But bad decency man.

I well hatredness the bad decency.

Doesn't really count as feeding, but in Episode 2 of the new series (4) of Homeland, Peter Quinn (played by Rupert Friend) has an epic scene where he has sex with a fat girl and then in the morning they go for breakfast... where he appears to be mainly watching her eat.

Pleasingly, the girl in question (played by Emily Walker) is not the usual TV version of fat, ie the ever-so-slightly-chubby-Lena-Dunham-style "fat" girl.

Enjoyed that part of the episode very much

You can see a clip here (although we don't get as far as breakfast!): thedailybanter.com/2014/10/homeland-makes-really-fat-really-sexy/

Episode 2 has only just aired tonight in the UK and I see from imdb that she's due to appear in a subsequent episode too. Here's hoping he turns out to be an FA and it wasn't just a random thing!

you say:


Then a few posts later you say:



That's still objectifying her.



And your reply was:


I think you're missing the point if the main issue you have with that statement is quibbling about the definition of "co-worker".

You also say:


There's a simple solution: Don't post stuff that illustrates your selfish "but what I want is the most important thing" attitude. Even better, don't think that stuff either. What you're doing is deflecting blame and shirking responsibility for your own dickishness. You're blaming other posters for ridiculing you, rather than thinking, hmm, maybe they have a point, maybe I should change my behaviour?

This entire thread shows that you are unwilling to appreciate the actual point people are making. Why not examine some of your motives and actions a little deeper?

I'm actually flabbergasted to the point of assuming you are doing this on purpose to troll the forum.

I'm not a straight man (!) but that sounds to my ears like ingrained "backs against the wall boys"-style reluctance to see other men sexually for fear of.... whatever it is that repressed/unreconstructed hetero men are afraid of?!

However, I may be wrong (I hope I am), and if you're right, MrMan, it doesn't explain the popularity of "classic" heterosexual porn films in which there is usually some kind of stud-type guy (with or without bad hair) who is very well-endowed who is showing the lady "a good time"... Don't men enjoy seeing that because they imagine themselves in that role?

In (maybe) the same way, I like to imagine that a woman with a gorgeous curvaceous figure is me (especially if she is a bit bigger than me). So although I'm straight, appreciating other women is like a form of narcissism.

Similarly I've talked to lots of hetero men from here - especially those who have thoughts about gaining themselves - who do look at other men's pictures on here. Not necessarily using that man as an object of desire, but as someone who has a shape they aspire to, or who they just think rocks a big belly or something. (As an aside, I do find that the vast majority of male FAs and feeders I talk to also - in the end - turn out to have desires of some kind or another about gaining themselves. I come across this with monotonous regularity, haha. But that's another topic.) Some are brave/bold/secure/kind (delete as applicable?) enough to post encouraging comments on those other men's photos. But very few.

The male population massively outnumbers the female on here. Which is why I find it perplexing there isn't more male bonding and mutual support on the site. Take photo comments for instance. I leave lots of comments on other girls' photos because I think they look great, I can empathise, or because I think it's nice to give credit and encouragement where appropriate. I see other girls do this for their sistas too. I don't see as much of a spirit of camaraderie amongst the male population of the site. Especially given there are so many of them. Maybe men are (more often than women) afraid of looking "gay" if they comment appreciatively on a fellow guy's photo? I'm sure that's not true of many, I'm just hypothesising. Maybe men aren't as nurturing and empathetic therefore can't see the point of supporting each other with comments? Maybe men don't have those skills as they haven't needed to develop them given their historical dominance? Whatever. But upshot is: all the men should go and puts a friendly comment on another dude's photo today!

Oh, agreed! Especially in Secretary and Sex, Lies & Videotape. The man oozes slightly louche sexiness (which is the best kind - I can't be doing with "wholesome" ) .

Might do - can't resist a Hawaiian theme, haha! Hope they have drinks in coconuts!

Happy birthday Salt!! Hope you had an awesome one xxx

If only the sentiment were "Oh woe is me, I'm not good enough." Sadly it comes over mostly as "I'm awesome, I'm not the flawed one here - those who don't reply are rude and ungrateful." At no point do the whiners wonder whether they're not good enough. There's very little self-reflection and quite a lot of blaming others.

Otherwise, agree entirely, TheBlackWizards

Look, it's a numbers game. If there were 10 women for every man on this site (I assume the OP is talking about females he's messaged, but I could be wrong) you wouldn't care or notice if half of them didn't message back.

It's unfortunate for the OP that he feels disheartened but Loopytheone and Murphy and all the others who have given reasons why people might not reply are right.

Don't be the whingeing little kid. It comes across as self-absorbed. And it does sound "entitled" when you say people could at least give you the respect of acknowledging you. You are expecting a response from them to a message they didn't ask to receive. You've got to get over that attitude, shrug, consider your approach and tactics, evaluate whether or not it might be something you're doing rather than them being rude, and move on.

Give us an example of one of these messages that's not been responded to and maybe you might get some constructive help?