly I've wanted. And now I've accidentally unlocked the belly I did want. I started to eat better because I felt like it and added in some walking. And, naturally, I've lost some weight. I'm in a good groove, but discovering the squishier me that I've always wanted, has become somewhat a reality and now I don't know what to do. I didn't expect this result.

Mercuryeats:
I stopped gaining weight and seemed to be stagnant for a while, but today I saw stretch marks on my hips that were red!

Munchies:
Depends. What do you want to achieve here? There's a lot of different ways you can enjoy the site depending on your goals.

Arth98:
I don't have anything very specific. Meeting other people who are also into feederism, exploring this world, and so on. I think that, in itself, is a great goal.

LuvsChub04:
agree with munchies,explore the forums, the chat room is always fun at night..Most of the folks here are decent, and we dont kink shame.

NoMoYoYo:
My lifelong dream was to become a fat, flabby guy. A few months ago I reached my highest weight of 275lbs. But I had a big ball gut with little flab.

Since then, I've lost about 15lbs. I decided to eat better/healthier and walk some more. It seems like most of the fat I've lost is of the visceral type, leaving me more flabby.

But in a strange turn of fate, I'm not enjoying it as much as I'd hoped. I don't know if it's because I'm in the process of losing weight (don't know how far I'll go), or if I don't actually lile it.

I'm so confused.

Munchies:
Do you prefer the soft flabbiness? Or do you prefer the ball belly you had?

NoMoYoYo:
I've always wanted this body. I've gained and lost so many times over the years and never been able to achieve it. I think the difference is I haven't been below 245lbs in 2 years so the fat I've accumulated has distributed itself more, leading to more subcutaneous fat in my belly area which was hidden because the visceral fat was so dominant. Now that I'm eating healthier, the visceral fat is disappearing and I'm appearing flabby. I've never had this happen before. Previously while losing weight, I just tended to lose my ball gut and that was it. Yes, I had some loose skin, but this isn't that...at least not yet.


To answer your question, I don't know. I think I just discovered that I was a fat guy hidden behind a beer gut. I didn't realize it was the case until the big ball gut started to go away. I just didn't expect it so it's surpising to see.

NoMoYoYo:
My lifelong dream was to become a fat, flabby guy. A few months ago I reached my highest weight of 275lbs. But I had a big ball gut with little flab.

Since then, I've lost about 15lbs. I decided to eat better/healthier and walk some more. It seems like most of the fat I've lost is of the visceral type, leaving me more flabby.

But in a strange turn of fate, I'm not enjoying it as much as I'd hoped. I don't know if it's because I'm in the process of losing weight (don't know how far I'll go), or if I don't actually lile it.

I'm so confused.