Incel is a not a derogatory slur for women to use on men that they don’t like, or misogynists. In a kink space that understands queer or alt however you want frame it, sexuality, on an intimate level I find inappropriate.

Don’t get me wrong there are incels who hate women, but just calling bigots generally incels otherizes and removes agency from the bigot, as they are less than human — to large portions of people who use the slur.

In reality it just means someone who is involuntary celibate, which if you really consider it, there are a lot of. People aren’t having as much sex if you look at the data.

I’m sorry you experience bigotry and it goes on checked and you get the consequences of there actions.

I don’t use feabie because everyone takes themselves very seriously on there and the amount of people who use it as a place to air their grievances bothers me. Tumblr is pretty good!

Those sound delicious

hook up culture has kinda ruined that prospect for a lot of people who long for it.

I don’t understand how there’s dudes who are heavy with wives and or girlfriends who cheat, it shrimply seems like rage bait to me. Like how bro.

Merry belated Christmas everyone!

Id use dinner time around your family to get used to eating more then go hog wild when you’re out and about.

That said I didn’t really gain gain tell I was much older like 22 or so, when I had stable income and like my own space.

No one said conseratives can’t be lovers of fat it’s just that you aren’t going to be supporting HAES or dismantling systems of anti-fat bias.

I don’t think of it as an either or, it’s not you’re either gaining or losing. It’s more so varying degrees of intensity that come and go. I think we like to think of ourselves as these gainers or feedees and some people think of us as such, but the reality is it’s just like anything else sexual it comes and goes. It’s not like all the time we’re horny and want to have loads of sex (ok, maybe some people do) and this is what happens to all larger people as they get bigger, it become a I’m happy and content sometimes other times they wanna be 900 pounds or whatever.

I don’t think you’d find many conservative reactionary types giving HAES lectures or talking about systemic anti-fat biases, but I’m sure you could find a large number of overweight/obese people who just endure bigotry in docility to their “skinny moral betters” — “I might be fat but at least I know I am and don’t believe in HAES”

That said I dont think the vast majority really care about fat people outside of people who are just blatantly racist homophobic antisemitic anti-woman already, it’s more of a punchline.

And not that I’m a right winger or anything like that but the left is just as guilty of making fat people the butt of the joke as the right.

Nothing. You tell them nothing.

And if they press the issue just say my weight isn’t a topic I’m willing to discuss.

The claim is that being fat is genetic, and I disagree with the premise. It’s certainly the case that some people are genetically predisposed to store fat easier than others, and a number of genetic conditions that relate to fat storage this does not mean being fat is genetic. It’s a yes and.

I said height(and other things are genetic) is 50% genetic, malnourished kids are shorter than the rest of their stock.

Being fat is 100% a food relation thing and to suggest anything other than that is absurd and ridiculous. Most fat people who struggle with their weight are not honest with how many calories they eat in a day.

And I can only say this because I believe all fat people should feel comfortable in their bodies. Regardless if they share this kink or not.